for starters i have to say i am young i'm stil gaining experience. i'mkinda new to this gmae but, i've laready found that i'm very much into the free love thing. i don't see sex as something that should wai till marriage, i see sex almost as another adventure you take in life. almost like a kiss shared between friends. it's a normal, carnal instint of humans and i don't really see it as "sacred". i'm currently seeing one guy in particular (eli) but, continue to practice free love. i have sex with other people but, it never draws me away from eli, if anything it brings me closer. now we haven't made this serious or anything but, i was still wondering should ii tell him i'm still sleeping withother people?
You should definately tell him you're sleeping with other people. It's cool if you want to experiment with free love, but Eli should have the option to decide if he wants to either be with someone who follows the path of free love, or decide if he himself also wants to follow that same path. Also, for health reasons, it's kinda nice to know where your partners have been as much as you possibly can. I know too many people who are HIV positive to not bring that up.
yes, tellhim and say thats you and if it dont work out then he might not be the one for you right now or you might find that sex is much better with someine you love. well it is
yes you should tell him. I dont understand why someone would go out with someone when there not ready to. My boyfriend talked to me about having an open relationship and i was so hurt i didnt know what to do, and i didnt know if he was joking or not. But i told him if thats what you want whatever, there was a lot of fighting and me going psycho btw, and i asked him why would you say you love me and stay with me for this long if your not ready to make this kind of a commitment. Thats just my opinion. If you wanted to be with someone then you be with them and only them not other people. But yes you should tell him, you should have told him right at the beginning.
I don't agree with these posters. The guy's not your husband. He doesn't pay your bills. He hasn't promised you anything, and you don't owe him anything-- to include personal information about yourself. You should, of course, always use condoms. If you'd feel better with everything out in the open, bring one of your girlfriends over to have sex with the both of you. Get your nut first, then leave the room and let them have their fun. He'll get the idea pretty soon that you want things to be open. Maybe next time you can bring in another guy and ask him to step out for a few.
My opinion: Free love: awesome. Open communication: absolutely necessary. I think if you're going to be having sex with anyone it's absolutely necessary to disclose the things you expect from the experience. If it's just sex, the other person needs to know. If you expect more, they should also be made aware. If you think they may be expecting more (or less), you should also clarify that with them. I'd also suggest practicing safe sex and getting STD tests frequently if you're having sex with more than one partner. I'm personally all about free love. Not so much because I don't think sex is sacred.. I think it's can be a beautiful bonding experience between myself and someone else. However, I also happen to practice polyamory (having multiple loving, committed relationships; and my partners being free to do the same). The deal is that my partners and I make openness and honesty an extremely high priority - we are all aware of one another, and the relationships between us. And we all love and support it, because we all believe in it. My deal is simply that everyone should be on board, and everyone should be happy - if someone isn't content, something is wrong. And you can never know if everyone is content unless everyone knows and is aware of what's going on. It sounds more like you're into one relationship more seriously than the others. Which is cool, but my opinion is that you should definitely keep everyone on the same page with where you stand and what you want. Not just out of respect for them, but for yourself as well. Good luck.
Please stop confusing free love with free sex. Love is how you feel toward a person sex is what you do with them.
Free love is inhuman and has caused an aids empidemic. People believing in free love, are destroying the human race. In my opniun, hip-culture gets very hypocrit when it comes to this. Saying they are quite involved with human being, but choing for things making humans fundamental depressed and hurt in their being...
me and my love had an open relationship for almost 5 years...now that we are exsclusive the sex is better, and the love is better, but that could just be us.
