boy advice!!!

At school I don't talk to many people because I don;t know what to say or how to start a conversation. That means I can't talk to hot guys either. does anyone ahve any advice for me? I like this kid (he's cute) who sits next to me in Biology class. I have never talked to him befoer besides when i was asking what hte homework was. What should I say to him? How do I get a conversation started with someone?

 

OK, high school boys are just as terrified as you. Pretty much anything you say to them will be good. Cross a room to talk the fact that a guy is wearing a T-shirt of a band. That makes it fairly clear to all his mates while leaving him totally oblivious until you've left and they say: "Dude, that girl totally wants you."

 

Guys ARE just as terrified as you are. I suggest just saying hi to him every once in a while. Strike up a conversation about anything with him. That will make it a lot easier to really get to know him.

 

ummm smile at him....if you are cute he will take notice, or just look at him from time to time, he will get the message and prolly take the initiative to start a convo.

 

OK, talked this over with a few mates, and I think we may have stumbled on something quite phenomenal here.

 

yeah, but i don't know if that's necessarily the best course of action, as high school boys, especially only 15 year old boys, tend to be quite immature and you could get your feelings hurt if you put yourself on the line too fast.

i would say just take it easy and start up conversations with him more regularily in bio class, about the work and the prof etc, then go from there. ask him what other classes he's taking, maybe, and just try to keep it cool. just talk to him like a normal person, and soon enough you two will get along fine.

 

I have the same problem as you, but im a guy. I'm no good at starting conversations with people or anything like that. There is a girl at school, that i actually already met over the summer, but i havent really talked to her in school yet. I'm just not sure what to say if i go up to her. Also, it is hard for me to go up and talk to someone who does not acknowledge me, like if they dont realize i am trying to talk to them. I feel so dumb if i wave to someone and they dont wave back. Worst feeling ever.

 

And then you just regret not talking to her every night. I know how it is man...

 

I think you're crediting guys with too much sophistication. At that age I had a mate I really wanted to fuck and it messed me up badly; if a guy wants to be friends with a girl, the worst headfuck he can have is for her to then start making moves on him, especially very subtle ones that could be interpretted in many ways.

If yr straight with a guy, he will at least be ok with you. The problem is that at that age there is a huge disparity between male and female development, so it's really hard to read each other. Fact is, the little emotional games that girls think are cute and beguiling at that age just piss guys off immensely, and if they weren't bubbling with hormones and desperate for a shag they'd probably just telll you to fuck off.

that said, I haven't slept much lately, might jsut be gibbering like a tool

 

High school guys are stupid. I used to be one of them. Just know that if you're good-looking, you're in for sure. If you're average.. Well, just don't screw up. Make sure your voice is crisp and loud; eye contact; etc. Oh, and chuckle at his jokes even if they're retarded.

Try to get his MSN or Yahoo too. It's very handy for high school kids (and for you non-high school people, don't even think about using MSN to flirt).

 

well, honestly, iv just gotten over the same problem, like in freshman year i didnt talk to ANY guys, now i have tons of guy friends. all it takes is to talk to one, and then the second is easier, adn so on....

as for this particular guy just friggin talk to him! the worst thing i realised is THINKING about talking, it only makes u more scared and unsure. just talk, and b yourself. start regular convos. if he likes u he llikes u, if he doesnt no big loss, u no? just dont make it out to b a bigger thing then it is, i mean comon, hes just a person, not some type of monster! lol

 

yeah i get all depressed when i come home from school and havent talked to her.

 

I know it's all a question of overcoming nerves, but seriously, no matter how emotionally frail you are, if you talk to him/her and they blow you off, it's better than not doing it and not knowing whether they would or not. If someone tells you to fuck off, it can't eat you up inside the way uncertainty can.

 

yeah thats true i guess

 

It's hard to do when it's someone you think you're in love with, but if you don't talk to them you're probably not in love.

 

ack...lol..k..heres my problem..I like this guy, Ive like him for a few months..he great..anyhow, he told me a month ago that he likes me, and I told him I liked him too, then we didntgeta chance to talk to eachother for like a month, now we are talking again..I still like him a whole lot and sometimes I think he likes me too..but im not sure..and hes the type of guy thats just so great, that all his gal pals seem to have thing for him. He lives a il far away from me but that dont bug me. i just wish I knew ow he views me...friends is still awesome, but I just wish I knew how to tell for sure if he likes me still.

 

Being a guy who is a closet romantic ask him our, or ask him if he wants to go on a walk....Just go for it, e may have forgotten but once he sees you he may have hte old thing for you again, it's happpened to me...

 

I know..it's hard. But if you don't do it...it just getting harder and harder for yourself because you think about it all the time.

Get too know his interests; Like if he listened to music or something like that ask about what he likes too listen too.

But one thing: The first words are the hardest, but believe me the words after that are better.

Don't end up (like me all the time, when I had a crush on a girl) empty handed because you didn't try. Thats harder for yourself than the first words...

 

i have a similar problem, im scared to talk to girls but then when i pluck the courage to talk to em i act like a twat outta nerves grrr it pisses me off

 

first time i asked a girl out i was high...its like the funnest video game you can ever imagine