ok heres my situation: im in love with one of my good girl friends sister stacy. shes only a year younger then her sister who im friends with. all my friends talk to stacey and want to help me out. my friends told me that she might and she would hook up with me if she was drunk (what she said). i text her and talk to her online a lot. i guess you can say we possibly flirt (she says she misses me and wants to hang out) more than in person but thats because i live in a rural area and its hard to see my friends a lot. I went to the sisters house today. i was really high in the morning because i smoked with staceys sister and my friends. i walked in and found out stacey was home. i knew i had the perfect chance to be alone with her but i didnt have the confidence to go into her room earlier. ( i get like that when im high and only seem to have the couarage to approach women when im drunk) after i sobbered up she left for a while and came back. oh and before she left i saw her leaving and said hey and she said hey back and all my other friends who were there in the morning said she was blushing and she walked out of the room when they noticed. i saw her when she got back and it was really awkward because her sister and my friend (who is always flirting with staceys sister) were there. when she walked in we said hi and there was deff. a vibe or something between us through out the night. i cant describe it but something small was there. the whole night though it was my so called friend who was talking to her and not flirting with her but focusing on her more than i was. and it was weird because her sister was flirting with me and i felt more comforable with her because shes my close friend but i wanted to be with her sister who i liked instead. as i left she walked me out and started hugging me and i told her i really liked her sister (first time) and thats when she was like dont worry ill talk to her. during the night there were times i didnt seem to be myself. like the way i talked or responded to things. i think it was because i was thinking about what she would like to hear or what would make me sound cool or something to her. Heres the thing, i had no idea what to do or how to get alone with her. like what should i say or have done. should i have walked in her room and sat down with her and talked. what should i say about wanting to hook up with her. thats wat some of the tension was. im not good in these situations as you can see. what could i have done different and what can i do in the future. thanks for any help.
aww. sorry, but this story is realy cute! What you want is some quality time with this girl, right? Well, simply say, "hey could we go talk somewhere else"? or invite her to a far corner of the room to talk, so as you both don't look suspicious as if you would do something. My boyfriend was really shy, he waited a month to ask me out before he got the courage. And even then, his friend was behind him poking him in the back whispering don't be a pansy! lol. so, your not alone. hope this helps your confidence! peace, Danni.
tell her that you really enjoy coming over to see her and that it would be great if you could maybe go see a movie together. if you find it difficult to summon the courage to ask her, perhaps you could `arrange` something with her sister, maybe get tickets for something and ask your friend to pretend they are for her and her boyfriend, but they could pull out at the last minute and `offer` the tickets to you 2 ?- i know this is perhaps a little sneaky, but it would break the ice, i`m sure if she found out afterwards she would think it romantic that you went to all that trouble just to get a chance to be alone with her.
if you find it difficult to find the right words, you could perhaps write her a note, explaining your situation and how you would love to be alone with her, just to see if things work out - make a joke and tell her that she would have to do all the talking
yeah man... just take a walk with her or some shit... then let her know you have been wanting to get some time alone and tell her how you feel.
