Okay im a virgin, I have received oral but never have been penetrated. I recently tried fingering myself and using a dildo.. I knew it'd be uncomfortable the first time, but it didnt feel good at all! I feel like im broken... or do i just have to stick through it til i get used to it? Any advice or masterbating tricks?
Did you rub your clit while you used the dildo? I've heard the first time is usually bad for women, so I'd keep at it.
I don't think a dildo would actually feel that great. The main place in the vagina that feels good is the G-spot and that is about 2 inches in on the front wall. You can reach this with just your fingers. Stick a couple in (about 2 inches) and do a "come hither" motion, pressing the tips against the front wall. Just play around with that for a while, and you will figure out where your g-spot is. The main thing, though, for female masturbation is utilizing the clit. I have a vibrator which works amazingly. It's actually one of those "rabbit" ones (if you have heard of it) that has a dildo and vibrator. I like it because once you get really turned on, having that "filled up" feeling in your vagina is really nice, especially if you orgasm. So I would invest in a vibrator and you can try the fingering at the same time or just use the dildo as a "filler" once you start craving it lol.
Don't worry about it... masturbation can take many forms, and a dildo is not a necessary or even a desirable part of masturbation for me, and I've had kids so no discomfort here! Just lack of interest. The best way to figure out what turns you on and works for you, masturbation-wise, is to touch your body in different ways, all over, and think about things that turn you on, or maybe look at erotic pictures or read erotic stories. Touch your nipples, and your clit and your labia in different ways; from a light tickle to firm pressure. See what feels good. Try pressing the palm of your hand into your pubic mound, putting special pressure on your clit. Try laying on top of your hands and humping them rhythmically. When you're aroused, feel the slick moisture coming from your vagina, and rub it around your vulva and your clit. Try inserting a finger once you're aroused, and if that feels good, you might try a dildo or a vibrator.. but realize that the first several times, penetration with anything large can be uncomfortable or even painful, and that's normal - there's nothing wrong with you. Just explore your body until you find out what feels good to YOU, and then do it! And enjoy.
just what cone said you dont want to just plunge a dildo in and expect it to feel good you want to explore sensationds slowly then get the clit goin till you orgasm just lil hint tho orgasms might not happen right away u will need to push yourself past the threshold the 1st time.. your not broke just inexperienced.. go slow enjoy then when your so ready you cant prevent it any more you'll get there... i could guide yas all tyhe way but the trip maybe better if u take your own pace and take the detours that are natural to you.. exploring your body as u feel right all il say is your clits wantin attention...after that the rest will come natural (except perhaps findin the g spot that can take a lil extra exploration and some women dont find it for years)
Yeah, it took me about a month of playing around with my toy before I orgasmed. I have never orgasmed from sex, so it just took some time to get used to and accept the sensations. A little tip that really helped me is a guy told me it should feel like I have to pee...and you just have to keep pushing beyond that, and it will suddenly turn into bliss. If someone hadn't told me that, I probably would have kept stopping there because I figured I needed to go use the restroom. It's really amazing to discover all these new feelings and sensations because they really are completely new! And they've just been waiting for you to discover them. I know that I personally can't get very far without a vibrator. My hand just doesn't get the same response. I think I may be a little less sensitive in that region though, due to stuff like anti-depressants. So I am all for being creative without a vibrator, but if you start to get frustrated, invest in a good little toy (I actually bought 2 for my friends because I was just sooo impressed lol) and just have fun.
well something new the having to pee sensation you describe is solely from a g spot stimulation ejaculation not from the more common clitoral orgasm but yea basicly its a matter of building up the intensity beyond that point of release... many girls when they begin masterbating clitoraluy will be timid and when it starts to feel good they stop thinkihjng thats the limm9it of the experience they may push it a lil further each time but still reduce the stimulation as sensations increase, instead of pushing forward... some women even cloaim to have thought they werre having orgasms for years onlky to be totalky caught by surprise when they finaly do...and im just talking aboiut regular orgasms not the g spot type you described
hmmmm, well I don't think I've ever had a g-spot stimulation orgasm...I know I've never ejaculated lol. Maybe I'm thinking the pressure build up feels like I have to pee...haha. Or maybe I just do always have to pee when I'm masturbating :huh: . I usually just stick with clitoral, because I have gotten pretty good at reading my body now and knowing what I like....I've found my g-spot, but clitoral stimulation is just so much easier. I definitely did what you are talking about, how I kind of reached a point where it felt good but I didn't push past that because the pressure and sensations were already strong.
