my name's allison. i've never posted in one of these forums before so forgive me if this is a little off or whatever. i just need someone to talk to.... i'm 21, gay, and live in alabama. i've been with the same girl for 3 and a half years now. we got married (as married as a person of my sexual orientation will be able to get in my life time) very young. i was 19, she was 18. since then we've had our in's and out's like any couple, sometimes moreso, but through it all we have loved each other and grown together. some months ago i began to feel that we were too young for something this big. i'm 21! i should be going out with friends, meeting new people, and discovering who i am as a person. it's overwhelming to be married at 21. i feel like a 40 year old sometimes. but the thing about all this is i know, no matter how i feel, i love my wife and want to make our marriage work regardless of the cost. i've been working on myself to make this a happy relationship because i care so much. but... the other day she drops this bombshell on me. she says she's feeling everything i worked through verbatim. the only difference is that she instead of wanting to work on things thinks we should just end it. she's unhappy and has been so for a long time. but she's not unhappy with me. she loves me as much as ever. she said the only way we could make this work in her eyes would be for us to take a break. at first i was unreceptive to this idea. i don't see how running from a problem will fix it. in fact, for me at least, it will only make it worse. but after a few days of thinking on it i decided that if that's what she wants i have to give it to her because i do love her. she said that she just needs a week or two to feel free again and that she knows she will come back to me. so now we're on this break. i don't know how to deal with this. i feel like i must somehow be inadequate. why can't i keep even my wife happy enough to want to stay with me? why is this 3 year relationship so expendable to her when it is so prescious to me? ugh.....
wow that is deep! me and my love just broke up after 3 years... well.. we took a "break" too.. we still talk but after the break was called things were different. I felt on lockdown with my relationship and everyone told me by being tied down i was missing out on a huge chunck of my life... so i pass this on to you...(take it as you want... i disregarded it and was unhappy... everyone is different tho) i wish you the best of luck and it sounds like you two have true love and just some minor problems... if it were meant to be all will work out! let us know how it turns out!
wow, thats rough, imsorry , i hope all works out for the best love, and id like to know how things r going
