Threesome Dilemma for Haha

First off, let me make it clear to everyone that I talk a lot of shit. All the time. I will bullshit about anything for any indefinite amount of time and love it. I am also cynical and sarcastic. Usually what triggers the bullshit is nervousness.... like when I get uncomfortable.. or bored.... or I'm just breathing.... anyway.... What sucks about being me is that so many people take me seriously. That is how I got myself into a situation. Here goes:

I ran into this guy at Walgreens that I used to be friends with in high school and actually "hooked up" with a couple of times, but when I ran into him, it didn't feel weird or uncomfortable or anything talking to him, which is always cool. I'd heard that he got married and we talked about it and everything and he invited me to come by and meet his wife and see his parents sometime, since our familes used to be friends and he still lives with them. I stopped by yesterday,and only he and his wife were there. She just found out that she's pregnant... yay! She was in the shower when I got there, so we sat in their room watching tv.

We were just making small talk, when all of a sudden, he started talking about how great his sex life is. I listened for a while, nodding my head and trying to be cool... then he asked me if I liked anal sex... I told him I couldn't know because I'd never tried it. He said his girl loved it and she'd been incredibly horny since she got pregnant. He showed me their lube. He told me to feel it. For some reason, I wasn't feeling terribly awkward and was just kind of going with the flow. I bragged a little, he bragged a lot.... I felt weird because his wife was in the shower 10 feet away.... She finally came out and he quit talking about it and we started talking about babies.

I was driving over to my boyfriend thing's house to meet him, and I started thinking about it.... about how my friend had been so nice to me and asked me so many questions... and how he gave me a really big hug and a kiss on the head when I left. I was like, "I hope they aren't gonna do when I think they might do." But then I just blew it off, because I thought I might be flattering myself.

Anyway.... about two hours later, the guy called me and asked if I was alone. I was with friends, but had walked out of the room, but he told me to call him back when I was all by myself, because he and his wife had some questions to ask me and they weren't really sure how I was going to react.

So, now I'm in a real pickle. I haven't called back yet, even though I'm not really sure what they're going to ask me. I mean, I'm pretty sure I have a good idea, but I'm afraid. I don't know if I want to do it. I don't know how to say no if I don't. I don't want to be nice and say yes, knowing that I won't do it..... but then... I don't know if I really want to or not. It seems like it might be cool. They're people I know, but I don't really hang out with them - I haven't even seen the guy in almost three years- so it's not like we're close friends and it would make it awkward.

I've always said that you should try everything once. But I've also said that you could try a couple things a bunch of times and it would make up for everything else...... anyway.....

For those of you witht the patience to get through this, what do you suggest I do? I would appreciate all opinions on the matter, and advice as to how to go about doing whatever it is you recommend.....

QUICK PLAY BY PLAY

*Ran into old friend that I slept with a long time ago
*He talked about sex a lot
*Introduced me to his wife, whom he says has been super horny since she got pregnant
*Is creepily nice to me
*Calls me and says they have some questions to ask me and to call back when I'm all alone because it's very personal.....

 

As Dr. Phil would say, don't do it.

 

I doubt I'll do it... I'm just thinking that, like... I've always kind of thought about doing it, but wanted to do it with at least one person that I'm really comfortable with, like my boyfriend. But I don't have one of those, and I've slept with this guy before, a long time ago. I think it helps that I don't know them really well or see them a lot, because it might be less awkward. I'm like talking myself out of it and right back into it over and over again....haha...

 

If it involves sex, do it. If it involves having yr organs harvested... meh, it's yr decision.

 

It´s up to you. But if you decide not to, I´ve found that if you say something like "thanks for asking, but I tried that before and it´s not really my thing" people usually understand and don´t hold it against you. Or you could just be honest about it.

 

well first of all call them back, then when yo uknow for positive that they are goin to ask whatever it is they are goin to ask, just tell them how yo ufeel, tell them you feel akward and you want to but then you dont. just basically say to them everything thats on your mind and im sure they will not only listen but understand too. like you said they are people too. well good luck and hope you got some use out of this.

 

It's totally up to you if you want to do it. If it was me, I'd be right up for it, but then I think, given the chance, I am a bit of a male slut.

I dunno it sounds like fun - whatever *it* is - but I think you need to find out what *it* is before you go jumping to conslusions. Phone him back and talk with him. Find out what *it* is, then say something like "wow, that's an interesting offer, but I'm going to have to get back to you on it! - then come back here and tell us all what *it* was

Seriously, unless you know what he wants, there ain't much you can do...

 

Do it with someone ya love

 

Dont be afraid to say "no!" when people ask to much of you, saying "no" is the most empowering thingyou can do for yourself

 

sounds like a sticky situation ....the former paramore , the pregnant gf . and you.....if you realy must have butt sex , steal his magic lube and ill help you out .i dont have a preggie gf. though .

 

call them back...it could always be about something else (like asking if you want to be the guardian of their baby to be when born) or it could be just what you are thinking, in either case its fine to say no...its also fine to say yes!

 

ive never done a 3 some. dont plan on it, but i do take it in the ass. its enjoyable.

 

Okay... I talked to them tonight and he asked what I was expecting him to as...and Isaid that I'll think about it and we could maybe kind of try it out once.... I'm really just worried about her... He's like 22 or 23 or something, but she's only 18. She's really not old enough to be married or having a kid, I don't think, and I know that she's probably kind of impressionable or whatever.. what I'm trying to say is, I want to make sure that it's something they've both agreed on, not something he's talked/forced her into. I didn't talk to her, because I don't know her that well yet.... I might maybe possibly almost do it.... haha

 

Be sure to video tape it and send me a copy.

 

How much ya gunna pay me? hehe

They usually go for 20 bucks, but I might be able to cut you a deal.

 

Well, right from the start, I got the sense that this guy was "creepy."
I don't care if you had slept with him three years ago (at 16? Geez! Where were the girls like that when I was 16?!) it was creepy for him to just launch into talk like that.

He was way too forward, in a way that puts you in a position to be uncomfortable, and I think that makes him insensitive. You should be very wary of people like that. It's borderline sociopathic to be utterly unable to see that what you are doing and how you are being is making someone uncomfortable -- and besides, I suspect that he is trying to play you. In other words, use you. He's had ulterior motives, and who knows how long he's been planning to kind of corner someone like he has you.

For one thing, this is a guy who, like you said, is probably taking advantage of this naive, impressionable girl. He sounds like a real bastard, actually. And he sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it, too. If the guy can't be satisfied with the girl he's married, and who's gonna have his baby, tough shit. It sounds like if you go through with this, it'll be for his gratification almost entirely. He sounds ultra-self-centered and egomaniacal.

Your misgivings about this situation seem to be a very heightened and accurate intuition, and I would go with them. They are serving as a warning to you, and you are blessed to have that kind of ability to pick up on hinky shit like this. I would back away slowly and don't make eye contact.

Um, you mentioned your own "boyfriend thing." Doesn't he figure into this at all? Do you have any kind of exclusivity/openness/honesty thing going with him? Would you make the decision to do this threesome with jerk-guy without concern for him playing any part, or without asking him about it? I can't picture any kind of boyfriend being okay with it if his girlfriend went and did a threesome exclusive of him! That'd pretty much mean the end of things with a chick, if she did that on me.

Besides, if you drive down this way I'll give ya the lovin' that you need, without all the worry about crap like this preggo wife and creepy forwardness (oh, wait, I just was creepily forward!)

Remember I'm sweet to the feet, and all the way on up!

Blue skies,
-Jeffrey

 

Oh, I should mention that I'm also a little bit jealous. I've seen how cute you are -- this guy is luckier than he could ever deserve to be (based on what a manipulative creepy dude he seems to be) just to have you considering having sex in a threesome with him. That's 200% as much pussy as I think he even deserves, you know...

-Jeffrey

 

Happy HaHa Girl,
I've done a few threesomes which were just fuck-buddy things. And it worked out okay for me as a man and for the women.

If you want to try a threesome, then having no emotional attachment to this man and his wife would be the best way. Watching someone fuck your nearest and dearest while you are on the same bed may be tough. Watching two friends is going to be nowhere near as emotionally damaging.

How the pregnant wife / gf is going to cope watching her boyfriend and you getting down and into it is another issue. But for you, it should be okay.

Mark

 

da hell, you cant fuck with everyone just bcuz you cant turn them down! or would you ?

 

I'm not going totry to tell you what to do or anything. You have to make this decision for yourself. It does sound like you want to but are concerned about her. There is a possibility that she wants this too. I don't agree that you shouldn't get to know her before you do this or maybe that isn't what cbrmale was saying. I would walk into it without expectations of any kind other than everyone involed having fun. Maybe seperate sex from love at least at first but my impression is that you & her are going to be much more comfortable with this if you know her a little better. Would it be hard to meet her for coffee or something like that so you & her could talk about this? that is if you want to go forward with it.