So i've been dating a girl for about 15 months now and i honestly love her alot, and she is great most of the time. But for the last 4 months she was mean to me, doing things like cussing me out, making fun of me, and blaming things on me and starting arguements. So because of that i broke up with her last wednesday night and got back with her saturday morning. But now i'm starting to think that i want something else and i think i just like the idea of having a girlfriend and someone whos there for me. But we've had sex since we got back together so i dont want to make it seem like i used her when i really didnt. This is more just an issue of freedom now and i think i just need time alone and/or i just need to move on after what happened and find new girls. But all together, i just dont know what to do, i want to be with her, yet i dont to some extent. I feel dumb asking for advice but whatever, whatever help is appreciated.
hey man its good your realizing what your feeling and not letting yourself be tottally committed when you know your having doubts i think you really got to assess your situation and decide if you want to end it for good its tough being our age especially with relationships and stuff good luck!
Well i have a friend, who was in the same situation. He made the choice and stayed with her, now he's totally under her control. He can't even come out with me to have a beer and talk about stuff, just because she won't let him, he can't go to parties and shit. But well maybe your girl is different. Because that bitch understood that she can do whatever she wants with him. And he wants to break up, yet he is feeling guilty because he will make her sad. Damn i don't know what i wrote, but just don't be with her because you feel guilty or something.
Yeah she has alot of control over me too. whenever i have free time, she wants to be on the phone with me, and if i cant/dont want to talk then she will get irritated with me. She doesn't like any of my friends, and she made me drift away from my old group of friends and now im left with few or some friends. So i just dont know what to do, i just want some freedom, yet i want to be with her to some extent.
OMG!!! that is so familiar. Well there are two choices now, do what my friend did (shut the fuck up and listen to her, and then become something that she would be comfortable with, not something you are) or you can at least try to talk to her and make her notice the fact that she is a big part of your life, not you life. Because i don't think that you, your friends are happy with what is happening now, otherwise you would not ask for advice. Try explaining her how you feel and ask her to understand you. Because now it's all about her, her, her and nothing else. That sounds a bit egoistic doesn't it? And if she doesn't want to hear you or understand how you feel, what makes you think that it will be only about this? Think about it...
You could talk to her. Let her know that you jumped the gun and got back together with her. Maybe tell her that their were valid reasons for breaking up, and getting back together so soon really didn't give either of you the time to think things out. Good luck!
