Throw ex-girlfriend's pictures away: yes or no?

I decided to do work for the weekend, and stay put. One of the things I'm doing is deep cleaning the house, and rearranging certain things.

I came across old pictures of my girlfriend of 3 years and our kitties. Many memories: our trips, our naughty pics, our daily lives, our meeting places, the home we shared for two years.

She was certainly the most important woman in my life.

The last time I saw her I decided I didn't want to talk to her much anymore. If any.

So what should I do?

 

Like, ohmygod, totally.

 

Ditch it. Keeping that stuff around is unhealthy and will not help your problems with clinging to personal space etc.

 

No sarcasm in this thread, please.

 

Clinging to personal space?

Please elaborate.

 

You referred to this woman as one of the most important in your life.

You also refer to the fact that you've conciously decided not to have much, if anything, to do with her.

Obviously there are both good and bad memories, but when somebody played that large a role in your life it's not good to look at pictures and letters and remember your loss. It is a very distinct reminder of what can go wrong. It makes you look at the next woman of similar quality in a similar light. You then avoid her going for the safer pick who will be easier to get rid of before things get complicated and close, thereby reducing your risk of reliving the loss you were reminded of with those old keep sakes.

 

Hard to say when you have so many memories tied to her besides JUST her,like the old life-will you want to relive that later on? Wonder if you have pics of the old house ,old trips?

I am usually a ditcher of old momentos...but now I am starting to miss those things.It would be nice to look back on it -show my hubby ,or my kid,the past me.
...but at the same time- I def wouldn't want to have pics taking up our living space,like framed-cared for and featured on our wall( I did know a guy who did that ICK)...and i can't imagine hubby would appriciate that.

The best solution I can think of.
Scan them,upload them on to the net- and trash them all...after you post them here,not leaving out the naughty ones

 

burn it...for real...a nice big fire

 

throw it awaaaayy

far far awaaaaay

 

I get rid of nearly ALL my old mementos....'cept for the real big ones. I burn poems and break mix cd's and tear up photos...

My best friend keeps EVERYTHING which I find weird...he has them all stored and doesn't leave them out but I still can't fathom it.

I like to move on as quickly as possible.

I think you should get rid of everything except the REALLY important things. And those really important things should find their way into a box at the back of your closet.

....hmmm. I should EMPHASIZE more often.

 

Ive got a photographic memory so it would be useless.

 

lol! Now who's naughty?

 

Thanks. I can see what you're saying, but at this point our break up has matured, I've learned my lessons.

It's not some nostalgia as much as a layer of experience that won't ever leave me completely.

I can ditch 'em, I cannot. So I'm not terribly attached either way. I'm just wondering.

 

I tend to keep it for a while, then throw them away. This one ex once bumped into pictures of some other ex when we were together. They were of the naughty kind too.

Not good.

 

I just recently threw some of mine out. I will admit I kept some pictures of me and my first love.....but he and I were friends forever so it's a little different.


Why not just throw them in an old shoe box and put them in the back of your closet until you can make your mind up....seems reasonable.

 

If they are positive memories, what's so wrong with keeping something that brings up good feelings every once in a while...
You may no longer be with that person but during the relationship I am sure you have either gained or learned something from the time you were together, and having something as simple as a picture of a positive time with that person that you had something with for three years isn't something that should be considered wrong or something that's bringing you down. People should keep things from times in their lives to help them remember those times.. Now, if the person was someone whom you hated or caused you pain and suffering, I am pretty sure you would have gotten rid of the picture long ago...
Having possessions from past times can be a good thing, not always something that's holding you back...

 

The memories are mixed. I don't regret our relationship, however.

There were great times, and terrible times.

I just think I'm trying to dissociate myself from her entirely now given the fact we can't get along.

Tree: it WAS in an old shoe box in the closet.

 

Well put it back until you are sure what to do with it. hahaha

 

I think I'ma throw like 3/4 of them away. LOL.

 

That's what I did with my pictures of Nathan.