He got served!!!!

I had a feeling it happened yesterday cause his screen name was on for about 6 minutes when he got home from work, and then it was idle for the rest of the night. And it was poker night at the bar last night and I think as soon as he got served it sent him over to get drunk and high!!!

He just called my dad a few minutes ago asking him if he knew what I did? And my dad is sort of friends with him so he played stupid. Steve said that he's going to fight me for the sole custody. He doesn't want me to have sole custody! So whatever.. I'm still going to win. Even if he can get someone to pay for a lawyer.. And DCF will get involved and their gonna check out the houses and see his dirty shitty apartment that is unsafe now for a kid.. and they'll drug test him and everything. So he's feeling the pain now!!

I feel such an awesome rush right now. I finally feel like I have some power. He just got his whole world turned upside down, and now he knows what it feels like to feel some pain!!

I love this feeling. I know I'm being an evil scorned woman, but hey he's unfit. It was my lawyer who decided that supervised visitation was the best route anyway. I never even mentioned it to her. Also child support, but apparently he doesn't care about that. Even though he'll have nothing left to his paychecks between the irs and the child support! hahaha I love being the one in control.

So that's the update as for now. I'm sure I'll be learning the date of the hearing for temporary custody soon. Can't wait to see him in court. That will make me feel even more empowered.

 

cool, go you

 

Good for you... embrace your inner evil... you're not someone he's going be able to push over. Good luck and stay strong.

 

why do so many use their kids as keys for personal war? you know how fucked up that can make someones childhood?

 

^^ thats not the only reason shes doing this. steve is a bad father, period. all he does is get drunk and does coke, its not a safe environment for a child, and its not something a guy his age should be doing. the "personal war" is just a bonus, not the reason

 

Good! I've seen your posts, always down in the dumps. It's time to take control, good job.

 

ahh, good job then

 

Thanks everyone!!! I'll write more after the hearing for temporary custody. As for now I'm just gonna try to keep on getting stronger! It feels good.

 

go Jadesmom, its your birthday,go Jadesmom, its your birthday...

Good for you, I'm glad for the good news!

 

i was wondering now that hes served and it sounds like hes going to be fighting you for custody if you have tested yourself to see if ur clean. i was just thinking one of them home test things from rite aid or something for like 10 bucks. it would really be awesome if he trys using that against you and then you test crystal clean. he prolly might not bring it up since hes got so much shit in his system that would fuck him if he had to piss but still. im really curious as to what happens in the court date to see what he tries to pull.

 

Not yet, but this kind of thing takes a long time so if and when he does bring it up they will test me. But it probably won't be for a couple months. But I've been clean for at least 2 weeks now. So I should be good.

But he's got absolutely nothing against me besides that so believe me he WILL try to use it against me! Especially once they start drug testing him.

 

ok well i wish you all the luck.

i totally agree.im dealing with the same thing.ex girlfriend going to court makeing up lies and getting 300 a week from me for child support.judge wont listen to a word i say.hired a lawyer today.hes a little scared of me at the moment.he thinks im the type to waLK into the courtroom and kill the judge.wich i am.but anyways i cant stand when women use children as weapons.and with that im done with this thread

 

lol im not using my child as a weapon! It wasn't even my idea to do all that shit to him. The lawyer said that given all the information about him that supervised visititaion and my full custody was best! He's an unfit parent, and he'll lose in court. It's your responsibility as a parent to pay child support, and it's also your right to fight for your child. And I'm glad that steve is going to try at least, but unfortunately it's out of my hands, and any sane judge would agree.

So please don't tell me that I'm using that as a weapon cause I'm not. That was not my intention. I'm doing what's in the best interest for my child, and not for her father. I still want them to have a relationship..

The point of this thread was to tell everyone that I'm better.. I've finally got the ball in my court, and it feels good.

 

i can see how these custody cases could make a man kill his ex. nobody short of a monster deserves to have his kids taken away. id make someone dissappear if they tried to take my kids.

 

How someone can be happy at all when their family is falling apart is amazing to me. Almost as amazing as putting such details about ones life in a public forum. I am not trying to sound like an asshole or anything, i just can't understand it...not how i am built mentally i guess.

Anyways, have a nice day!

 

Then reword it so you don't.

Perhaps something about having her daughter around will motivate Renee to find a way of creating happiness- or at least a convincing act of it while the turmoil and wrangling unfolds in and out of the court room. It's certainly heartwarming that someone new would take the time to comment on a personal matter in a manner that they would apply a disclaimer such as "I am not trying to sound like an asshole or anything" when clearly you realize that it's exactly how you're going to come across.

If it looks like a dog, barks like a dog...

 

Naa, i won't reword it. Like i said at the end of the post, 'i' (meaning me if you didn't know) don't understand it. What i mean by that statement is i do not understand what someone would get out of posting all of this on a public forum. Release, maybe? Attention? Advice? I just don't get the reason, the story seems like a personal thing. I guess i am just not that open. Being as we are in stoner chat, it should be no surprise that i am rather baked, and sometimes have a bit of trouble getting the correct wording out.

Even though i may be 'new', i have been lurking for a very long time, so please don't take me for a newbie because i don,t have 10,000 posts, and registered in nov.

Have a swell day my friend

 

Re-wrote the whole thing...

I got a bit carried away in the original response here...

I can accept that you think the way you think but when I re-read my own reply I was struck by my telling you to avoid escalating one issue while at the same time I was escalating this myself.

I can't say that I agree with what you posted but my agreement is not any type of prerequisite.

Peace.

 

Forgot: I promised to keep my mouth shut. Personal reason related to the subject of kids/divorce - Sorry all!

 

Well I'm a very open person, and I know that he doesn't know about this forum, and the threads here move very quickly. So I'm not concerned with who might read them. It doesn't bother me to share this information with the people who know all about it. A lot here dont, but it does help to get stuff off my chest. Sometimes I can't talk about certain things with certain people in my life. But here I can talk about anything. So discussing this stuff with my friends here is a way for me to get it out without having to go to a therapist.

So yea whatever. It's not that big of a deal, and for anyone that does know my ex personally you'd completely understand and agree with everything that I'm doing. I'm not trying to take revenge or hurt him intentionally. He needs to grow up and face up to his responsibilities. I'm just protecting my daughter from getting hurt in a car accident with him drunk at the wheel, or her having to be around when he's doing coke in the house. So if you don't understand that.. than you're a moron.