so as a woman i am having all kinds of issues. the only type of man i can get is the type that thinks they own me. if i am going to be with a man i want a good guy. but a good guy would never want me. because i have horrible scars and now i just had to have surgury and i feel that it was very disfiguring. i know it is useless to worry about these things and be so superficial but it is just getting me down...i know things could have been worse (with the surgury). and i have so far been taking this very well. but today i finally got up the nerve to look at the incision (on my breast) and it is HUGE. i just want to dissapear. i feel UNDESIRABLE. i wish i could feel pretty again. and i didnt have so many scars.
Aw hunny, you sound just like me...I have scars too, but mine are from a ex who treated me like ass. I had some bad guys in my life too, but I found a good guy and you will too, and you'll know when you've found him because he wont even see your scars. I can't really offer you much advice in finding him, but I promise that you will, and you will probably find him the second you stop looking. I mean I was in a relationship for 4 years that I left for the man that I'm with now and I dont regret it for a second.
those aren't MEN. no way. i know what you mean- my ex was straight out of a horror movie. he constantly controlled me and was verbally, physically, and sexually abusive. unfortunately, my other bf's and guys that i wasn't even dating have been that was towards me. i also feel like that's all i'm gonna get, or all i "deserve". deep down inside, though, i KNOW i deserve so much better. so do you, hon. the day will come, be patient-and people that look at the scars are shallow and don't deserve YOU. <3
Listen, a good guy wouldnt care about your scars or your surgery. To them, they would just be glad to have you infront of them alive. They say (who ever they are) that you have to become the type of person you want to be with. If you want a guy who a good listener, you have to be a good listener. Makes sense to me, maybe it will help you some
yeah i think scars are hot. and each one tells a story i have plenty. they do not detract from your beauty!
it sounds like your having a bad day. from your other post, you seem upbeat most of the time. if you had surgery recently, the scars always look worse if your in a bleak way, they will look worse even though they are not. as for men, there are plenty of good ones out there and they won't worry about what the scars look like. they might be curious how they came about a ggod man will see a nude sexy woman
Ms. Oh, you could try rubbing vitamin E on your scar. If you do it long enough, they say it can get rid of even huge scars, but it takes a long time, usually months. Even if you don't completely get rid of it, you can help it to fade. Vitamin E works wonders.
I used Mederma after my surgery and it really works. It takes about six weeks before you see progress, though.
I don't think you're being superficial at all. Feeling confident and beautiful is very important.... the trick is, that part of feeling confident and beautiful is being able to accept your flaws as well as your strengths. You're attracting the wrong men not because of the scar... but because of the way you feel about yourself. So in turn, your general attitude and give and take with people has become skewed, with you on the losing end. Not to downplay your issue... but I consider the scars I have as nature's tatoos... they each tell a story and have personal meaning. ... and wandering soul.... the main working ingredient in mederma is onion, believe it or not. So... if you want to use an all natural alternative, slicing an onion in half and rubbing it on a scar would do the trick... just more smelly and less convenient (since you have to use the mederma or onion 3-4 times a day for weeks/months depending on the age of the scar - much easier to throw the mederma in a bag and take it around with you as needed)
