it annoys me that our natural lives aren't a little longer. i'm in no hurry to get there. fearing it, and i'm not claiming to be completely at peace with it, isn't going to do me a bit of good though. as for belief, well, i have a certain confidence of having lived other lives on other worlds before this one. i don't know for certain what comes between lives, maybe an instant of nothingness in which untold years, perhapse even centuries pass in the tangable world of the living, or again possibly, a parallel universe like that in which my dreams are lived. it seems a pretty long shot though, for anything anyone pretends to know, about what is not known, to turn out to closely resemble whatever is. so i take the claims of organized beliefs as to the nature of what comes next with something of a rather large grain of salt, while again not dismissing out of hand, the possibility that SOMETHING might. =^^= .../\...
interesting thread i don't fear death, i fear the pain for health reasons, i have a DNR order (do not revive) i don't know about an afterlife who knows... i do know that you know when you are dying a couple of times in the past, doctors said your going to die etc i just didn't feel it would happen it didn't one time i felt yep, this is it nearly was (this was before i had the DNR order)
The afterlife, heaven and all that, there's no way of knowing. Some people believe there is, some people believe not. But I think it's a shame that people who fall into the latter group feel the need to mock those in the former group for relying on their beliefs due to 'fear' or whatever other reason. Because these people rely on their own smug sense of self importance just as much as the religious rely on God. As for me, I'm on the fence as far as the afterlife goes. I don't fear death because I am not dying, and I'm also in the fortunate position of never having lost anybody close to me. My answer might be different if either of these points change.
I'm not afraid of death at all. I don't believe in an afterlife either. But just because I believe something doesn't make it true. I don't really care. *shrugs*
Fear is broken down into a few levels. There are those that "happen" and those that require action. Here is a partial list of level one fears devided into those types. Those that happen: Aging Becoming disabled Retirement Being alone Children leaving home Natural disasters Loss of financial security Change Dying War Illness Loosing a loved one Accidents Those requiring action Going back to school Making decisions Changing a career Making frinds Ending or beginning a relationship Having a child Asserting oneself Loosing weigh Being interviewed Driving Public speaking Making a mistake All you need to do to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. Because if you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you have to fear? Absolutely nothing. At the bottom of everyone of your fearsis simply the fear that you can't handle whatever life may bring you.
I don't believe that there is an afterlife. I don't fear death. I would like to die before I get old but I won't commit suicide.
you can't have life without death, they are evaluative terms which depend on contrast for their meaning..... every now and then you have to go off so that you can know you're on.
I do not believe or disbelieve in anything, so I do not worry about death and I do not avoid it. I kind of look forward to it, as I am curious about the Big Mystery. In the meanwhilst I just enjoy life.
night rose where did you get that fear stuff from because the levels of fear seem ramdom and no structure or reasoning i am just curious as always and am not being personal nor am i trolling
I've learnt them from some of my own experiences lately. I was asked to memorise the five truths about fear, and I simply quoted the first two. The list of things that happen, and require action were my own list, in my own words.
every one has their own fear process and different process on dealing with it doesn't make any of it less valid if i were to die tomorrow i would have no choice but to deal with it from where i'm standing right now i'd honestly have no problem with it... i'd feel like i'd be leaving this world with no imprint of myself though i think thats the main thing keeping me here, i've thought about ending it, tried it, but honestly i'd leave no legacy, and that is an important part of my life every one has their purpose, their life to live and they will live it to their fullest no matter what i believe in personal choice but i also believe in destiny there is a combined effort you live the life you are ment to live combined with the life that is destined for you every choice you make changes the road you are on, but you are always on that road death is not something to fear but embrace, it is entirely a part of life
I can worry about death when i die. right now im busy living. you know, going to work and posting on the internet and driving around and getting fucked up and all that. death is when i stop doing all that.
thanks nightrose i wanted to know if it came from you or a book you have a good memory of course, life is for living but death is a part of life and it is good to talk about it eg what do you want when you die organ donated buried eg you know your friends and family want should they die
You have a good point , and of course fear is too. The thing with fear though, I believe that what you must learn is that whatever happens to you, given any situation, you can handle it. Because not only are you experiencing fear, but so is everyone else. Pushing through fear is less freightening than living with the fear that comes from the feeling of helplessness.
i think that's what it's about getting thru challenges is part of the learning curve of life and change of outlooks and being out of your comfort zone
