First and formost I searched all day for a forum to ask this in so thank you for any response I get. I will be taking a mgr position soon and one of the workers I will be in charge of creeps people out. He is a Middle aged (late 40's) single man who is a bit of a tech geek who is into computers and our camera system (work security for a college). He works with college girls and now has the tag of "creepy guy" on him. Is there anything I could do? Any coaching I could give or is he stuck with this? To define him further, he isn't so much serial killer stare guy, but lonely uncle creepy. He hasn't crossed the line into sexual haressment but our female officers don't like to work with him. I would like imput from this community on if he was your co-worker. Do you write him off and hope he leaves or what? Can you work with someone who is just creepy?
Single, middle aged, techno geeks often to come off as creepy to many, especially young women. Having worked in technology fields for years I've known plenty of them and I imagine were I a college age female instead of a male their creepiness would seem even moreso. Unless he crosses the line I wouldn't worry about it.
If he hasn't done anything and people just don't want to work with him because he's weird, that's there problem. People have the right to be who they are, even if they seem creepy to other people.
sounds mostly like hes socially awkward. which ostracizing will only make worse. and letting others influence you,a nd gossip/politicking affect how work is done, is worse for the company. let him do his job. rotate who works with him so that no one feels persecuted but so that he still gets social interaction at work. he hasnt done anything, and i dont even really get how hes 'creepy' other than, being socially awkward at times
Really if you want to get techy with the situation, HE has the right to work there secondly if he has done absolutely nothing wrong great wonderful; the girls HE works with NEED to understand HOW to communicate with him . I believe before working in a public area of any sorts you sign your john Henry of confedentiality and by being gossipy and ludicris about this whole scenerio is just blowing it out of proportion. What about putting your feet in his shoes? Take it from a dif side view ? How would you feel if you were looked at that way ? Fired because of? Talk openly to him see how you can accomadate him ? Realize ppl talk differently mental disorders Well some just don't marry depression etc we have the right to voice our opinion let him. I'm pretty sure by the sounds of it the girls are voicing theirs and its not going to be pretty. If it was me I'd fire them instead of him just for being stupid and not being a grown adult! We all work with ppl we don't like but some times we just have to suck it up!!
I think that you should let him know that someone has mentioned something about being a little put off by something of his behaviour. Let him know, that you don't feel like there are any justifications for it, but that you did tell the person that you would follow through it with him and you really want to take the time to let him become aware of some of the people who may feel uncomfortable, perhaps even just by him being in their presence. Offer to really work with him and extend yourself out to this man. He probably is a kind-hearted person who just needs someone to let him know that's he doing a good job.
This is potentially a tricky situation. As a manager you'll have responsibility to a) make sure all the workers there feel like their workplace is safe and their complaints are taken seriously, and b) no one is discriminated against - this goes for those 'creeped out' by him and the guy himself. I think you need to talk with him privately and generally about the kind of workplace you want to create/maintain, one of respect, collegiality, productivity etc, and encourage him to talk about any problems he may be having in connecting with his colleagues. If you want to be really ginger about it ask him what support or resources he thinks he needs to make his professional relationships better. I know it sounds like Human Resources wank (sorry HR people) but getting everyone together for a team-building exercise or even just a fun relaxed beer at a local bar can solve a lot of issues with workplace culture, relationships and the like. I know that in my experience more issues were smoothed over during Friday night drinks than any specific company policy or intervention. So yeah, that's my advice, dunno if you find it helpful, but I wish you all the best!
you're the manager so you can set the example. tell the girls when they call him creepy they're really "harrassing him" and you won't put up with it. there should be laws to protect creepy looking people just like their are laws to protect minorities, i consider him a minority. if the situation was reversed and he was whispering to one of his friends about the women, they could say *discrimination*.
I have to agree with everyone saying the guy hasn't done anything wrong. I understand he may be creepy, but I bet he thinks some of the people working with him are snobs. Imagine a shy guy working with a bunch of college cuties. Occasionally he glances at them, but instead of saying hi they think "ew, did that old dude just check us out? He is SO creepy." Why? What has he done to make him creepy? Go to work and form your own opinion. The last place I managed raved about a particular employee and it took me about 2 days before I came to the conclusion she was a raving bitch. She was great with customers, but screwed over other employees if she did not like them. So, yeah you need to decide for yourself what the deal is with the guy.
Just to clarify he is a nice guy (give you the shirt off his back) but doesn't see how that can be twisted. He gave out his number to a student to call if she wanted to talk he said she seemed depressed. I let him know that is a job for a hall director or RA not a security guard. And he sometimes records conversations but he does tell the person he is recording. So a lot of it is him putting him self out there and I have told him to dial it back some. So once again he has not done anything I can write him up for but coaching him has been tough. I hate to tell him put up a wall and don't let any one in but I worry he will create a situation where he will make a student unconfertable and they will complain and that will make the whole group look bad.
I agree, there is a big difference in people calling him a creep because they don't like hanging out with him and him actually being offensive, i say if he isn't actually acting inappropriate then don't sack him, he might actually be a really nice guy.
Well... I would say "hey man you know how i get all the laaaaaadiieesss". Then take him shopping, and get him a haircut. Then take him to a singles group, just to hang out. Honestly, he's probably a good guy and he just probably needs someone to talk to himself.. he's probably lonely as hell... fix him. But you do need to talk to him about making students uncomfortable. Not cool at all.
yea its not his fault he is creepy he probably just doesnt know how to handle himself socially but as long as he hasnt done anything to anyone then hes fine
As a FEMALE mgr you need to learn how to not pick sides and to understand how to focus on both sides . Just because its a GUY . "oh no" Murder is going to happen. Do you know how many nice intelligent understanding men are out there that have social problems? If you just sat with him and asked him, what can i do do accomadate you ? than maybe that would help ? Contrast to that, Maybe the cheerleading snobby lil college girls just need to pull their socks up and understand HOW to communicate with him and LEARN how to WORK properly with the public instead of being gossipy. If that was my i'd be bootin' their ass out the door . I would be holding a meeting to tell them what the criteria is how to make their lives easier how to respect eachother and if they don't respect eachother they get a warning and they are out.
recording people's conversations sounds pretty damn creepy to me. why on earth is he doing that? is there a sign posted to warn people that the building has auditory monitoring? if there's not, it's illegal...unless of course it's our dear government. why is he interacting with young female students on a personal level at all? how is that ever appropriate for a security guard? sounds like you've identified several problems that you should correct him on.
