hypothetical situation-what would you do?

Hi there,

Here's a hypothetical situation that I'm curious about:

You are in a committed happy relationship with somebody you find intellectually, sexually, and emotionally satisfying. You meet someone who is simply more intellectually, sexually, and emotionally satisfying than your current partner; because this is a hypothetical, you are certain that this person is and will be more appealing for the long run.

As of yet, you have been completely faithful to your partner. Also, there are no children or financial entaglements to complicate your decision. Do you stay with the one yo're with, or is the grass always greener?

ciao

 

Stay with the one i'm with since she has already made the commitment to me first.

 

No the grass is not allways greener, most of the time these feelings are mere infatuation, you say you are very happy with the person you are with, why throw all that away on a whim, you may lose the best thing in your life for the unknown that may not work out, check yourself out before you make a large mistake.

Peace

 

Stay with the one I LOVE

 

Stay with your current partner - there is always something you don't know about the new partner which will kill the deal. How many guys leave their wives for some hot young thing, and that relationship falls apart a year or two later...

 

You need to listen to all of them above. They are right. I was in a relationship with my ex-fiancee 11 yrs. and He gave up on us and cheated on me with a 36 yrs old with 3 kids. I am 28 with NO KIDS. Now he said he mess up and he would take it all back now and whats to work things out between us, But I don't know. I would take him back, But he don't act like he CARES and is trying to get what we had back. It to me seems like he is just playing with my heart still. so you just think about what you are willing to give up with your partner now. Look what he gave up and regrets it BIG TIME now he says. Just sit and think about what you are going to give up.

 

Uhhmm. this is a hypthetical situation that truly is hypothetical. Also, if you read, the situation was that the person WAS NOT cheating on anyone, just considering leaving the current spouse. This is not the same as your situation

M curiosity stems from the fact that many people leave because they've found someone exciting and new. IMHO, even if the person is truly more compatible(doubtful), the shared history with my current would have value that outweight potential good times with the new person. Apparently, there are many people who don't see things the same as the pollsters because people leave for this reason all the time.

cheers

 

if you cant be with the one you love, love the one youre with (or something like that )

but seriously, Id stay with my curent partner, because I was in that situation already and I chose to leave, and now I regret it with my whole heart (we had a 3 year long relationship)

 

Stay with the one you with. As you put it, you are happy with this person and the entire relationship is satisfying. I presume you have been together a while and are living together hence you get to experience all the other persons imperfections and not only their good side.

The other person may seem appealing, but I'm guessing you haven't spent any time with that person and would be making that judgement based on what you see for a limited time only. Is it a facade? You will never know. You don't have the guarantee of happiness with this other person. What you percieve as a better prospect could be a front and you may later realize that it isn't all it was made out to be. By then it would be too late and you would have lost your partner that you currently have and the satisfying relationship would be irrepairably broken down.

The question here is are you willing to throw away a happy, satisfying secure relationship to persue one that may or may not work out knowing that once you have taken this step there is no way going back to what you had prior? This could land you to being alone and heartbroken and to a string of unhappy and short relationships just to take the loneliness away.

Ultimately the choice is yours and this is just my opinion

 

I'd have to stay with my current partner, no worth losing a relationship that has proven itself for the mere 'prospect' of being with a more 'satisfying' partner.

But maybe that's just me, although I doubt it.

 

If I'm already happy, I'd stay with the one I'm with, and stay friends with the other one (just in case) .