So, my no one has seen or heard from my stepsister for 2 weeks. 2 weeks since she answered her cell or responded to a text. Or answered an e-mail. She was visiting family, and a man she met online, in Mexico. She was supposed to come back 2 weeks ago tonight. This is very upsetting. She and I are not even close, to be honest. I am alarmed at how long it is taking her family to get the cops involved. They are mad at her for not calling. MAD? I told her dad that if this was my kid or my mom, I wouldn't let any more time slip away. When I was a kid my cousin disappeared for 2 months. All they found were her bones. So, I take this sort of thing seriously. Also, my stepsister's bf is really weird. He won't allow her to have her own e-mail or anything. I wish there were something I could do. I googled her, to see if I could find these sites she frequents, where she met him. I didn't find that kind of thing. We don't even know if she's alive. Fuck.
......... she went to Mexico to meet a random man and never came back, and her familiy is only NOW worried? thats fucked up man how old is she? file a police report asap
Call the police where? We don't know where. Tijuana? Sand Diego? Mexico City? Puebla? Nobody knows where she is in like a 1,000 mile long area or so. I just got a call that her brother went to Tijuana with photos of her and the border is being cooperative. Nobody in San Diego fitting that description has showed up at the hospitals. She's 29. And yes, she met this guy online and then went to visit him and disappeared. My stepfather was angry. They were busy thinking about how much 'trouble' she was in for being so stupid, that it didn't occur to them that she might be in danger. They're not cynical enough, I think. And I have asked my stepfather why his family in Mexico doesn't call the cops there and go to the address where they think this guy is. Send some brothers over to 'interview' him. Maybe now they will. Dios mio.
Call the state police. Call local police. Call whoever the fuck you can. My fiance was missing for 3 hours and I called every state police post between here and his destination. He was suicidal at the time so that's why I pursued it like I did. The next morning I filed a wellness report or something like that w/ the local police and by 10 am, they found him in a county jail. Do what it takes- tell the cops the situation and why you are so worried. The longer you wait, the odds get much worse for a good outcome. Good luck. Peace and love
i have a similar story about a missing relative and bones so i do get your concern the police can do alot can you find her computer and check the history have her bank accounts or cc used also riing the police unit that deal with computer crime has she got a mobile phone you can check history does she have any problems such as financial, work, relationships lrlet us know what happens
The cell phone company, Verizon, won't let her family see her records. She hasn't used her debit card in a while. Yeah, she has problems. So, if she is just pulling some kind of shit, running from her problems, at least I think she should know that her family is extremely worried, so she can tell someone that she's okay and wants some space, you know? She was diagnosed with cervical cancer, which was treatable, and rather than deal with it and face it, she ran off to Mexico. But she was supposed to be visiting her grandma, etc. That's not what happened, though. She went to see that guy instead. He immediately took over her e-mail and all of her online stuff, so that nobody could talk to her. He would answer and be really evasive. He even pretended to be her online when her brother tried to IM her! Her dad didn't take that as seriously as I did. I told him that anyone who would be so controlling that they don't let her have contact with her family is crazy and dangerous. Maybe now that her brother is in Tijuana he can find something out. I wish I knew what chatroom she met him in, then I could see who he is and send the cops to his house. When I google her I don't get much, though.
the police can access her phone and bank records etc the police may act a bit quicker if they know about a health issue if her parents are worried, why don't they call the police many charities such as RedCross have a missing person service where if they find the person, they tell them to say "give me space" etc and you can leave messages too what is stopping you from going to the police or phoning them? what is stoppping you? btw, she is an adult and people often take off
I know she might have just taken off. But I also can't ignore the fact that it might not just be that. That's good to know about the Red Cross. I was pressuring my stepfather, her dad, to call the cops because I felt that it's his family and I don't want to create problems for myself, going over his macho Mexican head and stuff. I know it sounds idiotic, but I was just trying to convince him to do it. The patriarch. So, her brother went to Tijuana. The airport there has surveilance of her waiting for her lost bags. She never claimed them, though. They're still there. That's the last time anyone saw her, 16 days ago. Yesterday her sister IMed her stupid boyfriend. He said, "I burned the bitch and cut her in 1,000 little pieces. She's dead." Her sister immediately told the cops here in CA. They said that that's enough for them to send that to the cops in Mexico and send them to his house. Even if, in some sick way, he was kidding, he just confessed to killing her and they can question him. The bags still being at the airport really bothers me. If she just needed space, would she do that?
i didn't understand why you weren't calling the police regardless of her family, have the confidence to call the police, you know her, we don't regardless of your fears, you were always valid to be concerned about her right from the start trust your instints even before the unclaimed baggage and the message about her death i was trying to imply that rather than saying she had taken off on her own accord although i was thinking of more options for you to explore how are you coping with this?? stay strong please let us all known how you are coping and if you find her
sounds like she did call the police, so back off on Levi! Goos luck with getting answers. International cases are the worst.
It's true, I'm afraid, that the police in Mexico are a whole different animal from the police here. I've had some really negative experiences with cops here, and they're not my favorite people, BUT I would still rather be able to call on American cops in this situation. I mean, in border towns, people are held for ransom all the time. The cops are corrupt down there. Anyone can google it if they don't believe me. So...she's missing for a month now. I have offered to put her photo and info on missing person's websites, but I need her case number, and her family is just avoiding giving it to me, unless it's in my e-mail today, which I doubt. I don't know if they are lying about getting the cops involved because some of her relatives are illegal. I don't think it matters. Fuck. All of her siblings are legal. I don't want to sound paranoid, I just don't understand why her family isn't all over this like flies on shit. If it was my kid? Shit. It would be on the news all over the state. I asked her dad why he doesn't call the local paper. That way, if by some chance she's ok and just getting some space and has spoken to a friend up here who may not realize that her family thinks she's dead, maybe someone who knows something could let them know. No, they don't do that. Other people are puzzled, too. People come up to me on the street and say, "Why don't they....." do this or that logical thing. I don't know. Her dad knows that everyone assumed that my cousin ran away, but she turned out to have been murdered by a serial killer. So, I feel that he should err on the side of urgency. This whoole thing is driving me crazy.
it doesn't sound like it is going well. i wish i could offer more support. i really don't know the judicial system in the US. Maybe you could chat to someone about your concerns, just to get it out of your system don't forget about the Red Cross hang in there and don't give up hope try not to let it eat you up inside
Have you tried the FBI? This sounds like a case for them. Also, call the US embassy in Mexico and give them a heads up.
^^Yes, definitely call Citizens Services at the US consulate in Tiajuana! They can't send a search party but if they find anything at least they'll contact you. My mom was a us diplomat in Nogales, they handled stuff like this all the time.
She probably dont want to be found incase her lunatic boyfriend is looking for her. She has probably just left everything to get a new life away from the creep
Levi, Do all you can in your power to contact anyone and everyone you can think of to find out info. Call the embassy, call teh feds, call the papers, by god call nat'l television personnel. Obviously her real family isn't as concerned about her as they should be, but someone who wasn't very close with her, is desparately trying to find something out. Even if you aren't biological family, you still have resources you can tap. Hold strong through all of this, and please let us know what you find out. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can pm me. I'll listen and try to offer any support I can.
Her dad gave me the case number and I have contacted a missing person's website. The family has hired a private detective in Mexico. My stepfather says that I can't talk about the details anymore. Her husband is a suspect and they don't want him to know how much we know. I really doubt he comes here, though. She married a guy who was raised Mormon. Only, he's gay. The only people who refuse to see that are his parents and my stepsister. Everyone else knows. She caught him with his BF and he became violent with her. She moved out like 2 weeks after the wedding, but he's Mormon and she's Catholic and so neither one of them wants to get a divorce. Now there's reason to believe that he may have had something to do with her disappearance. Hopefully we'll know something soon. When the missing persons website gets back to me, I'll post a link.
