I need to hire someone to make major life decisions for me...

...because aparently, I suck at it. I'm graduating in may and I have no idea what I'm doing with my life. I'm sick of school, so grad school is out. I've thought of moving to Key West since I'm going there on vacation after graduation, but it's just as expensive as SF, and it seems to me that everyone there is either gay, old, or a tourist.

I get depressed really easily, and I'm especially sensitive about my environments...for example, I grew up in san antonio, and I hated that town and was pretty much miserable until I moved here. But now, after 4 years, I feel like san francisco has given me all it can offer. It's a wonderful place, but I'm tired of the city, and want to move some place more laidback. A smaller town, no less than 20,000. Maybe work at a bookstore. Preferably not a republican stronghold....but I have no idea where, and I can't afford to go touring around the country trying to find a place. I want to live somewhere cheap, so I can cut all financial ties to my parents.

I'm starting to feel paralyzed...like I'm so stressed about it, I can't even move, I can't even plan anything. It's hard, because I almost died 3 years ago, and I'm fine now, but since then I have this hangup that my life must have meaning, and right now, it doesn't. Everyone says "you don't have to worry about it now..." but damnit, if I don't worry, then I'll forget to care and I'll wake up and be 30 without having done anything meaningful.

Somebody decide my life for me!!!! I'm getting really tired of always making decisions..........

 

watch the movie, Into The Wild.

im sure it will help inspire your decision

 

I actually have threads here where I offer life advice to people. I'm well renown for giving really good advice.

Let me sit on it for a few minutes, I'll give you some ideas. I spent a lot of time in San Ann and Austin.

I'm not making any choices for you though. You're going to have to figure that shit out for yourself.

 

Omg! I saw that and was actually thinking of walking across the US....but I'd be starting too late in the year to make it to the rockies before the passes close for winter. Besides, I'm already feeling lonely, and sleeping alone in a tent in the middle of no where wont do me any good. I'm not good at wandering without a destination.

 

If you like Key West there are a lot of non-touristy/retiree towns on Florida's gulf coast. But yeah, Key West is sorta ruined after the cruise ships started going there.

 

who said you'd be alone?

im down for goin with, and we can go wherever the shit we want, i plan on goin to slab city for winter though for sure, that'd be a great experience

 

Oh, you should let me be your muse. Direct the show, you know? I'd do good for you.

But you have to be as pretty or prettier than me or I'll charge. What say you?

 

I bet you a trillion dollars I'm prettier than you!!!

 

Ok. Done.

As long as you give me a double or nothing chance to explain why I'm prettier than you if I lose.

 

Go to Oregon. Plenty of small towns on the coast. People are cool there. It is a liberal state.

If I was staying in the US I would go to a small coastal town in Oregon.

Unfortunately you already have the job of making you own decisions.

Best of luck to ya.

 

Sounds like you already have a clear advantage over most.

"Well it's all right for him he's nourished by the Tao, me I don't really believe in anythng, it's difficult!"

Even better, you'll come to your own senses and give the Tao or whatever the boot!

Otherwise you'll spend your life following one ism or another, belonging to this or that company - "safe" in the companionship of the likeminded. Or stand in line with "anti's " the "worldlywise" or the nihilists.








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Making major decisions for people who can't....Thats a great business idea.

 

I'd say save at least enough dough for a couple months rent and food, then pick a state. Drive around the state a few days, maybe a week or two.... Find a job in the environment you like and go from there. Plans can lead to failure, so I tend to ride things out. You have a lot more opportunities when you're not following guidelines.

 

Save up some money now. Pick a few locations you want to live in. Make sure you pay attention to what kinda weather you like, what the religion/beliefs of the town are.

GL. life is full of tough choices.

 

I'll take it! what sort of terms are we talking? will there be medical benefits? what about dental?

 

I live in San Francisco right now, so saving money isn't an option. I think I'd die if I have to spend another 110 degree summer in Texas, so going home is out.

I've actually been sorta thinking of Tennessee, (Knoxville maybe??) since the south has actually grown in its appeal to me. I just wouldn't want the deep, incestuous south. People there just seem so much more down to earth. But whatever...I'm still clueless.

Oh, but if anyone would like to decide for me, I offer a 401k plan, paid vacations, and while I can't offer medical or dental benefits, I was a nursing student for a year, so I'm practically a doctor and I can offer free medical advice.

 

if you let someone, other than yourself, make life decisions for you, you will end up where you dont want to. i suggest you do it.

 

i suggest you use fewer commas.