My girlfriend who i've been dating for about a week now told me hooking up isn't as great anymore. We've been hooking up for around 2 months but only dating for a week. We usually just do the same thing, me on top and i'm kind of inexperienced. I cum really fast sometimes. . I go too fast at the beginning and i just explode. I hate that i do that, i rarely masturbate anymore , i don't really enjoy it that much. Any advice on how to please her more and on switching things up would be helpful. I don't think we're ready for anal or anything yet, but what could we do in bed to change things up and keep it fresh? I'm always on top and we usually kiss and make out while i'm in her. Also any advice on lasting longer would be very much appreciated.
Premature ejactulation comes with being inexperienced...as you get more practice, you'll be able to hold out longer. Also, try masturbating and just when you feel like you're ready to orgasm, stop what you're doing and let the urge pass, then start up again...eventually, you'll learn to control when you ejaculate. As for pleasing her more, try different positions. Search google for ALL the different positions one and their partner can get into. Try oral sex and maybe even introduce toys into the bedroom. Maybe she needs a change in scenery too so try doing it in different places (different rooms, in the shower, in the car, outside, etc).
I would suggest communication rather than gimmicks. The fact that no curiosity has arisen for foreplay or exploration is important.
Having sex with a women is kinda like driving and old car you should always get the motor warmed up before driving her home. You can talk to her about it but women like a guy who can surprise them take charge find out what she likes. Trail and error. If you are feeling like you are going to cum to fast back out explain you wanna change positions take a breath and get control then go again. Make the extra effort for her and let her know it is all for her.
