Help with teenagers.

Well I thought I'd make this since I've seen some threads about help with teenagers, If you have a question just post it here and you'll get an answer from me, I'll tell the truth of what most teenagers would do in a situation.

C'mon ask me something

 

Captain- not all teenagers are the same. They don't come from the same family background nor do they have the same physiological/psychological/environmental factors.

Peace
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Cool of you to offer your insights! Way too often people don't reach across generations. You did! Thanks for that. Yesterday I really had to give my 14 year old a reality check...I hate doing that crap. Today he's a happy camper, some boundaries were re-established and he doesn't need to butt up against them. Funny how that works at times. It's hard work being young and trying to sort out the world you're moving into. Your thoughts and feelings are totally valid. I hope you keep your offer on the table. Thanks, Steve

 

Ok. Then I suggest you go read a book by some doctor who hasn't been a teenager for years and has no idea of what being a kid is like today.

Sure some books are helpfull, but remember if they want to help you why are they making you pay?

anyways its your decisions I cant change that.

 

HAHA dear i'm a social worker

 

And Im an actual teenager.

And besides I said I'd give them a teenagers answer. Not a social workers.

 

There are about as many different ways of taking the contributions you'd offer as there are individuals who would furnish an audience for them. Too many people would dismiss what you had to say based solely on the source- regardless of how much wisdom that source shows. The unwritten constricts of political correctness may compel some to withhold expressions of skepticism based on their bias about age but it does nothing to make them abandon those ideas.

There are many, many responsible, intelligent parents who will see the name "Captain Cannabis" with the age "15" and think to themselves "strike one; strike two..." Fair or unfair, that's just the way they will be... and that before even bothering to read whatever it is you propose to write- and I would wager a bit that most won't. All adults have been teenagers and understand- from the perspective of having successfully completed that journey- what it's all about. You'd be quite surprised at all that most will remember and when you emerge from this dark leg of life's journey you can compare notes with others bearing the inherent battle scars and reality checks that ultimately prove necessary to becoming a well-rounded adult. My bet is at that point your perspective will be quite different from what it is now... and you'll know.

Meanwhile, your willingness to share and reach across is a very cool thing but I'd be surprised, albeit pleasantly so, if you're able to share something that most don't already know.

 

Your right, I should have made a new account to do this.... Damn my username damn you!!

 

I dont' know actually, I would take advice from an actual teenager.. get views from his own perspective. Obviously he associates himself with other teenagers. It's fine to have your own opinions, but it's good to reach out to someone elses too that's actually going through it still.

I mean you can't relate to just one teen, but you can listen to one, and others could give their own opinions as well.

 

I think everyone's opinions are valid and deserve the respect of at least being listened to before they are shot of the water. If either of my boys were teenagers yet, I would gladly accept the advice of someone in their age range that might have some understanding of what they were going through. Not having ever been a boy, and my teenage years are well behind me, I am sure I will need all the help I can get. Never mind the fact that the issues that our children are dealing with are different than the issues we, or at least I, dealt with, just as mine were different than my parent's, and so on. Each generation has it's own "thing" and it behooves us to listen to them and at least consider their opinions.

Thank you Captain Cannabis for your generous offer, and I do hope that some will take advantage of your insight.

 

Aww, what a sweet offer! And yeah, every teen is different... but I'd take the advice of a teen just as readily as that of an adult anyday! Not ALL of us remember our teenage years with crystal clarity & it can help a lot to have the opinion of someone a bit younger! Heck, I listen to OLD people, why not younger ones too?

Let me see... I've got a 12 year old boy, not quite into voice-cracking yet but still VERY interested in the female body... as an object to be admired more than anything at this point. DH is taking him on a "just us guys" camping trip this spring to have a pretty deep heart-to-heart about all things male. But as a mama... what would YOU think MY role should be in the whole puberty/girls/sex "thing?"

And yes, I'll be doing the same thing with my daughter in another 4 years - DH just thought it better if he did most of the explaining for DS since he's got the "proper plumbing"
love,
mom

 

Well, thats probably going to be the most akward conversation you'll ever have.

But aside from that dont try to be too serious when you talk about it. If you are then you kid will probably think "Oh not its the talk" And if they start to laugh at anything you say dont take offense, some of those words are still funny to teenagers.....Whenever my mom says penis or something like that I always hold in a laugh because it's weird to hear someone that you have always known as "mom" talking about that stuff.

Personally I'd rather have a guy talk to me about that stuff because you can relate more, and if the kid has any questions a person of the same sex would know more about the subject.

Other than that, just do whats right and tell them the normal things - wear condoms, birth control etc..

Thats what I think anyways, good luck with you kid

 

lol, thanks

My husband is tackling the bulk of "the talk" in stages as things come up... but he still comes to me with the odd question now & then too. I think he's double-checking what Dad's told him, but of course he'd never admit to that. His most recent question was in regards to that TV commercial that's on every channel these days. He wanted to know why someone WOULDN'T wait 'til marriage to have sex. That was one heck of a conversation, but I think we hashed it out alright.
love,
mom

 

I am glad he feels comfortable enough to have that kind of talk with you. You must be doing alright Good luck with him, and future conversations with him.

 

I just wander what will happen if one day a teen of hipp-parents comes homen and says proud:
"Mommy, daddy, I have decided to become a Chartered Certified Accountant!"


Hope the parents don't get a herthattack