Alright so heres the situation. My ex broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. I was thinking we might just get back together because we're supposed to get an apartment for the summer and fall semesters. Now last week she went off to a Incure, a undergrad research gig in mariland. over the weekend i went to the party and got wasted, slept with an old friend of mine. When my ex got back she asked if i had gotten any poon over the period she was gone, ME being stupid and thinking she deserved to know and facing down the barrel of a loaded question I told her thinking that its better to tell her and her get pissed then to lie about it and maybe have her find out later which would be even worse. The thing i cant understan is that we were NOT together when this all took place, and she acts as i we were together. I want to work things out but i havnt told her that i thought it best if i just told her than if i didnt. Was i right in telling her? what about the apartment? I'd like to get her back and thats looking harder and harder by they by. Just anything you can give me is welcome.
ok honisty was the right polocy but sleeping with your freind when u just broke upo 2 weekds ago and still had hopes to fix things was a mistake ofgcourse u should be honnest sabout it but also be honnest about it being a mistake the trust will be hard to rebuild but ya gotta show u want to fix things and make everythijng right why did u break up tho?
If you were supposed to get an apartment then she was probably hoping you could get back together. I'm sure she felt like, "I've only been gone two weeks and he's already found a replacement". Even though it was just one night. Emotion and logic are two very different things.
welll... shes the one who said that she had tried to get me out "O the Friend Zone" (exact words) since we started dating 6 months ago and that she still couldnt and so she broke up with me saying that she couldnt hurt me like that by "leading me on". she prattled on about how we never had sex and thats her fault, and it was, she just never be in the mood. So since i love her i tried letting her go for a week and a half, managed to get her off my mind for a couple days then got wasted/high/stupid at a party, while she was on her trip. And from what i could tell in those three weeks, yeah i just did the math im my head i got 2 paychecks since we broke up and thier bi-weekly, she gave nooooo signs that she was still interested untill she came back from her trip. and even then she was sending mixed signals; eg, asking me about what i thought of the new girl at work and saying that she would try and hook me up (to which i told her that i didnt know about it) and then when i asked her if she got any maryland-booty she replied, very jovaly mind you, "no i'm still waiting on that hoover-booty(where i'm from)" but only after she got back. thats about it on the break up and what not since then, but its hard to think i hurt her like that even though i should have known it would. I was being selfish. What makes me feel worse is that she told me I shouldnt regret it, that turns like a knife even now. she's just beautifuly confusing. what i would like to know is, and this is just something i thought about, could she be testing me now to see if i will still be there? and if not could she have been testing me before she left?
hmmmmm yea she sure coulda been testing you say tho she said u shouldjnt feel bad? she may be either really open and understanding or just a freind and no possibility of more or i dunno i have this strange feeling noit based on much at all that shes ..unsure of her sexuality.. shes confortable woth you likes you being around u and all but ..may not have ..the freelimngs ..attrtaction sexualy she expectede to have..possibly asexual; or lesbian or just confused i could be way off id give her extra special understanding and care..honnesty ofcourse but ..keep your expectations limmitted to just repairrijng any hurt feelings regrow the freindship and then from there if u r able to be together romanticly explore sexuality together in an open communicative way that makes hrer confuy...
Well, Its not even about being sexual with her, more like just being with her. i had no problems before when we were in the relationship and we rarely ever did anything, I... well, love her so strongly now to the point that I just dont want her to be sad and its painful to know i caused this by my selfish nature. As for her, i just dont want to lose her. I've lost so many because my family has moved so much and I was just to busy after the moves that i jut lost contact with them. I hate losing people, though i know its apart of life and if not for those i met on the way to this moment i'd not be myself but someone different, I feel so lonly on the path i chose. Tell you the truth, the emotions that stur when i'm just near her have been new to me. I have the feeling that i made her feel obligated to act a certain way when we were together just because i'm sort of an acward romantic and that might have push us apart. I dont know why i cant tell her all this... it feels easier to type this stuf than to say it outloud...
writting is often easier and theres nothijng wrong with writting out everuyything you want to say to her.. give her the letter then talk about it once its in the open
