this has been my first semester in college and it has been going suprisingly well. all until up around 2 weeks ago. now I have 2 weeks left. I haven't been going to school and probably have such a massive amount of zero's and such little understanding of the material that now I just have no motivation to go, since I have the belief that I have already ruined it. so should I even go? or did I just fuck everything up already?
Wow dude haha I did that same shit my first semester. IN FACT, this is my second semester and I'm doing it again right now!!!! I have missed 2 weeks, and I have 2 weeks left, and guess what, I fucken made myself go today. You should go too man, cuz next semester when you have to take the same class or classes over again, you're going to be thinking DAMN I SHOULD HAVE NOT DONE THAT. LoL Last semester I had 5 classes, and I only walked away passing 3 of them. This semester I have 3 classes, and 2 of them are the ones I fucked up last semester. You should just go man. I hate school worse than anybody, but don't waste your time/$$$ and fuck up right at the end. I'm slowly figuring this out too.
GO! Talk to your profs and salvage what you can from this term. It may not be so bad if you were doing OK until 2 weeks ago. What happened that you quit going? It's not that uncommon to have problems the 1st year in college. I went to school with a guy who almost flunked out the 1st year and ended up graduating with honors.
I feel ya man My first couple semesters were good but this one I really don't care about lol being 16 in college all I wanted to do was succeed but maybe now that everyone is my age I don't really feel like impressing anyone you should talk to your professors usually they wont mind passing anyone who acts like they care. make up some bullshit about how you couldn't make it in but you really wanna succeed.
I've had a lot of issues this semester because of depression and anxiety....I do that exact mind game with myself. "well I didn't do the reading, so I might as well not go to class.....well I didn't go to class last time, so now I'm going to be lost.....well, shit, now I'm really behind, fuck it..........SHIT! I'm going to fail, well its too late now for me to catch up" lol... I have missed a lot more than 2 weeks though. There is one class that I'm pretty sure I have only gone to 5 classes the entire semester. Depending on how the grade distribution is with how much tests, homework, papers count, you should be fine. Make sure that you didn't get dropped from the class from excessive absences, and if you feel comfortable with it, go to your professor and give an explanation (even a only half-true one). Let them know that you understand you will have some ground to catch up on, but you believe in yourself that you can do it...if you say this, they will be more likely to believe in you as well. Don't throw the whole semester away though, especially since its almost over! The worst that can happen is you fail a couple of them, but chances are you will be able to figure it out and pull through with at least a passing grade.
wow that first part sounds exactly like me. I had an essay due and I woke up in time and everything but I didn't have it finished so I just didn't go to class that day. I haven't been all this week either. I just feel totally hopeless about this semester, and right now I have a badass scholarship but Im probably going to loose it b/c my head is in the clouds way too much and my anxiety and all that shit. Im pretty down...
As one of my professors says...."just keep on going on" I ended up having to explain to one of my professors my situation, because I kept turning things in super late because of my depression and anxiety. I explained my mindset...and how it would spiral out of control until I worked myself up into a panic. Like you mentioned having a scholarship, I too have scholarship money riding on my grades, so that is usually the final stage of my mind game "well there is no way I can get good grades now....I'll lose my scholarship and then have to drop out". The thing is, things usually aren't as bad as you think. I go to a small school with small classes, so I know my professors pretty well. However, all professors are used to this sort of thing. They WANT to keep you from dropping out. The school looks bad when it has a high dropout rate lol. They will work with you, I know that my professors (especially the one I really opened up to...who always emails me back with that quote I put at the top) have all done great at accomodating to help me out. I SERIOUSLY considered taking this semester off. Both my mom and uncle had to take a semester off during college because of depression and anxiety issues like I am dealing with. However, I am so glad that I have stuck it out this far. I know that I won't get great grades, but this semester all I am trying to do is hang on for dear life until this summer when I can get my head worked out lol. Even if you don't get the grades required for your scholarship, your school will probably work something out with you, especially if you go to the school counselor or something and explain....then they can pass the info on that the reason you did poorly wasn't that you were just out getting wasted every night. Just keep on going on
gah. Im the first one in my family to go to college except my sister, so really no one understands. even she didn't have all these problems I do. Plus I have all the butthole professor that dont accept anything late, and are really worried about attendance and only give like 4 freaking grades a semester it's so stupid. Hopefully I will go to school tomorrow and then maybe I will talk to them.
I just go to every single class and fake it if I didn't do the work. Bullshitting is your best friend.
ok I did what you guys said. I went to talk to my music professor and I just told him the truth about how I have really bad anxiety and how my parents are getting divored. he actually took me totally off guard because he was very caring and as nice as could be. He is going to let me make up all the test I missed (3 weeks worth), so looks like Im going to pass. So much studying though grr and Im not even sure what test is on which day. Also, turns out he is really good friends with all of my other professors, and he even called them right there and walked me over to all of their offices, so I got to talk to all of them and all of them agreed to let me make everything up. So my grades aren't going to be exactly stellar, but at least they are keeping me from getting F's this semester.
That's great! I think professors are very open to these kinds of things because they are educated and they know how common these issues really are and how devastating they can be. I'm so glad things are working out for you. It's almost summer! Stick in there.
yeah I just never expected him to be so nice. He signed me up for conseling though but I guess I could use it. I went to it friday and was actually diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, so I guess now I have one more thing to worry about. but yah, just one more week until summer and then I'll get some time off. Hopefully next semester I wont repeat the same mistakes.
