I always come on here and vent about my relationships. I'm sorry, your all so amazing and supportive. Basically every guy I have ever dated sucks and has hurt me by cheating. But this most recent one was different. He told me how much i meant to him and meant it and just said and did all the right things. My friend went to add him on myspace and he changed his number 1 to his ex who is pregnant with his kid and put his status as single. I sound like such a drama queen. But I have called him so many times. I know he is going through a bunch of wicked hard shit with his parents and his grandmother died and some more. i told him im here for him no matter what and i meant it. i told him that his feelings actually matter and he told me no one has ever said that to him before. He promised he would never cheat and he isnt the type that would he promised he wouldnt get abck with his ex and i dont think he did. But I've called him several times and he wont answer. Im kinda playing the dumb card though because um breaking up with someone by changing your staus on myspace isnt really the way to go. and its disrespect. i dont know i kinda needed to get it out. any ideas on how to get a hold of him? i left him a few messages telling him how worried i am about him and im there for him no matter what. I know some of you are going to tell me i dont deserve this but i know, i just need him to tell me to my face otherwise im just not going to let this go. i never know if im making sense because its kinda hard to describe a whole person and give a whole synopsis of a relationship through the internet. I just want to know what i should do? i know fuck him hes not worth it and all that, but hes taking the pussy way out and i dont want him to get away with it.
OK...I was with you until about half way through... You need to let it go. It sounds like you're obsessed. And that's not a good sign. Let it go...honestly...let it blow over and he'll call you when he's ready. Don't contact him anymore, or else you may become "the crazy ex", if you haven't already. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it's obvious if you called he either can't call you back and will when he can, or he doesn't want to talk to you. Either way....stop calling!
yeah but he hasnt said two words about a breakup and last time we chilled was fine. so if i never saw the myspace thing, i would still assume we were dating. he dosent know if i saw it or not, so isnt that kinda fucked up? i havent really called him too many times probably about 4 since saturday.
Unfortunately you cannot force him to not take "the pussy way put" because in this wonderful world of techno gadgets he can just block you from contacting him. People sometimes end relationships in crappy ways, but does it really change anything? Does getting dumped politely feel much better than someone just ignoring you? Both suck! People tend to really suck at ending a relationship and there isn't much you can do about it. Just ignore him. Who knows where his head is at. Like you said "he is going through some wicked shit" and may just need his space. Give it to him. You left him the "Im here for you message" so the ball is in his court. Leave it be! Go out...have fun....you only have one life....live it!
Okay facts: He changed his status (it took time and was obvious) You have called expressing concerns for him (he has not bothered to wish to ease your mind for his well being) (a simple email, call ect would have cured that and showed that he really cared a little, seems he does not) SO facts are you have a guy who went out of his way to let the world know he is single and refuses to take the time to atleast ease your emotions as to his well being! So I dont know you well as well as others who took the time and well we found time for you yet he has not! Do you see answeres in there yet????
i don't know about you guys, but if someone thought i had broken up with them because my myspace status changed... im not really sure if that's an accurate resource, you know? it could have been a mistake.. myspace leaves room for that. although, you may be right.
^that as well kinda makes me want to talk to him. he has a fucking kid on the way and is going to pull immature bullshit like this? i think that is absolutely horrible. anyway i dont know i guess i wait for him to call or something. its the waiting game that kills me though. i dont think i deserve such disrespect. at least the other assholes i have dated sent me a message on myspace breaking up or texted me. all of them suck but this just isnt fair. Our relationship was pretty flawless and we were happy together...or so it seemed and then one day he wakes up and decided he dosent feel like it anymore? wtf?
Well, I am sure there are flukes that happen on Myspace, but the fact that his status and his "top friend" are both changed makes me think this was not the case. Still, I realize you want some confirmation before you move on, but I am fairly certain he is breaking up with you. He is obviously avoiding you while trying to make it well known he is no longer with you. This is possibly the lowest form of a breakup I have ever heard of, but you honestly shouldn't worry about it. Wipe him from your memory and move on. If he is THAT low of a person to not even let you know in a decent way, is he worth your patience and time? Is he even worth thinking about? Personally, I don't think so. Myspace itself is rather stupid to me, but breaking up with someone via the status and top friends list feature is just childish and ridiculous. The only way I would take back what I said about ignoring him is if he somehow gets in contact with you and makes his reasons for doing what he did known. If he is going through a rough time, he is probably not thinking clearly and is very confused about his feelings and what is going on. That doesn't make what he did right, but it at least gives an explanation. If he does end up contacting you and wants you to still help him, even if you are not dating him, then I think you should be there for him as a friend and try to understand his situation. Right now, though, he obviously does not want to talk. You've made it well known to him that you are there for him, and you have already called him multiple times. I would give him some space and time and let him sort things out and see if he comes around. If not, just move on as best you can and pretend it never happened. I know it sounds easier said than done, but it's all you can do.
