why the fuck do people get married??

if the baby could just.. spawn out with no body juices like blood and no pain no gross organic stuff.. then I would agree it is beautiful.

 

Not everyone thinks that.
I do.
But I think its great that the whole world doesnt share my view on this one. People like Relayer.

 

I've not touched a dead person. But I've seen quite a few in my old neighbourhoods!

 

The afterbirth, I agree, kind of made my stomach want to turn, but at that point I was watching my son get weighed and measured and the happyness I felt overpowered any repulsion from Mother Nature's process

 

Oh and Penny I just wanted to add, Im the kind of person who feels like Im going to throw up if I cut my finger with a knife, or get a deep papercut running faxes :tongue: I cant stand bleeding, it makes my stomach hurt a lot, but seeing my son born was like being controlled, I didnt have time to think and form images and opinions, I just acted.
namaste

 

when I was born (first child) my dad had to get out of the room and light a cigarette.. and he got yelled at by the nurse.. haha..

 

But thats beacuse it was your son.

 

yeah I guess you can't really know how exactly you're gonna react to something until you experience it.. you can have an idea about it - but sometimes be way off! well I'm glad it was a good experience for you at least!

 

Your right, Ive never been around another birth, at least not right up in the room, so I cant say how I would react. Probably I would get nauseas but, guess I cant say until I try it!

 

it's not so bad, really.

 

What is this big deal about birth anyway?

I have seen worse things in my life than a baby being born.
I have seen *gasp* Americans.

 

pfft. not anymore.

 

I guess, these guys stuck through thick and thin.
Unfortunately, times have changed. It's an entirely differently world nowadays.
I guess, whatever works for you, you make your own decisions when it comes to marriage and having or not having children.

 

these guys in the painting make marriage seem worse than torture or something. seriously. the painting of my marriage would.. first of.. change every day. and it would be really bright and original and different. I would look happy, and so would my husband. he definitely wouldn't be holding a fork. or whatever that is.. farm tool. he'd be holding me!

 

marriage is a dying institution. i dont know if many people are capable of staying married not in this day and age.

i have confidence that i might be able to stay married. i am super picky so i know i wont just be sprung of any random dude.

my aunt and uncle are 70 and they have been together since they were 16. i think thats sweet.

 

yeah, my aunt and uncle have been together since 15, and now theyre like 47 or something. it's nice, although today very unrealistic. I still like it.And its not even like they can't stand eachother...they actually adore eachother still.

i'll be happy if I get something like that.

 

that's really great.. if they still love each other and are still together just cause they want to.. it's really awsome!

 

aww thats sweet

yea i think we would all be lucky to get something like that. no marriage is perfect. i have notices that all the people i know whos marriages have worked really have their space from each other - for instance my aunt and uncle who have been together for 60+ years - they never felt the need to spend every second together. he spend most of his life building sets for movies and was on location a lot of the time. they both have said that without that time apart during the year they wouldnt be able to handle each other!!

 

i think if woman has a child it gives more stability to children and the whole family as a unit too....
and anyway i think that people who wants to fool around dont want to get married...but the loyal types family orientated, for them its all they dream of...commitment and security as opose to freedom and choice

 

I don't see why marriage would mean no freedom and no choice though.