Whats my problem with people?

im the type of person who has few, close friends. i find myself lonely often though, but when it comes down to it i avoid contact with people i dont know alot. im not really sure why. maybe because i cant conversate... i usually dont talk alot, so if i try to have a conversation with someone its usually a few words and then just silence. akward silence.

 

I think only you can answer that. But I used to be sort of like that too and if your problem is anything like mine was, it's because you're not comfortable with yourself. I was really self conscious and didn't have much self-esteem, and I didn't talk a lot or feel comfortable around new people either. Now I'm happy with who I am and i'm way more confident and i'm just happy being myself, and I find it's a lot easier to relate to people and make friends that I thought it was before. Hope that helps at least somewhat.

 

Do you come from a one parent household?


Hotwater

 

no my parents are still married

 

OR maybe you just hate people

 

but yeah, i am totally insecure. i am always thinking down about myself. some day i'll get it all figured out... some day.

-telehpone, i hope im not a misanthrope.

 

Lots of missing pieces to the info puzzle and I'm hesitant to prompt you to divulge out of respect for your privacy. General questions might be how strong was the family bond reinforced in day to day life? Was a family sit down dinner the norm and was there an abundance of conversation that included you? Did you have alot of friends growing up?

 

my family has always been really supportive and great... but we are all crazy. like telephone said, i think its more of a me thing. i need to do some soul searching. i am the entire problem. i just need to figure out what i think about that makes me say/do/THINK crazy ridiculous things.

 

In a nutshell, it sounds like you either spent too much time with your mother, or not enough time with your father



Hotwater

 

Well- maybe you're just happier alone. It's a rather bumpy road trying to "fix" yourself when there's probably really nothing wrong. I don't see a whole lot to trust in most people these days and I'm inclined to think you're just wise beyond your years.

 

na i spent about even time with my parents. maybe i should mention that i get depressed on and off. its been like this for a few years now... it actually got drastically better when i started smoking weed the summer before senior year. but i still have off days, like today.

yea i hardly trust anyone, your right... people these days can be kinda a let down.
i spend about 13 or so hours a day in my dorm room alone, ever since my roomate moved out. i like it because im more productive, but some days it sucks.

 

I must say I think it's good that you were mindful to things and you should just not worry about things or why things are the way they are really... just do things that make you happy and really life doesnt always have to be one set way.

 

on days when you get like that and feel like that why dont you just go out, not put pressure on yourself, but go out and do one thing... take small steps? i used to be less social then i am now at some points of my life but i find i am happier when i go out and do things- to an extent.

 

The good news is shyness is the one disorder universally accepted by most psychologists as being completely curable

As for depression it's a state of being I couldn't even fathom

Hotwater

 

But being introverted and being shy are too different things though and often a distinction needs to be made or understood.

 

Good Point

Dr. Freud, I presume


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Just logical.

 

obviously not, what she said actually made sense

 

Hahaha, that is truly funny. Thank you for it. Hah.

 

Well at least you are looking at yourself. Since these things trouble you it is real healthy to do some self examination.

Wish you the best!