If your current or past sex life has any kind of dominance/submission dynamic, please share: What do you or your partner do in their role as dominant? Anything from whips to cuffs to attitude... big or small, what makes a person dominant?
Here's a few to start y'all off... - handcuffs and/or ropes (you could put the cuffs in the freezer before hand) - control is key... nothing goes on without the dom(me)'s permission - fishnets and big boots are super sexy - ????...(share the wealth!)...????
yeah the idea of my partner hurting me really doesn't turn me on at all. I have been tied up before and that was fun. And once my ex and I got in a huge argument over something that was my fault and in a fit of anger I slapped him (it was wrong one and only time, I was really young, I don't have anger issues) and he spanked me and said something about how if I was acting like a child he was going to treat me like one it was infuriating but we had really hot sex afterwards and we stopped fighting...well now we're not together. But that is different than someone actually wanting to be dominant over me...I wouldn't like that. I like domineering men but not dominant men...if that makes sense?
the need for a safety word. things can get to painful. wat makes a person dominant is they have total control obviously. and the sub does wat they are told, but they are also in control. the sub sets the limits of punishment and such. thats if you're going hardcore.
Um... If you use duct tape, make sure you don't wrap it too tightly or leave it on too long. A nice guy would have put something underneath the sticky part or just used a bandana, but whatever....
