so a co-worker (thats married) has confessed her love and desire for me. PLEASE HELP!

to start off, ill let you know a little about the situation. I am a student and i work part time at a grocery store. I recently got transferred into the deli department and i am now the only guy that works in the department.

Theres this girl named carina, 19 year old, very gorgeous,latin, and mature body who caught my eye. i started talking to her and i took alot of interest in her and it seemed she took alot of interest in me as well. She also has a habit of always "joking" around, she always flirts and sort of talks dirty with me. I am very turned on by it and soon realise that i verrrry much want to have sex with this girl so i try and figure out if she wants too

So after a few days i was talking to her and came to find out that she has a two year old daughter. i was a little displeased but it wasnt going to stop me because this felt like love at first sight.

another couple days passed and i come to find out from her that shes married and a couple other co workers told me that she has cheated on her husband several times before and is not attracted to her husband at all, they just remain married because of finnancial stability. at this point i was pleased to know that she would be willing to have sex but displeased to know that i couldnt start a romantic relationship with her because shes married.

just a couple days ago i got her number and were planning to hook up one of these days. i was exited but still kinda sad that i will probably just be another one of those guys she cheated on her husband with until today...

she brought me in the back storage room and started crying. i asked her what was wrong and she told me that in the last few weeks she has began to fall in love with me, that she loved me and my wonderful personality and yadda yadda yadda. i also felt the urge to cry, i felt the same way about her.

she continued to tell me that she didnt know what to do, she didnt want to straight ditch the father of her daughter, but at the same time she didnt want to continue to pretend to love her husband.

i began to realise that she actually does have strong emotional feelings for me as well as sexual desire. Right now i dont know what to do, think, or say. I think i love this girl, but i dont want to break up a family but i also dont want me or her to betray our feelings. all this will not settle in my mind right now, can you all please help me sort this out, although it is mostly up to her to decide what to do.

thank you all very much for your time, please help me out, it will be appreciated very much

 

I'd have nothing to do with her if I were you. Here's why:

She's cheated on her husband several times before. She's willing to cheat on him again with you. Now let's say that you two begin a relationship. What makes you think that she will be loyal to you? How do you know that she won't cheat on you in the future? And she has "began to fall in love" with you? Possible perhaps, but I doubt it.

She doesn't want to leave the father of her daughter, she just wants to fuck around with other men. Why doesn't she divorce the poor guy? Then she wouldn't have to pretend.

Listen to your feelings. Acknowledge them. But do not forget that you have a mind as well as a heart. And not following what your feelings say does not necessarily constitute betrayal. Sometimes, if you allow yourself to be led by your feelings, you end up betraying yourself.

 

thanks alot for taking the time and helping me out. If any relationship ever did come out of this then i would take extreme caution and try and not fall too hard for her. I guess ill just see what happens in time

 

tell her to take a look at her left hand. women like that give the rest of us a bad name. marriage is a sacred vow. divorce is bad enough, but its better then cheating.

 

NEVER even THINK about doing ANYTHING with someone who is married, or even has a boyfriend. It's a very good way to get your ass kicked or shot. Put yourself into the other guy's shoes for a minute...how FURIOUS would you be if you found out your baby's mother was fucking someone else? It is not worth it, trust me.

For this reason, I wouldn't even suggest getting with a girl who has kids unless you're POSITIVE the guy is long gone.

 

Before even tempting to start anything with this crazy psycho beotch, LOOK at at both factors. HE needs to be told that shes tempting to cheat again and take the child and get custody.


You don't want near that type of situation; why . Just go on Jerry springer. Maybe hes not giving something she wants but Communication is whats lackig if that whats lacking she needs to tell him . Not screw you . You need to respect the guy that married her and stay out of their bubble.

No body needs that in their life . Soon you'll find someone you fell head over heels with and it will better deal . Not this shit.

Good luck dude

 

i'm not in 100% agreement here
find out all you can about her and her relationship with her husband ask her to be honnest about allthe times shes cheatted
dont dare sleep with her tilll your sure its love
and your sure shes ready to commit and your sure your ready to too (which includes talking responcibility for being a dad to some1 elses child

dont let your dick thoink for ya
sex should be the l;ast thing on your mind

to the 13 year old whpo said she should honour her vows nop matter what...come vack in a few years and see if u agreee

shes young..19..on an odviosluy bad marriage why the hel;l would yuou tell her to be miserabler forever?

but to tell ya the truth, this girl sounds like trouble
but if u feel its love at 1st sight then be sure it really is love b4 u provceeed cause u weill need to be the knight in shinning armour here to rescue her from her past mistakes and not just another horny teen wanting to fuck her behind her husbands back


dont do anything though till your 100% sure what to do..then..do it all the way..not 1/2 way ..no playon around

 

What a can of worms you have opened. Just put a lid back on that can and throw it away! She is MARRIED! Until she gets her head on straight your best bet is to keep your distance.

In other words there is a REALLY good chance that this is going to end badly.

 

She's married and a co-worker? Run away, run away!

 

Just adding my thoughts to yours....


I don't think most men realize what being "the other dad" entails. Is she going to let him be part of raising the child? Or is he just a male in the house that has to put up with a bratty kid? Is he expected to contribute financially? Or will she and the babies father provide all of the support? When dating a woman with kids these are things that have to be considered. Hell, even dating a man with kids!

A man can not just step in and think he can take over. It won't work! I have been a single mom, and most men I dated thought I need a father for my kid. I didn't, he has a great one. So, any man thinking of dating a woman with kids needs to sit her down and ask what her expectations of him are.

Yup. No using the married woman for a piece of ass. She comes complete with a kid and a husband. Just consider what would happen if the husband found out.....and I seriously doubt he doesn't know. Wait! Let me guess....they don't have sex anymore either. Ummmm....do I even have to say it???

Hell, I don't even remember my wedding vows. I treat my husband with kindness and decency because I want to, not because I made a vow.
How many people vow to quit smoking, drinking, doing drugs, be a better person, and so on, only to continue what they vowed not to do? Lots! Guilty of it myself a time or two.

Vows are just words unless the person gives them weight (meaning). It is easy to make loving promises on your wedding day. The hard part is living up to all the promises for 5, 10, 15 years. It's easy to say you will do it, but takes a lot of patience, love, and understanding to make any relationship work.

The only thing any person truly has in this world is their integrity. I don't think anyone should be miserable forever, but she made the "adult" decision to get married and needs to make an adult decision to fix her life. Divorce sucks, but it is better than cheating.

I agree 100% with the white knight comment. It makes a man feel good to be needed, and to rescue the poor damsel in distress. The problem is that she ain't in a burning building, she is married. If she is miserable, she is choosing to be miserable, and until she decides to move on with her life it doesn't matter what the OP does. I am leaning towards the horny teen myself or a woman looking for the "bigger, better, deal" either way it still isn't worth the sex.

Yeah, pretty much exactly what you said.

 

hit it and quit it my friend

 

yea eithrr way shes gotta figure out her life and what she wants as much as this kid..

just from the language of tyhe 1st post i can tell hes not understanding the seriusness of this and it would end in tragedy

 

at least give me the respect to insult me with the correct age... but regardless of what age i would be, i'd still believe that CHEATING IN A MARRIAGE IS WRONG. but, im 15, so i must be wrong, right?
tell the woman to get a freakin divorce.