I'm with this guy, we have been dating for two months, still going strong. One thing I don't get is his friend keeps telling him to not date me, and that he needs to be a player. He keeps saying what the fuck are you doing. It pisses me off that he's judging over me which he doesn't know squat about me. I've also never met him, and I refuse. It's also pissing my boyfriend off. My boyfriend has been telling him to knock the shit off, that he loves me, we are serious about each other. Its like his friend doesn't want him to be happy. Any advice. I'm kinda scared about his friend. I'm in love with my boyfriend, and I'm so glad he's really standing up for himself also. I'm just terrified of this guy. Any suggestions or advice.
this freind is miserable and alone and misery loves company.. he wants your boyfreind to be just as alone so they can have theyre guys night crap..theres nothing to fear froim the pathetic just be happy and laugh at the idiot..
It is pretty obvious that his friend is missing his company. The friend likes to lead a "players" lifestyle and he wants your boyfriend to be along for the ride. Most guys who are players tend to "hunt in packs". This bothers the dude because your boyfriend is spending most of his time with you and not prowling for pussy with him. Players tend to be players because they find it easier to do one nighters. This usually has to do with insecurities about themselves. They find it easier to have no commitments because a relationship would expose and test their shortcomings. I would let your boyfriend handle it. Sooner or later, if this shit continues, your boyfriend will just tell him that he doesn't want to remain friends and they'll go their separate ways. P.S. I always find it strange to say your in love with someone after just two months. A more appropriate term would be " I have really strong feelings for him". Love is something that takes a little longer than a couple months. Your still in the "honeymoon" period. If you still feel the same way after about a year, then love would be an appropriate term. Best of luck with the douchebag friend.
refusing to meet the boyfriends friend is pretty avoidant though... yeah hes an asshat but refusing to attend a function he might be at is, um, not a great response. youre allowed to not like him, but you cant control who your bfs friends are (especially not this early on)
Thanks. That made me laugh. I'm in the same sitruation with one of my friend, he's pissed off that I'm out and not visiting him as much. I told him to stop it and that he's always gonna be my best friend no matter what. I also talk to him a couple nights a week. Its not like he's not busy, he's going to college and got a job. I think he's kinda protective, he always has been like a brother to me.
Very true. Thanks for making me open my eyes. I got some friends he doesn't even like, but I can't just dump my friends either. I'm certainly not telling him to dump that ass. I'm just gonna have to stick up with it. One thing I'm kinda concern when I do meet this friend, I'm not sure what to do if he starts telling me bunch of shit. Should I just leave? I just want to be prepared. For sure next month I'm gonna be meeting this dumbass.
personally, id probably go with a simple "you cant control who your friend wants to date, so why dont we just try and be civil to each other" or something along those lines. basically a 'butt the fuck out, its none of your goddamn business' phrased nicely, followed up with an 'ill play nice if you play nice' kind of statement (again, phrased more diplomatically)
