Is anyone into a relationship in which the woman can cheat without limits but the man must stay faithful? I hear this is called a "cuckold" relationship and somehow I'm really into it.
I think it's called "self-esteem that has finally bottomed-out". I could be wrong. But I'm pretty sure that I'm right. If you read many of those cuckolding stories on the internets, you'll notice that many of them go on to castration and/or physical emasculation. I recommend counseling.
I'm going to have to disagree with you, despite these excellent credentials: Join Date: Jan 2008 Age: 34 Posts: 52 I know, silly me. Always defying such deserving authority figures. Anywho, I find the rampant misunderstanding of emotional massochists to be pretty understandable, after all, we are a different bunch. What isn't understandable is plucking some sick castration stories from the barnacle encrusted underbelly of the internets and proclaiming yourself "pretty sure" about a fetish or love style.
Hm. What's wrong with my credentials? I've recently joined the group. Do you imagine that I haven't learned anything about people in my 34 years because I haven't been surfing HipForums? I don't think I misunderstand emotional masochists any more than I misunderstand cutters. They've got their ways to get their fix...But it would be better for them to get some help.
Anyway, Mr. 18 year old emotional masochist, who are you to look down on and so grossly misunderstand people with an innocent little castration fetish?
a relationship like that is called "domination and control," or in your case "woman dominant relationship." there is also the "man dominant realationship." both types of relationships suck really, really, really, big time! that is not free love. free love is based on equality, and that you don't have in your relationship.
The worst of it is that the bottom is almost always the one who is really in control of the relationship. In the case of cuckoldry, this means that you've got a man who is constantly using a woman's devotion to their relationship and her man's satisfaction to subtly coerce her into having sex with men that she normally wouldn't choose to have sex with. Then, there's the risks of unwanted pregnancy and disease...Where's the love in that? Isn't this the ultimate in treating a woman as a sex object? It just seems like such a foolish thing to do. You might luck out and hook up with a girl who's going through a period of experimentation, but why would she want to bring you along just for your own vicarious thrills? Maybe if you were loaded, she might use you for your money and at least you'd have a little balance in the relationship. But even then, how long before she starts to feel like enough is enough and want to settle down with a man who will fight for and protect his family, and put their safety and interests above his own desires? It sounds like the Freudian dream of some man whose mother never showed him enough affection. It's stunted. It's something you should grow out of, for your own sake and your partner's. Whew! I don't normally come down this hard on people...But coercion and victimization are things we've already got too much of in this world.
