Possible to be truly in love but want to be alone?

My girlfriend and I have been together for awhile now, and she is the most amazing person i've ever met, I love her with all my heart! I love being with her, I have never felt so comfortable with someone before, I do anything with her, she makes me happy, she's the first person to ever really accept me for who I am and take my problems into consideration and helps me get through them, i'd do anything for her. everything is perfect, EXCEPT that...

I wanna be alone. I love her with all my heart and love spending time with her, she's not boring in the least, it's just... Alone is my nature. I wake up in the morning, get dressed for school, get in her car go to school, have 3 classes with her, and see her every passing period, then we hang out after school till 10:00 where I go and take a shower, hopefully get a lil homework done and then go to bed. same on weekeneds, just without the school, just her all day. I love it, but I keep having this nagging feeling of wanting to be alone for a little while of the day, just like 4 hours of the day i'd like to myself, without ANYONE else around, just to do whatever the fuck I want, chill on the computer, listen to music, some video games, a nap, she doesn't mind if I go hang with friends every once in awhile, and I don't mind if she does, we arn't the controlling types. I am an amazing screamer for a death metal band and I NEVER get any practice anymore, so I don't get any better, I can tell my skill and notes are WAY off from what they used to be, and I can't hold my scream anywhere near as long, i'd like to be able to practice. I love to smoke pot, one of my favorite things to do, I love smokeing with friends, with my girlfriend, but ever since i've started smoking, my favortie thing to do was smoke before bed and just think about stuff and reflect on everything and become spiritually in touch with myself. But now I just smoke all my weed with her, and have none for that time. I DON'T love the herb more than her, or anything like that, it's just i've done that for years every night so I miss it...

The main thing is here, I don't want to hurt her feelings. I love her with all my heart, and I don't wanna be like "I don't wanna see you for 4 hours out of every day" I don't know how I should come about the subject and talk to her about it. I don't find her boring or anything, she's amazing! I do know she has had problems in the past with guys starting to ignor her and try to get away from her, or they found her to be boring, and NONE of that applies to me, I still want to see her, I still want to be with her, I love her so much, it's just I like my alone time, it's my nature, I can't help it, i've always been this way. If anyone has any advice to help me talk to this with her, that would be amazing. I love her so much and I just don't want to see her hurt, it's the last thing I want. I want and plan on being with this girl for a VERY long time. Thank you for ready my problem and thanks in advance for any advice anyone my give me. =)

 

Honesty is the best policy. Don't phrase it quite like "I wanna just be alone" but try and get the point across that you need some space.. everyone does, it's natural.

If she's had issues with being ignored you may wanna just establish at the outset that you're NOT ignoring her.. "recharging your batteries" is a good phrase to use.

Be tactful, but make it clear that you need some time by yourself.

 

It's quite simple: all you have to do, is to sit her down and say that you love her deeply, but you need some "you" time. You're not a bad person, everyone needs their own space to better reconnect with who they are. I think that if you just explained that to her, i don't think she would be mad or anything like that, i believe she would want you to be happy and if you needed self awarness time then she would probably except that. Be kind in the way you put things, explain that you want to practice on your voice for your band, and you want to get spiritually connected with your inner self again.

 

Yeah, just talk to her about it. You seem like a sweet couple, but there's no reason to be hanging out every day like that. I know you go to school together, but maybe there should be some days when you either drive yourself, get a ride, or take the bus. You need some time to yourself.
Being in a relationship doesn't mean being smothered and it doesn't mean being together all the time. You both have to have some time for separate personal growth. Everybody needs "me" time.

And what everyone else said, about HOW you say it, is key.

 

Thank you guys very much for the advice, also, I wasn't litterally gonna say it to her like that, no no no no no, I was trying to imply that I DID NOT want it to sound that way. I just want to be able to do it in a calm, relaxed, and responsible manner, and have her not feel unwanted, I want her to feel loved. She really means a lot to me, and I just don't want to hurt her feelings. I just want to make her happy like she has done to me. Thank you again for the advice too. =)

 

You know Actually I was having quite the opposite problem.
All of my friends have all been in relationships for one year or longer. When they are not at work or college they are with eachother, they are together all the time, they sleep together everynight, they are always together...... And that is what I'm used to seeing... thats the type of atmosphere I've understood, and my mind tells me that is what to expect with my girlfriend that we should always be together, but we had talked about this and the reality of it is we shouldn't be together all the time, we need our space in the beginning, hang out less and slowly start to be around one another more and more as the relationship progresses. I know for a fact that we will be with one another for a long time to come but only time will tell if it is meant we are to be together forever...... I would never ever think of leaving her in a million years, I can't even imagine how many guys there are that would kill to be with her, but she's with me instead.....

Space is key, You have the rest of your life to be with someone you love, and even then, you need your space every once in a while still.