how do you feel about 3somes in a marriage?

Okay so I'm married and my husband doesn't care for sex too much b/c of past relationships with women that went bad.
The other day, he brings up having a 3 some. He admits that he would like to have one and even tells me that we could look online or in the paper for a woman who would want to have a 3 some.

I am so not into this idea one bit. I told him this. I told him that I am dedicated to him and the idea of him sticking his dick in someone else really pissed me off and I would probably leave him if that ever happened.

I could not sit there and allow him to have sex with another woman.

Of course, he didn't see the logic in that.


and now I have to say, I'm pretty hurt b/c he's willing to have a 3 some but not willing to get close to me.

how do you feel about 3 somes in a marriage?

 

well if you feel so strong against it then don't it will only ruin your marriage..
are you bi?
or will this only be fun for him?
I'd have one with the man I'm with now (even though he's against it)because I trust him so much not to ever cheat on me, but I'm also bi so I'd get alot of fun out of it..

 

man!! The wild side of me is like Hmmmm. But the rational side is like, not so good for a real rleationship. The only reason I say this is because some girls have some really great bodys, and I am not bi. Just that a nice nipple is a nice nipple, I don`t know if I woud suck on another girls tit, but I know guys like it, obviously. And I like to have mine sucked on. Feels real dam good, like to have them bitten too. (smilin)

I do like to see a bare tit on the right girl. Envy?? don`t know. Like a guys` cock filling me too,,,too much info?? oh well, love to get pounded to be truthful. Ridin good. Just don`t know if I take a chance on my guy wanting to be with "Her" more than me,,,ya know.

 

in a marriage, without ever having had one before getting hitched? hells no, sounds like a good way to destroy a commtiment
totally differnet if the couple in question has experimented some prior to settling down fully, so taht they know theyll be ok with that sort of thing. your situation just sounds like trouble though, with you being so, um, uninterested in it

 

If he has problems being intimate with you alone, then it's probably not a good idea. If you had been very comfortable with that sort of thing and had experimented before, it would be fine. I've had a couple with my boyfriend and we're pretty committed to each other.

 

If you feel like he's not intimate with you and you're not comfortable with the idea of the threesome then you shouldn't do it. You should only do a threesome if you are open and comfortable with the idea and your relationship... Tell him too bad.

 

Narco's dead on. Normally I'm all for threesomes, but you absolutely can't bring someone else into the bed if your sex life isn't healthy already. Your husband needs to learn how to properly fuck the girl he's with before he starts getting ambitious.

 

We have done it, and would again. I actually prefer it to be the MFM, but that is because most of the females we have had a FMF really turn out to be FFM and they are lesbian not bi. Make a frustrating situation for me, plus i love seeing my wife pleasured out of her mind by two men.

Poor girl has not had either in a while and she loves the touch of another woman.

 

Have had 3somes with my wife and another woman, loved it. So did my wife.

 

If both partners are SECURE with themselves and their relationship, I see nothing wrong with experimenting. My girlfriend and i are actually planning to have a MFM 3some..think it's hot.

 

First let me say that a threesome can be fun for a married couple, but not you guys. It takes a healthy marriage to enjoy something like a threesome. Maybe you should turn the tables on him and tell him that the third person has to be another man. If he will agree to that, then he is thinking of your pleasure above his own. It sounds like he has forgotten about your needs somewhere along the way. I would be pissed about THAT, more than if he had sex with someone else.

good luck
James

 

If you like to get pounded, why not go for two men and you? You can have two men suck your tits, pound your ass, and eat you out.

 

everytime i've known couples into being swingers or who have threesomes. they always seem to end up splitting up later on down the road because of things like that.
if someone's going to do that, i'd say it would be best for a woman and a man who weren't in a serious longterm relationship. because someone ends up getting jealous or whatever.

 

Seems like it would be fine if you could have another male.That seems fair.

 

What does it say in your marriage vows??

 

it kinda sounds like your husband might be using this as an excuse to have sex with another woman. perhaps the sex you do have isn't exciting enough and he's trying to spice things up and live out his own fantasy.

i'm sure you've tried to spice things up on your own, but really listen to what he would like sex to be for you guys, and then be proactive. especially if you aren't interested in a 3some.

my bf likes when i dress up in costumes. at first i was like ,"uhm... that's wierd to me." but i went to a costume shop with my bestfriend, tried some on, and it made me feel totally sexy and more in control. be sure to get the works, not just the outfit tho. blow his mind. i don't think any guy would turn down a naughty nurse. -wink-

 

If your sexlife isn't going well it could potentially ruin it completely, you do need a healthy sexual relationship with a lót of trust to be able to something like that. I've talked about it with my boyfriend; but I'm not sure if I'd dare just yet, maybe someday, but if its not going perfect between you do; its a huge risk.

And the sign he suggested it; might be that he's bored with the sex life; try and make it more interesting somehow, try new things, he might not feel the need for a threesome then, and if he does it'd probably be purely experimental; which it should be.

 

i erased what i had here b/c it was unnecessarily long.

 

I have read a bunch of articles about this. Usually 3somes are the sign of a problem in a relationship and most often lead to the end of a relationship. There are some very unique people are able to have these kinds of relationships, but it is pretty rare.

 

It sounds like he just wants to have a free pass to have sex with another woman. Tell him that you want a threesome with another man, in the same respect he wants another woman. Then see what he says.
I have been in a threesome with a married couple and it was something that they SHARED and enjoyed together. Even if your husband doesn't want to do anything with another guy, why shouldn't you enjoy two men holding and carressing you.