Am I strangely unsexual?????????????????

Sex is enjoyable to me. However, generally speaking I don't, and never have had the desire to do it more than once a month. My boyfriend (as past boyfriends have) makes me feel like I am strangely unsexual. I should also mention that, i currently am comfortable with my self and that i am very physically attracted to my boyfriend. So is their something officially wrong with me?????

 

some people are just asexual or have lower sex drives. you still like sex, so id wager you just have a lower libido than most

it being a problem depends on how your guy feels about it, really. if its causing disturbances in the relationship, its somethign to discuss with him. if both of yall are good with sex being a rarity, why the hell not?

 

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It is a little wierd for a 26 year old woman. Did you hit puberty later or earlier than other girls your age? I suspect that you'll got hit with it when you are in your early 30's. By then your BF may not be into it as much anymore. You really should try and get into the swing of it more if you can.

 

I hit puberty way earlier than most girls. What would that have to do with my current sex drive?

 

could be the result of a hormonal imballance since you hit puberty so much earlier, could even be your diet if it has alot of added harmones and shit.. but to me it seems like you need to communicate with your guy about what u enjoy,m if hes unable to please you right then you have to teach him how to drive u insane and make u want it more

with past guys who were more experienced were you only into it once a month then too?

first step id truy is communicating with him, trying to get him to please u the way u like, if that dont help get your hormones checked out

oh, are u on any kinda meds at all? especialy psych meds? they can really fuck with sex drive badly..so can many other types

 

Maybe you're just not that into him sexually. I know you said you find him physically attractive... but physical attraction is different from sexual attraction, or chemistry. From what you're saying it definitely sounds like the guy is the problem though... at least in your mind.

Also, putting pressure on you to have sex more just isn't sexy. If you're not in the mood, criticism just doesn't tend to get you there.

You say you don't like having sex more than once a month, which to some people would be kinda frustrating, but if that's your thing then no one should tell you it's wrong.

 

I wasn't sexual with past boyfriends either. I am sexually attracted to my boyfriend though and was with past boyfriends to. I don't think my diet is high in hormones...I'm vegan (except for honey). I am not on psych meds either. What else could it be.

 

I know a woman who enjoys sex as you do, but is very much asexual like allonym said. It's hard to say what is going on, and not being a physician, I would do you a disservice by guessing. I'd see a doctor if it bothers you. It may be related to medication you take, or it may be an imbalance as previously stated.

I suppose it could also be your upbringing. Some people were raised not to put a lot of emphasis on sex, and certainly were not encouraged to engage in sexual activity, but were made to feel shame. While that may not be your case, something similar could explain your situation. A therapist who specializes in sexual realms may be the kind of professional who could help you.