Sexual Morals

So i was brought up with the old "No sex before marriage!" thing drilled into my head. And I bought it for a long time.

Realizing your gay sorta screws that up, becuase marriage no longer applies to you (in religious terms, Canada has gay marriage though), so I guess my morals on it are I am against one night stands...I don't think it should be something as simple as a handshake, I believe sex should be with someone your in love with while in a committed relationship.

And of course I think adultery (especially when children are involved) is wrong...

So what are other people's morals on the issue?

 

I pretty much agree. Emotional/loving/Physical sex > purely physical sex.

But also marriage ≠ love

 

I think there are good reasons besides 'The Bible said it' to avoid one night stands - for most people: sex is generally BETTER with someone you love and have a 'true' relationship going. I say for most people because there do seem to be some people out there who genuinely happier (living a more moral life, according to their own standards) screwing around. It doesn't appeal to me, and clearly not to you, and I think, not to the vast majority. But if some people want to do it that way, and no-one gets hurt, I don't see a real problem...

As for adultery, in as much as it involves actual cheating on someone, I think that's pretty shitty. But I'm not convinced it's necessarily any worse when children are involved... Surely it's just as important for you, as a gay person (less likely to have children involved) not to cheat on partners?

Morals should be seen as guidelines, whatever those morals are. If you see them as absolute laws you'll just end up feeling terrible needlessly when you break them... cos it can happen to you just as easily as it can happen to those you might consider immoral.

 

Well Boys and Girls, while I would not want a steady diet of one night stands, there certainly is something to be said for the occasional wild, insane, frothing mad, screaming sex session with someone you've never seen before nor likely will see again. Something about that level of barbaric, reptilian-brain rutting that help define the savage from the civililized....I'm not comepletely convinced that one is superior to the other. That said, one should always wear their rubbers when going out for a frolic. Have fun with each other, kids

 

LOL I completely agree with yarapario

 

Indeed. If you want a universal absolute 'moral commandment' on sexuality let it be safe sex.

 

I dont believe in love, so one night stands are sorta' all I have.

Ho hum.

 

Well a lot of these rules were made up to control the population a couple thousand years ago, some not all that relevant anymore.

There are many civilisations that predate us that were based on polygamy or communal partnering / parenting; American Indians, much of the South Pacific etc, civilisations that were successful.

Consider the possibility that humans were never meant to be monogamous.

In the end good sex is everyones favourite thing, and there is no greater motivator for meeting and keeping interested in new people

 

Humans weren't "meant" to be anything. There are only basic human emotions, of which jealousy is one. These emotions can simply exist in different proportions in different people.

I loathe the idea of polygamy.

Besides, you can witness trends toward protectiveness, insularity, and exclusion in relationships between animals.

 

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Morals are relative and no one should be coerced into complying with anyone's set of made up rules. All you can do is follow what you think is right but keep an open mind to something new.

 

I loathe the idea and don't care to try. What's wrong with that? If it's other people's thing, then let them go for it.

 

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are we really going to get into a philosophical debate over this


just follow yalls hearts and do whatever or whoever feels right

 

What the hell's wrong with loathing the idea of something without trying it?

 

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whatever.

 

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LOL, why what happens after 35?

That, accompanyied by the reach around is like my favourite thing, was hoping I wouldnt have to give that up till my 60s


Talk of Top and Bottom was always a bit of a red flag for me, It was always like - "Okeeey, so you're in the fun park, but you only want to play on half the rides?"