Okay so I got to class early and had to wait for the other class to end. This usually is the case with this class and most the time people in my class have to wait for the other class to end outside and just talk and stuff. Well today the hottest girl by far in our class came up to me and started asking me if I had read the stories we were suppose to read (Eng lit class). Anyways she has asked me several times now this, yet she knows I always tell her I never read the book until in class, yet she still always asks me while we wait for class. The thing is today she asked me again and I told her no I didnt read but then she starts going on and on about her GPA and random other stuff. So I talked to her, (was pretty evident she was hitting on me), or so this is what I think, and she wouldnt stop talking to me. Well im shy in general and I couldnt just ask her for her number in front of half the class, im way to shy to do that, so we just ended up talking until the class started. This scenario has happened with a few very hot girls now and I get so fucking furious at myself after it happens yet I cant ask them out in front of people when they are watching, and in this case they were definatly watching, cuzz this girl is like really hot. But more importantly I just cant get the guts to ask em out, even tho I know thats what they want me to do when they come up to me and drag out these random conversations that seem to last forever. I dont mean to shoot them down but I dont have the guts to do what they want which I assume is ask for their number. I dunno what to do, how do you guys who have been in this situation end up finding the courage to ask them in situations where theres others around?
I wouldn't sweat it mate... you could always ask for MSN or something like that instead! TBH I hate talking on the phone as I associate it with work and other boring stuff - I find I prefer MSN as a way to communicate as when I am on the phone I tend to be a bit monosyllabic. Also, women in general seem to think it 'easier' giving out their email or MSN address than their phone number as it's less intrusive to their life if you turn out to be some kind of psycho freak. I found after a while I had no problem asking a girl for her number... but because I hate talking on the phone so much, I'd always leave it way too late to call - whereas if I have someone's email or MSN I just send them an offline message or just wink if I see them come online, and get into dialogue that way. As far as not wanting to ask people for their number in front of others - it's understandable... so the best way is to set it up so they have to give it to you before you part ways. Don't flat out ask for the number, but ask what they like doing, then when you find something you both like, ask them if they'd be keen to go to the next one of whatever it is... ...then ask them to call you... give them your number... then almost as an aside, say - "well, if I don't hear from you by the day before, should I call you..?" nine times out of 10 if you've got this far it's in the bag, and they'll just give it to you straight away. And fuck the audience anyway. You'll get more respect for trying and failing than you will for pussying out.
Well see I had this one time where I gave this girl my number who had asked me for it, she was semi-decent on my scale but her friend whom was really hot was the one who's number I really wanted. So when she called me, (I gave her my number as well cuzz she asked 4 it but I never called her) she would never, never stop talking, omg she would just go on about random shit forever and forever and I had to pretend I was interested the whole time. And man she never stopped calling me, that was the worst part. Eventually I just stopped talking to her altogether and she got the message but damn it was annoying. The thing about asking for their msn/email is if I dont know whether they spend alot of time on their computer, which I most likely wont know when asking, if they say they dont have one then im sorta screwed. But I definatley agree that msn/email/w/e would be better than their number, alot less personal and cumbersome.
I got my courage from being realy fucked up one time. I was also shy to ask her, i knew she liked me and stuff, but i didn't have the courage, after a month or so she got together with someone else. From that time, when i see a girl and i want her number, then i just go and ask her. You have to know and take what you want from life, otherwise you will be left with what's left from others.
dude, if she didn't have any interest in you, then she wouldn't be talking to you like that. which leads me to my next conclusion, that if you ask for her number, you will probably succeed in getting it. which leads me to my next conclusion, if you will probably succeed in getting it, then why the hell are you afraid of asking? who cares who is looking man. they are just people with their own lives. they probably aren't even paying attention to you. and even if they are so what, just ask and if you get it then you will be satisfied and wont even care who saw. think about it this way. what if you never get her number, then the semester ends, and you never see this girl again? you will be kicking yourself for God knows how long over what you could have easily had it. just suck it up and ask. it's for your own good. I dunno if you have ever done this before, but the first time ever you ask for a girl's number is pretty rough. You could always get rejected. Even if you do though it's no big deal, forget about her and move on. I think your making a big deal out of nothing at all.
Suggest that you two get together over a cup of coffee or a bite to eat and discuss the class work. Phone numbers, email addresses, and MSN screen names are more comfortably exchanged after an hour or so of stimulating discussion of English Lit, Professor's mannerisms, and homemade pizza recipes over a bottomless cup of mocha latte and a grilled chicken fajita.
give her YOUR number instead, then she won`t feel under any pressure to give you hers, then its up to her if she wants to call you. just slip her a piece of paper, with something like this written on it " i`m a little shy to ask for your number, plus i wouldnt want to put you under any pressure, sooo.......here`s my number if you ever want to chat outside of school."
