if sexuality were purely a choice...

if you could choose what kind of people you were sexually attracted to, would you change who you are? what would you choose?

personally i am a heterosexual male and pretty happy with it, but if i were given the choice i'd probably want to be bisexual, simply to open up the most opportunities to find someone out there to love. i like the idea of more options.

how about all of you?

 

no, i dont' think i'd change. i'd stay with being attracted to woman

 

I'd stay what I am now.

 

just curious cause i know a lot of bi and gay people who wish they could be "normal" like everyone else, but i also know a lot who say if given the choice, knowing what they do now, they'd still choose to be gay or bisexual....

just think its kind of a wierd thought, but it got me thinking. being bisexual has to have the most benefits, assuming people are accepting. but then being straight is pretty cool, too. i know a lot of people would say they'd stay the same, but i know some people would want to choose something else

 

ah, well, bisexuality frequently gets a lot of flack from homosexuals who for some reason think you're incapable of monogamy, or you should "pick one." i think that's due to their own particular frustrations. it gets it's own flack from straight people who think it's a tool for attracting men, like college girl bi. that gets old. but i like who i am. those things are very minor inconveniences.

 

thats a good point.

but my answer is based primarily on the assumption that people would be accepting of each other. which is far fetched. but then its also far fetched to assume that people could actually choose something like this. (those "bisexual" girls you talk about generally aren't fooling anybody with an iq higher than that of a tree)

 

im somewhere twixt bi and staright and i like it. girls are great eye candy, but i prefer sex with guys (ie my awesome bf)

 

i know. i'm just scarred over by being used by one that i had a huge crush on YEARS ago. i should get over it. but i think it's really annoying to see.

 

indeed it is, and i can understand how bad it could hurt to have to deal with someone so insincere...

 

Being gay would prolly simplify life a bit, but I suppose I'd have to be actually attracted to men first for that to work out.

 

when i see girls doing that for attention, i burn with humilation of being so duped. i felt like a fucking moron.

 

I'm heterosexual and would choose to be bisexual. Like you said, to open up choices. Also, i've always said I think my life would be so much easier if I were bi...I love guys, but dating them is complicated, and I feel like i'd be able to understand a woman more since I am one. I guess that's NOT the case though because I have waaaaay more male friends than female friends.
As it is now, I'm somewhere along the lines of what Allonym said. Or I guess I should just say "confused"

 

i've certainly not been in that situation before, mamaKCita.

however i think i may be able to understand about the humiliation and anguish. i still feel like a rube for how things ended up with my first girlfriend.

as bad as it makes me feel even thinking of her, i never did get over her. i hope i never see her again, but part of me is still completely in love with her.

i'm glad its over and she's out of my life. but i miss her....

and i definitely feel humbled and humiliated in all honesty. and it was years ago....

pretty much fucked up my head to this day. i think its among the reasons its been so long since i've been with anyone else, romantically or even just sexually. these days i'm prone to avoiding people i'm interested in, no matter how much i want them.

 

I just find people sexy.

 

I'd likely be less lonely was I gay or bi-sexual.


But the ocasional loneliness may be worth enduring. For women.

P.S. I don't know theoretically, that sexuality ISN'T a choice. It doesn't feel like a choice, but it still may be. Freud contends human beings are essentially bi-sexual. Entire cultures have been bi-sexual.

 

I'd choose to have no sexuality and to take sex and sexual attraction completely out of my life.

I am not too sexual of a person as it is, but it'd be nice to completely eliminate the urges in order to be able to focus on better things all of the time.

 

it would be nice. my head just won't let it go. it's like OCD.

 

This is a tempting way of thinking.

But, actually, I think our impulses are very important. Thus I differ from the ascetic ideal.

 

Get neutered. 50 bucks at the vet.

 

actually, rubin, had i thought to include asexuality in my poll, its probably what i would have picked.

too bad i like cute girls with a pretty smile and something interesting to say