Never stay with someone you don't love. That in itself is a bad example for your child. I say the guy should take responsibility, but leave it at that. Wouldn't your kid want you to be happy?
First of all, I’ve never understood why you would have sex with someone you didn’t have strong feelings of affection for! Second, everyone seems to be saying that prevention is the woman’s responsibility, takes two to tango so as a man it’s your responsibility too. Third, it’s your child not some junk car in your back yard, what ever happened to your paternal instincts, I mean I have to hold myself back from being like an old mother hen to every child I see, let alone a child of my own. That being said, the choice of what to do is not a unilateral decision, it’s something the two of you should sit down and talk out, yes even if she’s crazy. The two of you need to decide, what’s the best thing to do, all things considered, including the child!
You know, a guy can also insist on wearing a condom. Protection isnt the responsibility of females only.
if I was the girls father you would marry her or Id blow your head off with a shotgun and bury your body in a dark dark wood .......Im not joking by the way dont have sex with women you wouldnt want to end up with
You take responsibility for your actions. Play with your pecker around a flower,you better think twice about pollinating it. Peace,pot and condoms. Lost
Glen, and what if the condom broke? So "we should all be responsible for our own actions"? Who's sperm is that in her body?
Here is the perfect example of ignorance. I suggest you research what an abortion does to a female's psyche. Not to mention moral and social aspects. Would you offer her emotional support whether or not she has the baby, or is she on her OWN...? What's a little more "unfair" in my opinion is that we can be made pregnant (with consent or none) and then we must suffer the consequences, not you Luketrials - it will never be you. And for that reason you should be a little more open-minded.
"shoulda worn a condom." you have to take responsibility, or a paternity suit will be all over your ass, your dick, and in your wallet.
People have mentioned being fair to mom or being fair to dad. Mom's rights and Dad's rights are nothing next to the rights of the kid. I don't care that its unfair, I don't care what you planned, once there is a baby, the parents need to take care of it. Leaving a pregnant woman to raise your child, alone, is a cowardly, dispicable act of aggression against a newborn baby. Too many of the discussions of child support etc. argue the rights and privliges of the adults. Monetary child support (and hugs and "No! Hot!" hand-slaps and ...) is for the baby. Ditching the baby (while crying "the woman wronged me") is unacceptable. Even if the woman wronged one, ditching the baby is unacceptable. (P.S. I think my argument holds no matter how long after intercourse it becomes a "baby".)
Dude...All You Have To Do To Prevent This........Is To Pop .....One Little Pill Into Your Mouth Each Day..........Pretty Simple I Would Have Thought.. Cheers Glen.
Yes I Agree......But It Was A One Night Stand..Remember........Most Likely They Met In A Nightclub.....After Drinking.....Taking Recreational Drugs....etc etc......Both Were Most Likely Too "Shitfaced" To Unwrap A Condom......Let Alone Place It On The "Offending Appendage"........Buuuuutttt.....Had She Have Been On The Pill....(one simple tablet to take each day)......Is That Too Much To Ask....This Unfortunate Pregnancy Would Have Not Occured.. The Issue Of The Possible Transmission Of An S.T.D ....(sexually transmitted disease)...By Not Using A Condom......Is A Topic For Another Occasion.. Cheers Glen.
Don't you guys know that contraceptive pills are harmful. They have been proven to cause major long-term effects i.e. infertility! When I have a boyfriend I get back on the pill, otherwise i'm off it as often as I can be. However - the pill is not 100% effective! Sometimes the pill will fail. Just like a condom is not 100% effective, as it may break. Put yourselves in our shoes... would YOU like to be taking artificial hormone pills to alter the way your body naturally functions, didn't think so. This is how they work: When you take the Pill, these artificial hormones effectively trick your body into thinking it is already pregnant. At mid-cycle when you would normally ovulate, nothing happens. No egg is released from the ovaries and pregnancy cannot occur. The glands that normally run your menstrual cycle are temporarily shut down when you take the Pill - they do not function in the same way as they would naturally. Sound pleasant?!?!? Also, from experience, taking "one simple tablet each day" as you put it IS NOT SIMPLE... you forget - as simple as that - you forget to take the tablet each day. It is a HASSLE! Its a very annoying hassle that every single female on the pill hates. I hope you understand something about the contraceptive pill now.
A Very Annoying Hassle To Take A Pill..........Please Spare Me........When We All Know The Average Female Quite Easily Remembers Each And Every Day Without Fail To..........Make The Bed.....Remove The Overnight Coldcreme.....Shower.....Shampoo.....Condition.....Then Comes The Daily Application Of...Makeup.....Mascara.....Primp.....Tease.....And Blowdry .....Replace A Tampon.....Put On Clothes.....Have Breakfast.....Ring Her Mother.....Ring Her Boyfriend.....Feed The Cat.....Feed The Budgie.....Pick Up Her Keys.....Lock The House............And You Expect Me To Believe She Can't Leave The Pack Of Pills Next To .........."Any Of The Above".......To Remind Her Each Day To Take One.........F.F.S.....???.. Yours.......Whilst Shaking His Head In Total Disbelief...... Glen.
I think that the salient point in your discussion is "please spare me" because that's exactly what you're asking women to do. Spare me from any responsiblity. Spare me from any long term health risks. Spare me from any worry about, if for any reason you should forget to take the pill one time, is it safe to have sex or do I have to wait till next month. And as for her forgetting to take the pill perhaps when you were too "Shitfaced" To Unwrap A Condom, she was too "Shitfaced" to take her pill. This seems like another good reason not to be having sex when you're too "Shitfaced".
jesus christ.. if you have a one night stand you should be adult and responsible enough to wear a condom! But, I vote dont stay with her but take care of the kid. If such a mistake makes a girl pregnant its also your responsibillity, and it''d be totally unfair to leave that girl taking care of a kid by herself no matter how hard this is on you. Second, never assume that a girl uses birthcontrol. Women have enough responsibillity on their own like giving birth is one of the hardest things ever to a woman. Men can do things to prevent pregnancy as well, and if you were both to high/drunk to think of that than thats your own mistake, hard as it sounds its true.