Old Hippies! Help! My parents....!

Guys, I really need your help. I figured out that my stepdad is addicted to some crazy pain pills. My mom doesnt know. Hes also a hardcore smoker and an alchoholic. Ive asked him many times to stop all that, but then he gets defensive. he does not know that I know hes a pill addict.

My mom I believe to be bipolar. Shell be the coolest for a few hours, but then if she gets even a little mad and you dont flow with it, her sole objective for the next couple of hours is to make your life hell.

I dont know what to do. I have 3 or 4 different friends whos moms have opened their arms to me, and I dont know if I should call the cops, stay and deal with it, or just walk out. Im 14, and If I left home I would do my best to stay in school. Is that possible.

I really have love for you guys, HELP!

Marley Sunshine

 

That's a difficult question to answer. I will assume this is a legitimate post. The proper course depends on the services in your area. First, you must assure yourself you are not exaggerating the situation. I'm not insulting you, but you do need to understand that persons of your age can frequently imagine a situation as larger or worse than it actually is. No family is perfect, none. Learn from your parents mistakes and try to not repeat them. All families have serious problems that all members must deal with. I'm not saying your problem isn't valid, just that I have no way of knowing it's validity and I want you to be certain before you make decisions that can't be withdrawn. I don't know where you live, what services are available where you live or the quality of the services. Be aware that the quality or services varies dramatically. Don't be discouraged if the first contact you make has unsatisfactory results. Not knowing your area, my first suggestion would be to talk to a counselor at your school if they have one that specializes in family issues. Another option would be a larger established mainstream church. Many will be able to provide some assistance. If you have a School Resource Officer at your school, he should be able to direct you to a local agency that may provide some assistance. You do not have to tell him of suspected illegal activity in your family. He should be able to provide you that information without knowing those specific issues. If there is a Nurse at your school, she should also be able to provide such information. You don't have to give her details either. Bear in mind that some people can overreact due to ignorance, fears of liability or other reasons. You may have competent resources among you extended family or friends. Just remember that friends and family are not always the best source of sound, objective advice. I feel for you in this situation, but there is not a single one size fits all answer. Please remember that while time goes slow at your age, you will soon be an adult making your own decisions. In the bigger picture, it will be real soon. Try to be patient as we all have burdens to bear in this life.

 

Very tuff stuff to deal with, do you have any relatives that are cool, ones you can talk to, like an aunt or uncle you can trust, if so confide in them. If your parents hear about what you feel is going on from one of their sisters or brothers they may take another look at themselves, the options posted above are also very good take a close look at them. But if you mean by ( if I left home ) you are thinking about running away DO NOT nothing good will come of it. Get your head in a good place and try to deal with it, it does not sound like an abusive situation maybe some mental abuse but get yourself together and deal with it the best you can. No family is perfect, make the best of what you have. And do not run away.

Peace

 

Marley,
When I was your age, I was in a similar circumstance, only I didn't have as clear a view of it as you do. Back then people didn't talk about alcoholics, pillpoppers, and bipolars.

My parents were convinced that I was the one with a problem, so they sent me to a shrink. After a couple of sessions, the shrink said, "Your problem is you're trying to stay sane in an insane environment. I recommend family therapy immediately." My dad pulled me out of those sessions...immediately.

Just telling you that so you can understand that you're not alone. In fact, you will find later on that many more people dealt with those problems than you could have imagined.

I recommend that you find someone to help you. An understanding relative, although dysfunction often runs in the family; a social worker; anyone who will listen. Don't just run away, but if the situation is violent, get out, even if you have to stay in a shelter. If a friend's family wants to take you in, you can get a court to go along with it, to get you out of the insanity.

Whatever you do, remember this: Never let another person's opinion of you become your reality.

All the best to you.

 

the cops? holy shit.

I think the only time when calling the pigs *may be* a good idea is after a murder, of course if you're not involved...