1943 guide to hiring women:

If SHE decides to have children her place IS in the home. Two parent families with a stay at home parent are shown to be majorly beneficial to the overall development and mental well-being of children. Those children in two parent families with a stay at home parent generally are more well behaved, get better grades, and are generally physically healthier than other children.

 

So she can stay at home OR work if she wants, but the guy has to do whatever is necessary? Thought you wanted equality.

 

Yeah..And the woman's job is to make her husband and children happy.
I dont ever wanna be a stay at home mom. I dont wanna welcome my husband every night with a warm dinner and a huge happy smile.
Just out of curiousity, do you consider that wrong ?

 

No, the guy can also do whatever he wants. If he wants to stay at home, cook and clean, he is more than welcome.
If I was married, I wouldnt expect my husband to pay for everything and take care of everything.

 

I really can't argue with this. Child rearing is off the charts more important than career ladders in my opinion. I think people valuing their careers more than the kind of human beings their children are becoming is one of the biggest problems with today's world- at least in the U.S..

 

I would disagree. I just cant believe that there are women that devote their whole life to raising their kids.
Its like you get married, you have kids and thats it. You've accomplished all you can. Maybe thats horrible of me to think like that, especially cause I wanna have kids one day too...But I dont wanna my whole world to evolve around them.

 

I wasn't suggesting that it necessarily had to in order for you to do a good job and I leave open the possibility of the dad staying home BUT The kids are job #1 and if it takes 100% of the parents' time and energy then that's what they should do- otherwise don't have kids.

 

You're right.
I dont think I should have kids. I wouldnt be a good mom.

 

Whatever happened to barefoot and pregnant? Aw the good ol days.

 

don't make it out to be a job or duty...if your married and love yoru husband and kids...you should WANT to do those things

why wouldn't you want to welcome home your husband after a days work with a nice dinner and happy smile?

 

You're a wise woman to recognize that. It's a better world that I haven't brought any kids into it- notwithstanding some of my family members' insistence that I have a responsibility to carry on the family name. I've lacked the type of patience that would make a good father. Perhaps things would be different now- and perhaps not. There's absolutely nothing wrong with parenting and good parenting is as much an art and skill as any profession. It takes the right combination of intelligence, wisdom, and above all, patience... endless patience (my short suit). Parents who've favored the world with intelligent, sensitive, civil, and wise children have my highest respect.

 

Its not so much about the dinner and the smile...Its about playing the little perfect housewife.
And you're right. I should want that. And if I love them, I ll probably wanna make them happy. But I dont think I should stay at home for that and not work. I would want to make them happy but that shouldnt be my primar concern. I can also make them happy even if I work, and the nanny makes dinner. Or am I wrong ?

 

i dont' know anyone who grew up with a nanny/maid/etc/whatever. my dad worked 2-3 jobs so my mom could stay home to raise my sister and i till we were old enough to go to the boys and girls club after school

 

I thought that guide would be much worse since women became "persons" less than 20 years before that (atleast in Canada).

 

I think I'd like to have kids one day, but I am not sure I'd have them for the right reasons. I mean, I dislike kids, I lack patience and I dont really feel that maternal instinct most girls have.
I believe that if I decide to have kids it would be because my husband wants it, because our friends have kids, because my parents want grandchildren, because you're suppose to have kids at a certain point in ur life...Not cause I really want them.
And if I have kids, I'd be a terrible mom. I mean I d love them. But is that enough ? Kids are demanding, they need constant attention...And I am too much of an individual to make them the centre of my life.

 

Well yeah, cause your mom probably wanted to stay with you and your sis.
I dont think I would want that.

 

no, she didn't like having to always be home. she'd have worked but instead she found volunteer opportunities when she had the free time or when we were in classes.

 

And you think it was her duty to stay at home to take care of you and your sister ?

 

of course

if the roles were reversed (dad stay home, mom work) she wouldn't have been able to bring in the amount of money my dad was to support the family

 

Well...I guess its every womans choice if she wants to continue working or not.
I just dont see why would I , as a woman, have to make those sacrifices...