No interest whatsoever, almost 20

Here's my delimma: Okay, I'm almost 20, still a virgin. Doesn't sound bad, right?

Honest to God, I think there's something wrong with me, in some way, sexually. I don't care about sex. I'm not interested in it at all. And it's not just sex, it's any aspect of it, including masturbation. Any of the times I have, which is only a handful of times, I don't care about it, it's not fun, it's not pleasurable, I don't like it, and I can live 100% fine without it.


The part that makes it such a problem is: I want to WANT to have sex. If that makes sense? And plus...I know guys aren't gonna stick around for a relationship if sex is 100% impossible. Cause yeah, to me, if I'm not wanting it even with consent, it would feel like a personal-view of rape in my opinion. If that makes sense... anyway


It's at the point where sometimes, I just wanna "do it, get the first time out of the way, get used to it, and just do it" except...I know that's a REALLY bad idea. Cause I'd probably regret it times infinity. But... I dunno. Just a thought I have sometimes.


A lot of people (friends, sister, etc..) tell me "You just don't know what you're missing. Once you have it, you'll want it." ...but uhm...guys, you're forgetting, in order to have it in the first place, I kinda need some sort of interest. I don't think people get that it's not just a little lack of interest, it's a complete one!

 

Go to the doctor and have tests done - hormone levels, etc.

 

How can you say you don't like something you've never tried? For example, some foreign foods look like they came outta' the rear end of a cow, but they taste damn good. You wouldn't know if you didn't taste 'em.

Just have sex with someone a coupla' times and see what happens.

good luck
Big A

 

Just wait until you find someone you really like and have been with for a while dont rush into anything with anyone just to get it out the way. I agree with hip alficionado, you cant say you dont like something youve never tried and maybe you dont have any interest in it but maybe your opinion will change once it happens. Maybe you wont even like it the first few times, i didnt, but once your comfortable and doing it regularly with someone special then its much more enjoyable!

 

I never said I don't LIKE sex. I'm saying I have NO INTEREST in it. And I DON'T like masturbation, which I'm pretty sure is a FORM of sexual arousal and all that. And honestly, as far as I see it, if I don't like that, what difference is a guy gonna make?

 

What kind of pills you be poppin'? Could be fucking up your hormones, or not. Thought I'd check that.

Have you tried porn? Like, do you know how to find it? And I'm not talking about weak stuff, either.

 

maybe you need a girl, not a guy. because between a guy and masturbation at age 20, you'd probably be better off masturbating. haha. but seriously. talk with your doctor. normally people are curious/interested (duh). if you don't find enough enjoyment out of orgasms to even be remotely interested in sex, there might be some hormonal issues or whatever.

 

The lack of interest came long before the pill popping.
And honestly, I think porn is stupid...

I had a point where I had this idea that I might be bi. I really don't think it's that I need a girl, though. The lack of interest is just weird to me. Maybe it's just cause everyone around me is so into it that it seems weird. I dunno hah
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sex is highly overrated

there are plenty of asexual people out there

[maybe not in here tho]