Would you date a fat person?

Reading some of your comments you guys are living are kind of upsetting.. cause my being a bigger girl, makes me feel like you guys won't even give a person a chance.. If you got to no somone that is bigger we are some of the nicest people you can come by. Ya we worry about being big but we have other things on are minds. we don't care what other people think. And for someone to judge someone by how much they weigh is like judgeing somone on if they have blue or brown eyes. It is just crazy to think that you won't even get to no someone because of it.. Every bigger person as a reason to why they are big weather it be a bad reason or a stupid reason.. I am bigger cause I have had depression since I was four and when I was old enough to feed my self I felt like food was the only thing that was there for me.. so I would eat to make myself feel better.. ya it was a stupid reason.. but that does not make me who I am. my personality does.. and people who won't give bigger people a chance cause they are big it is just fucking stupid!

 

WAIT...wait...wait! Big girl, no one here is saying that a fat person has no right to be dated. I mean, nobody is perfect n everybody cares about will or won't he/she be able to attract and date the person he/she is attracted to. I have used up a lot of money to reduce my weight, not only to wear smaller pants and save my bucks, but to be more attractive. Lets face it, all the weight loss trainers r not earning in a hoo-haa but, because obesity is seen as the most unattractive curse. I was fat and i dont felt attractive n the same feeling passed on for other obese people in my mind and hence i dont have fat chicks at first place on my list. But, thats because "I" was obese and thats what i want to tell, choices of all people r not same but, depends on how he lived his life. For example, if u love an ex-big man, be ready to cut up ur meals because he most probably have had enough of that fat already...BEST OF LUCK.

 

OMG...this thread just pisses me off!

 

I've seen plenty of big women I found attractive. If we get along we get along.

That probably has something to do with the stigma attached to being big, and on the flip side, people lacking empathy in general for people of normal stature, as a byproduct of said stigma. There are also inevitably way more derogatory remarks in a thread like this. And I think people who write whole groups of people off are just ignorant... yes it's about their preferences, but if you have no good reasons for those preferences....

 

no sooner than I'd date a smoker.
Obesity is a health concern, as is smoking. Obesity has relation to adiction (to laziness, food, etc), as is smoking. Sure you can be big and have a great personality, and there is nothing wrong with being slightly overweight (the standards are a little unrealistic when considering how our society operates), but I believe that being overweight in an unhealthy way suggests something about one's values.

 

I think you're forgetting that a lot of people are genetically predisposed to being obese, and that that doesn't necessarily mean that they're unhealthy or lazy or addicted.

 

That type of obesity ain't unavoidable but, i have seen some very lazy guys who couldn't even pull up their zips themselves and still look very firm. So, there is no direct link b'ween lazy n fat..@@

 

People used to give me shit about being skinny all the time. Imagine if I was fat and someone gave me shit about it. Big fucking deal, right? Highly socially unacceptable, right? Tell me I'm a skinny weed though, and there's no problem. Bullshit double standard. Anyway, turned out I just needed to eat more and exercise.

To reply to the topic, no, I would never date a fat girl. A lot of people with weight issues take measures to improve; exercise, proper diet, cutting out the ciggies, etc. When I worked as a personal trainer, man, some of the girls I trained looked so vibrant and happy, and SO much better, after only a few weeks of proper diet and exercise. People like this, who are overweight and realize it, and make an effort to change, good for them. I'm truly happy for someone who starts working on themself, sticks with it and gets to where they want to be.

But there's an overwhelming amount of fat people who just could not give a shit. I work with a 23 year old girl who must be 110kg minimum. Smokes cigarettes, eats crap all the time, and I don't think it's ever occured to her to exercise. I see people like this all the time, and it's sad.

There's different kinds of fat people, and I wouldn't date any of them because I know if they wanted to, 90%+ could make the change and get rid of the extra weight. If they could just be bothered.

 

Really? You think there are more derogatory remarks in threads like this, hmm, interesting. Because I recall several threads (and not just threads in real life as well) where almost everyone bashed super skinny people saying how they were "gross" "disgusting" or saying how they must be anorexic and so on. I don't understand how it is okay to bash other body types or what-have-you, but for some reason whenever someone says that they would not date or find someone who is overweight attractive people go insane over it. And then you have some people who are overweight bashing super skinny people and saying how they look gross and stuff and how they wouldn't date someone who is boney. Now, how is this thread any different from the aforementioned? It's just total hypocrisy really if you look at it.



I just find it amusing that people get extremely upset because of something as lame as someone not dating someone who was overweight, I don't understand why this would bother anyone. Or why people feel the need to have to defend themselves as a person or who they are just because a stranger on the internet said they wouldn't date someone who was overweight. All I am saying is who cares, who really honestly cares if someone wouldn't date someone for whatever reason. Just be happy and be you and not give a flying crap...

 

This thread is great.

I would never date a fatty.

Hell, I wouldn't even date a chubby girl.

I have standards.

 

You're right, I should've really looked at it. Only problem I see here though is you pushing (or trying to push) the notion that skinny people take more heat in society, which I'll definitely disagree with.

I think most people's reasons are in fact bad, but in my case it bothers me slightly because I think people have these mentalities as a result of ignorance/lack of experience and a perception of reality that's been bombarded with heavy media distortion.

Wow dude, you're so hardcore. \m/ lol

 

Lol, hmm, so I'm pushing--oh, sorry, trying to "push" the notion that skinny people take more heat in society, lol, that's great.

I did not say that skinny people take "more heat" in society, I simply said that it is hypocritical for people to get upset when someone says something about overweight people, but yet when something is said to someone who is underweight, it is not taken to the extreme in anger and disgust as in this thread. It seems like it's more acceptable to put down underweight people then it is to put down overweight people, which both are bad to do.

You're right, in society it is looked down upon for people to be overweight, I mean I am not blind, I know this. But how can people get so upset just because someone would not want to date someone who is overweight, why waste time trying to debate that person when they are really not worth it in the long run, see what I am saying?

 

Hey, don't worry about the people in this thread or anyone else for that matter. They are ignorant and do not know any better. Dating someone so clueless to the world would not be enjoyable anyway, so appreciate the fact that you will not have the misfortune of doing so. Personally, I've always been the so called "normal," or average, weight for my age, so I cannot say I know from experience what it is like to be put down on either end (too underweight or too overweight). I do, however, know that people in both situations get a lot of slack, especially obese people. All stereotypes imaginable are attached to them: laziness, disrespect for oneself, and so on.

The fact of the matter is people of any physical size has the ability to carry these traits. This is why I do not understand why people would weed out a group of people because of their size. Would you not weed them out because of their personality? Is it not hypocritical to reject a larger person because of what you perceive to be "laziness," but not think twice about dating a thin person who may be just as, if not more, lazy? It's not that I am condemning other people's preferences. I am just trying to make sense of them.

 

All of this confusion about why this and that are "acceptable" and what's all this hypocrisy and aggression about can explained when you consider the long-standing problem of how much society looks down on obese people. This issue is simply being carried onto the Internet.

To the bold part: I never disagreed with you about the debating being, I'll say, worthless. Nearly any "debating", especially on the Internet is worthless, and it's even worse when it's all opinion-based. Just wanted to mention that.

 

I agree...I have a friend who is underweight, and no matter how hard she tries it's really hard for her to put on bodyfat. She's been teased more mercilessly than a lot of fat people have been teased...

 

I don't agree with that... How many over weight kids are picked on everyday in school or looked down on or have someone else picked over them. In this day and age I believe being a bigger person is so much harder then being thin of being to skinny. Cause after all isn't being too skinny and having eating disorders the new fashion statement.. you see if every where you go.. And not all bigger people are lazy. I am not for sure I work out three times a week. I am always running around at my waitressing job at Pannekeoeken. I know some heavier people are big cause of being lazy but not all.

 

The obesity thing is getting pretty serious in Australia. A dude I know told me his kid brother was getting picked on in school for being too skinny.. by all the fat kids. I think "this day and age" is getting so bad there's a role reversal. Fat kids are becoming the majority, and unless something changes in public awareness, the future belongs to the fat.

If you're overweight, there's a reason for it. Sure, you may be genetically predisposed towards it, but anyone can control their weight through diet and exercise. If you're exercising, but not losing size, then clearly your diet is bad.

At the end of the day, obesity is not natural. It's a result of modern day comfort and easily accessible/crappy food. In a world of McDonald's, cars, television and the internet, it's going to take an effort to stay active and healthy.

 

You're right, but I would like to also add that it seems to me that it is more acceptable for males to be overweight then females. And also, are we talking about overweight or obese because to me these are way two different things. To me obese is like where you are extremely overweight to where you have trouble walking or get tired extremely easy. Overweight is just that, weighing more then your "supposed" weight.

Hmm, really? That's interesting because I was on something called Lupron which made me gain 20 pounds, I exercised my little heart out, I also took Diuretics because it made me retain tons of water, but nothing got that weight off. As soon as I stopped Lupron, my weight went back to what it was. So, I would have to disagree with you on that. Plus there are health related conditions plus medications that make people's weight change.
I also want to point out that you can be "overweight" and healthy. Again, obesity and overweight are two different things to me.

In my opinion I'd have to say that is false, of course if you watch television they will make you think that underweight people are the new fad, but in the real world if you are really skinny you are labeled as being anorexic, just like if you are overweight you are labled as someone who eats a lot of food. Both are wrong to assume about people.

 

Oh man!!! this thing is getting more than a poll...It is becoming an international debate-type thing. Views r all personal and nobody can impose his thoughts on somebody else. So guys n gals why not let this whole thing be a "yes" or "no" topic!! C'mon guys n gals, the world is watching us.

 

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