ANTIPRIDE (MERGEDWITH)Pride ParadesAre they helping or holding back the LGBT movement

Discussion in 'LGBTQ+ News' started by SelfControl, Sep 25, 2004.

  1. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    Gay Pride irritates me far more than it probably should. Isn't being proud to be gay like being proud to be a security guard talking to a friend, or being proud of owning some adequate furniture?

    I am gay, I just don't get it.
     
  2. PhotoGra1

    PhotoGra1 Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Messages:
    1,682
    Likes Received:
    3
    I basically agree with you. It seems rather pointless. The only benefit I see to it is it publicly displays the numbers of gays/lesbians. Many people don't realize how many homo's there are. The publicity that gay pride receives, however, is not at all how I would like to be portrayed. I don't even own a pair of butt-less chaps...
     
  3. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    I doubt it'll still be on-line, but theonion.com ran a great article:

    San Francisco Gay Pride Rally Sets Back Course Of Homosexual Rights 20 Years
    Said one on looker: I used to think gay people were just like everyone else, but now I realised they're just a bunch of mincing leather clad perverts.
     
  4. Sunburst

    Sunburst Fairy

    Messages:
    1,909
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gay pride is there just like black pride was: Straight, white people were never excluded from basic human rights, but gay people are left out of the rights of adoption, marriage, and other things in many places, so we're showing that they can exclude us but we're never going to give in and just "be normal" like all the homophobes out there who think it's wrong and sick. Lots of people call us those, and we're showing that we don't give a crap what they think.
     
  5. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    Cool. But black pride nowadays scares the shit out of me. Is gay pride going to become a militant organisation in 20 years or so?
     
  6. rocknroll_girl

    rocknroll_girl Member

    Messages:
    338
    Likes Received:
    3
    Why does black pride "scare the shit out of you"?


    The fact is, when you're in a definite minority, your history as a group runs deep. Particularly with homosexuality, there is such a past of shame, secrecy, and hiding that gay pride is a result of a lot of pent-up feelings. It's a positive reaction in the vein of "you can try to make me hide, but I'll shove it in your face." The "shoving" is a reaction to suppression.

    I can't say I'm into a lot of the gay pride scene these days, but I still believe it's a positive thing for the community - when done tactfully. I think there's a place for full-out gay entertainment and culture, and that is within the community, but parades are absolutely fine as long as they're polite. In other words, no near-nudity and leather craziness. Then parents have a REASON to hide their kids' eyes.
     
  7. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    Can't say I've ever seen a "polite" pride march. I certainly doubt anyone respect homosexuals as equals as a result of pride marches.

    The black pride thing... I'm talking about people like the Nation of Islam and the Black Panthers, there's no real need for that kind of militancy anymore, it's just when people have got as close to equal rights as they're going to get by what could be called "aggressive demonstration", and these groups have nothing to do. To me, it makes as much sense as white pride these days.
     
  8. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    I just feel you do more for gay equal rights by being gay and not letting it change the rest of your life than you will trying to ram it in people's faces.

    If you're sniggering at that last bit, you're part of the problem.
     
  9. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    I was a little loathe to admit how "homophobic" I am, but in speaking to other gay people about this I've been finding out that a lot of us, and I do mean a lot, think that gay pride are at best ineffectual and at worst damaging to the course of gay rights. A lot of people do good work for this course, and it must be quite galling to spend yr life trying to dispel those stereotypes, only to then see thousands of them cavorting in the street on the evening news.
     
  10. HolyInkCartridge

    HolyInkCartridge Member

    Messages:
    31
    Likes Received:
    0
    While I fully agree that the majority of gay pride parades are detrimental to the progress of gay rights and tolerance, any time I wear a pair of pants or skirt or anything that provides belt loops, I'm wearing my rainbow belt (actually a modified leash from the animal shelter), and I never remove my fat rainbow beaded hemp necklace.

    I'm greatly of the opinion that exposure is vital to change. The more exposure the world gets to the fact that there are vegans out there, the less extreme and wierd veganism seems. The more exposure the world gets to technology, the more accepted and even vital it is to the world, even though techies were freaks only a couple decades ago.

    The more exposure the world gets to rational, intelligent, industrious, <whatever attribute that person has> people wearing rainbow gear and just treating their sexuality as normal and okay, the more the world will realise that huge numbers of people are anything but heterosexual, and are not worse off for it.

    That said, I honestly don't really have a sexuality. The closest thing to my sexuality is pansexual, and I tell people this only because it's easier to explain. So maybe I can't really directly represent gay pride anyways. ^_^;
     
  11. PhotoGra1

    PhotoGra1 Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Messages:
    1,682
    Likes Received:
    3
    This is very common among any minority group. I worked for 7 years with an all white staff, just by chance. The last two years the staff has become about half white, half black. My black collegues are very hard on other blacks, much more so than any white coworker. They get disgusted and very angry at blacks that they see as "ghetto." They feel that it pushes back all the civil rights progress that has occured for black people.

    I am somewhat homophobic too, and I am gay. I never am homophobic with lesbians, however, only sometimes with extremely flamboyant, sterotypical gay guys. I realize, though, that it is my problem, and they really don't represent me or the gay community as a whole. It is something that I constantly struggle with, trying to get over it. It doesn't bother me nearly as much as it once did, but it is still there. I don't think that there is anything wrong with being flamboyant, etc. I really don't know why this is an issue for me.

    Does this post make any sense?
     
  12. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    See, to me the rainbow gear represents a concession to the idea of gayness as an "alternative lifestyle". That implies a choice. While I'm not going to claim I understand totally the origins of my sexuality, I know that I didn't choose it.

    Vegans don't tend to embarass themselves in front of others with public displays of veganism, apart from when they say "No, really soya milk's great, you can hardly tell the difference".

    And if it makes hating camp fags any easier, PhotoGra1, just remember that they probably think we're all boring and miserable. Knowing someone I dislike irrationally probably dislikes me generally takes the edge off.

    Look, I'm not trying to dictate a lifestyle. People can mince about all they like. I just wish they would admit that they just like doing it, rather than pretend it's in the name of gay rights. Have a carnival if you like, but don't drag me into it by proxy.
     
  13. Duncan

    Duncan Senior Member Lifetime Supporter

    Messages:
    2,881
    Likes Received:
    501
    I disagree. I believe when a person or group of persons belongs to a faction of society, he or she should be allowed the right of self expression. All that the person is stating is, "I am who I am. I am different from you. I have no less right to exist than you. I deserve the same freedoms as you." In the hierarchy of need there is a place for safety and security, love and belongingness, esteem, and finally self-actualization.


    I don't know if a parade is actually the perfect venue for self-expression, but when you think about it, it sometimes brings people out into the public eye who are normally withdrawn and inhibited. It also calls forth support from those who are not part of the sub-group, but consider the minority as an important part of their circle of friends or loved ones.

    As with anything else there will be exploitation.

    I don't agree with the notion that people have of equating being gay with being a security guard in a building. One is a vocation for which you receive wages while the other is the sum of the parts of what make you who you are.

    We all express gay in different ways. Pride is one way in which we can make an attempt at displaying the mosaic rather than trying to blend in as one homogenous mixture of the melting pot.
     
  14. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    All my views really are on this is that I don't see my sexuality as anything to be proud or ashamed of, hence the security guard thing; it's not some major achievement to be proud of, it's just what you do.

    I know that in an ideal world, people would accept everyone, no matter how different they were. In reality, it would do more for gay equality if people thought that homosexuals were just like regular people than if they were "different". To be honest, homos aren't that different. Most of us want the same things as everyone else. Sure, there are exceptions - not much cottaging in the straight community - but most of them are born out of a culture of intolerance and inequity, and ideally would go away if gay equality existed.

    I'm not saying everyone should agree with me on this. I know not everyone will. But that fact alone isn't going to change my mind. I just think people who think being gay makes them special and interesting should get over themselves because it's part of what makes gay rights a joke to most people.
     
  15. PhotoGra1

    PhotoGra1 Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Messages:
    1,682
    Likes Received:
    3
    This is where me, and I think SelfControl, disagree with you. What we, or at least what I am saying is being gay is NOT the sum of the parts of what make you who you are. Being gay, to me, is only a small part in the sum of parts of what make me who I am.

    Does that make sense? Do you see the differnce?
     
  16. Duncan

    Duncan Senior Member Lifetime Supporter

    Messages:
    2,881
    Likes Received:
    501
    It does makes sense. I do see the difference. I don't agree with that though. For me, being gay DOES make a difference in many ways. It affects whom I elect to represent me in office, it affects how I rate the performance of instructors based on whether or not I want their views in my face, it affects what I choose to have in my environment. In short, it is often times a gauge for many of my life's choices.
     
  17. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    I agree with some of that, but I wouldn't want my sexuality to affect anything which does not directly involve it. I don't want to feel I have to dress or act a certain way because I'm gay, and I know a lot of people do feel that pressure, and do end up changing just to fit in. I've known guys change completely upon coming out, and not in a way where you'd think they're being themselves; they become what gay people feel they have to be in order to be gay.
     
  18. PhotoGra1

    PhotoGra1 Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Messages:
    1,682
    Likes Received:
    3
    Hmmm, I do see what you mean, but I never linked those decisions directly to my sexuality. I see how they are, though, I just never looked at it that way. I will have to think more about this...
     
  19. HolyInkCartridge

    HolyInkCartridge Member

    Messages:
    31
    Likes Received:
    0
    You definitely can tell the difference, but it IS great. I actually greatly prefer it to cow's milk. Yummy stuff!





    This thread has encouraged me to analyse my rainbow gear much more, which is a good thing whether I choose to remove it or not. Ultimately, I doubt I will. If nothing else, it serves to show my support of gay rights, regardless of sexuality. I know a few straight allies that wear rainbow gear in support of gay rights. And people tote green party buttons, and fly Kerry/Edwards banners on their lawns. It's a political statement, again with the intent of exposure of the public to those who advocate a concept.
     
  20. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Messages:
    3,804
    Likes Received:
    14
    Goat's milk > soya milk. Soya milk tastes like it's gone off and has the consistency of water. Or UHT, if you prefer.

    I've never worn a rainbow in my life, I just feel I do more for gay rights by being myself, most people get the idea that I'm a big fag anyway, and it's always mildly amusing when someone doesn't twig. But it's always been ok, I think people respect a gay who can drink well.
     
  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice