I don't really know why I feel the need to write this out, I guess it's been getting to me for quite a while and... I just wanna admit it or something. So I met this guy in September 06, by the end of October we were both awfully drunk at a house party and had sex on my friend's living room floor, the next day I'm racked with guilt cause he's dating some girl I know. He doesn't seem that fazed, I think "what the hey, we were drunk, life goes on" We start talking, friends and stuff, November he comes to stay at my house [he lives in a different town], one thing leads to another and oh we're having sex again. After this we start pretty much having a relationship behind the backs of everyone we know, ironically enough at one point someone even told us we made a cute couple! I was never really comfortable with the whole set up, I mean, he had a girlfriend!!! and by January I was not only feeling guilty, but also feeling jealous that he was with someone else. I told him we had to end it and we did. 6 months later and it's July 07, I send him an innocent text asking for the name of a drink he'd told me and some friends to try, by the end of the night we'd both admitted we still liked each other and still wanted to be together. Since then everything's started again, with the only change being that we're not physically together as much, however we regularly have dirty conversations via text and msn [often with webcam]. In fact, it's been a long time since we talked about something that didn't eventually become sexual. He's been with his girlfriend for over 2 years now, and I don't understand how he can act like he does with me. Also, how can his girlfriend accept that he's like that and still trust him enough to be with him? And if she doesn't know, well then she has no idea what sort of person he is, and that can't exactly be a stable founding for a relationship either.
to me it looks like neither your sex partner of his girlfriend are all that concerned with monogamy. if he's ok with it and so is she I don't see a problem. Some couples aren't committed to each other exclusively. If thats the case with them then there is no moral issue and it shouldn't be a problem for you.
being "the other woman" can really take a toll on you emotionally. i know from experience. its not healthy. and you deserve someone that wants to be with YOU. im sure you already know this. no matter how much you like this guy, the bottom line is that he doesnt like you quite as much. you need to find the strength to cut him off and get over him. Eventally you will find someone who loves you and doesnt want to be with anyone else youre right about him though, what kind of person strings someone along for two years, all the while lying to his girlfriend? you dont want him i hope you start to feel better about this<3
She probably don't know.They lie to cover up lies. But what you are doing is wrong. You will be know as a homewrecker and what else not. You should feel bad and end it with him. You would not like to be done like that. If so you both deserve each other. But what to say,If you to get togather, he will not do the same thing to you after you to have been togather awhile and he will go find someone else. Trust me It can happen. So you need to be happy with yourself. Hope things work out for you.
