birthday sex a given?

I want to hear eveyones opinon.

Lets assume you are in a relationship where sex has occured in the past.

If not, pretend you are in one for the time being.

Is sex a given on your birthday?

why or why not?

 

hell no. if you want have sex with your partner, then do it. if you feel obligated to do it, it isn't enjoyable and it creates resentment. if i was in a relationship and the guy expected me to fuck him or got mad if i didn't, i'd dump his sorry ass right then and there.

 

Yah well, each partner has needs: mentally, emotionally and physically.

if one or more is not met, the other may get frustrated, rightfully so.

You would leave rather than communicate? That is a shame, but I guess you will learn with time.

remember that, each of those three does take a bit of effort, but usually flows pretty easily once a little effort is exerted. it does takes effort to think of things to say sometimes, or to understand what the other is going through and feeling, or, yes, to satisfy. I think of women (and some men) understood this simple logic, there may very well be less cheaters.

don't underestimate sex. You wouldn't underestimate emotions or mental connections would you? sex has the same value as the other two, both are equally very important. heck I would say spiritual connection is just as important too. But again, sex is important. Girls, if you take all the bullets out of the gun, it can't be fired. Guys who are getting enough at home don't look elsewhere.

 

Yes, it seems there is this preconceived notion that everyone is entitled to birthday sex if you are in a sexual relationship during your birthday. While I am all about sex, I am not a fan of planned sex. I realize sometimes in life things get busy and the only way to have sex is if you set aside time for it specifcally, but I typically find myself rejecting sex at times when it is expected... I don't want sex because of what day it is. I want sex because someone WANTS to have sex with me.

Hypocritically, I have an amped desire for sex during HER birthdays and special occasions. How odd.

I shall ponder this.

 

its pretty simple to say "it would be really nice if we could spend some time togther and, yknow, have sex/get it on/cum together/whatever your euphemism is on my birthday" rather than sitting there expectantly and getting sullen when you dont get your bday fuck

if it happens, it happens. if it doesnt (stress, busy, extenuating circumstances, etc), then it doesnt. i probably wont get sex on the day im celebrating my bday since my partner has a big nasty midterm the next day, i might get some the day of my bday since that day is a holiday here this year and thus we dont have school

 

No, its not a given for me personally. I probably wouldnt even think of it (and havent done in the past, weve spent a few birthdays together) but then thats just who we are. We dont really expect it on certain days, it just comes and goes naturally

 

For me, its not a given, but almost always happens. I guess that since I only have relaionships with people I really care about, sex is an almost nightly occurence anyway. The only time I've been in a relationship and not had sex on my birthday was when I got foodpoisoning and was busy making love to the toilet.

but, no its not an expectation

 

Expectations and obligation are the two biggest turn offs for me.

 

No doubt.

 

In a close relationship - heck yeah! Of course, you can't plan for every contingency, but it is definitely more important than cake... lol.

 

Some of you say it can't always be planned, which I agree with. but in the same light, it can't be 100% unplanned, or you will never get to it or think of it, especially with work, school, HW and other obligations. It does take a little planning sometimes, lets be realistic.

most everything is planned to some degree, even if just a little.

Birthday sex, isn't something that is necessarily 100% planned, as there is always room for spontaneity and the unexpected. Its not like saying, at 4pm we will do it. It is saying, during the day. still, lots of room for spontaneity.

Yes, it does require a little planning, like anything else in life. Like everything else in life, suprises will still come. There, best of both worlds!

 

meh, i asked my bf if i was getting bday sex and we sorted out which day probably. but i asked, i didnt just fucking expect it like some asstard. plus we havent had a lot of time for sex lately so its nice to let the other know were still interested in it

 

its worked out in my life that i have had no sex life on my birthday (aka being single) so i have never received birthday sex, but if i did have a girlfriend i loved, i would hope to have sex with her on my birthday.

 

sex is a very nice gift...
i mean... what does it tell you if your partner doesnt want to sleep with you on your birthday..

 

i didn't vote. i've only had sex on one of my birthdays.. and it wasn't even that good..

 

I'll go by my birthdays.


I first had sex 2 weeks before my 16th birthday, and ended up having sex 2 days before my birthday, but since the girl lived more than an hour away I did not see her on my actual birthday, but I was pretty happy anyway.

17- Had sex on the day when I told my girlfriend at the time it was my birthday, we had been going out for 2 weeks and not had sex until that day, she didn't believe me at first tho lol

18- I had sex the 2 days before but technically I didn't have sex on the day, technically it was 1 a.m. the next day

19- No, I got really drunk, DUH, fun night though anyway

20- Yes, first time it was planned cause I had told her like 2 weeks before and the day of she gave me a blowjob for the first time

21-?????? Who knows??

 

Yes. If my girl didn't want to celebrate my birthday with me and vise versa then there is definately something wrong there.

 

I voted no it's not a given only because most of the time I'm at work in June (fishing in Alaska) but when I am home on the day my wife is more than happy to take care of me

 

hec no! i think that it is a cool perk that usually happens, but i really don't think sex should ever be a given. As soon as you think it has to happen..it becomes a problem

 

Me too!