Apparently it's not just the same as sleeping around. I really like the idea of a more than two person relationship, if only so yr boyfriend doesn't always have to bug you all the time, can share the load, etc. Anyone ever done this?
As you said, it's not just a case of sleeping around, but of opening yourself and alowing yourself and your partner to have sexual (not emotional) relationships with other people. As long as at the end of the day, they both go home to each other, and are honest about it all, then I can't see a problem with such relationships... But alas I've not had one myself.
That's one way of looking at it. But there, for example, groups of people who are all partners with each other; rather than one person dating two people, the two people are dating each other. It just seems like a nice idea, not only because it's fucking hot but because I don't particularly believe in the traditional adage that you can only love one person. Sure, that's how some people do it, but the fact that so many people cheat in marriages suggests a lot of people would prefer it to be otherwise.
I've been in a few relationships like this, and they've worked out OK. When feelings get involved most ppl have been trained to become possessive of their mates, & that can lead to problems. I can see little difference b/w this and the "friends with benefits" status unless the couple is maintaining a household t/g. Biggest problems (if neither person tends to be controlling) - one person having more sex or falling in romantic love with other ppl, or one person taking lots of new partners all the time. It's can be a lot to deal with if you're not honest, up-front, and totally ready for this sort of relationship.
Again, you're still talking about polygamy really. This is a loving relationship between several people. The website was very keen to stress that the fuckfest is merely a bonus.
so it's like a group of friends that all have sex with each other? and they can do who ever they want? like instead of giving hugs, maybe cuddling, holding hands... (that's as intimate as i get with any of my friends, oh, except that one time we all started making out with each other.. wait that was more than once...) you give sex?
Yeah, but not just sex, the same kind of feelings of love and emotion that you have for a regular partner, but for loads of people. I've never cheated on a partner, but the number of times I've been completely torn between two guys and just not gone with either because I've loved them both... well ok, it's not that many, but it has happened.
I'm way out of yr respective leagues. Sometimes I get a bit depressed knowing I'll probably never meet anyone good enough for me. But then I just have a wank in front of the mirror.
