Please psychoanalyze me (if you have the patience)

It sooo is easiest. I am diagnosed with PTSD, but also think I am borderline, but I didn't display borderline traits before the trauma.

 

Yeah. The only thing with diagnostics is that you can put yourself in a box and re-enact the same pattern.

Your fascination with self-diagnosis may have the secondary function of allowing you to continue those patterns.

See, I'm flipping the script and analyzing the analyst. I'm so gonna bed my analyst too! :dupe:

 

I read the DSM all day for work...so it has gotten soooo much worse.

 

Plus I really think I am borderline. i fit all of these to a T (besides having never been divorced):

Recurrent job losses, interrupted education, and broken marriages are common. Physical and sexual abuse, neglect, hostile conflict, and early parental loss or separation are more common in the childhood histories of those with Borderline Personality Disorder. Common co-occurring Axis I disorders include Mood Disorders, Substance-Related Disorders, Eating Disorders (notably Bulimia), Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. Borderline Personality Disorder also frequently co-occurs with the other Personality Disorders.

 

I just think Psychologists are hesitant in handing out borderline diagnosis becuase it is the most insulting (in my experience and opinion) diagnosis you can get. Bascially says you have no self control and are selfish and insecure-not sue to a chemical imbalance.

 

See, I don't get down with value-judgements concerning diagnostics.

Ok, so I have an addictive personality, and a tendency toward depression at periods linked with GAD.

Biggie. I've done enough that I lead a functional life and can make myself happy and others around me as well.

Chemical imbalances are not sweeping judgements of people's character!

In fact, I'm very thankful for my experience with depression. All of my father's side of the family has it, and we've all gained from it somehow.

 

Usually this has to do with your past experiences but, it's also evolutionarily hard wired into our being. Fear of rejection, thousands of years ago we were a tribal society right? Say your tribe had 25 women in it, how many of them were even eligible to be potential mates? Minus the ones that are too young, too old, pregnant, already spoken for and or protected. That wouldn't leave much of a choice. So let's say it leaves around 5 women. IF YOU FUCK UP WITH ANY OF THOSE WOMEN YOUR GENES WILL BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY WEEDED OUT OF EXISTENCE!!! Or say you approach one that belongs to the alpha male or one of his buddies, you'll be killed. It's human nature, the ones that survived, survived because they had that fear installed into them and chose wisely. Not your fault, hell I get approach anxiety. Natural.

 

That's fine.

But anxiety is not always the same as paralysis. In fact, anxiety can be a spur. You feel paralyzed when you rationalize that anxiety rather than welcoming it fully.

 

I was gonna ask
" Did your father stick his cock and / or a lollipop up your arse when you were a kid"

But I decided not to....: )

I'd say youre afraid of success and failure.
Also , you are unbalanced in your approach to things.( probably too "success" obsessed , not enough interpersonally focussed)

You need to focus on the here and now rather than future plans.
Being around ( good) people will let you learn interpersonal skills more.
And try something like hypnosis .
good luck

 

You obviously want to have sex with your unborn child.

Now would someone please pass the cocaine over here? Freud is getting anxious.

 

You're not a complete mess. Everyone has good qualities and shadow qualities. Maybe before you set out to discard all of these things that are causing trouble in your life, you can look for the value they have (there obviously is some) in your life. I wouldn't get so caught up in the diagnostics and psychoanalyzing...For me, all that stuff doesn't acknowledge your person enough. What they sometimes call "disorders" may be inescapable parts of yourself that demand attention. Just a thought though.

 

What you’re looking for is an illusion, the illusion of control


You want to establish a comfort zone which meets your every criterion, before stepping into a relationship in which you dictate the terms. You’re a closet perfectionist who’s chasing after the unattainable.



hotwater

 

Thanks hotwater.

If there someone qualified to psychoanalyze me, it's you!

Actually, I think the obsession with control and fear of rejection/failure are one and the same.

These realizations make me so...happy!

 

This is a good attitude.

Toward everything really. Life is not about discarding stuff. It's about recycling it.

 

Well I did spend last night at a Holiday Inn Express




Hotwater

 

LOL!

You're the main man.