So, i must say i love my current girl friend. I wish for her happiness, but i feel a abstract conflict raging within me like a wild fire. Ever since i was 14 i had so many ideas of how i wanted to live, do and experience. But my girl friend at the time thought my dreams were immature and irrational. Now my current gf Taylor, tells me she thinks its good i have dreams. I do feel that she supports my dreams, but i feel a obligation to sacrifice them for her. I want to make her happy, and even if we will not be together in the future, i still want her to be happy. Im just conflicted, i fear she may not be so comfortable with the things i want to do, but as long as we are together, then she is happy. I know this may be hard to read, but its so fucking hard to put what i am feeling into words. At times i want to be with her, and others i want to have the freedom to blaze my trail, free from this worry. Thank you.
With me , my dreams come first. We're conditioned /born to value things like girlfriends etc , and not break them off at the drop of a hat. Youre 17 and you will both develop regardless- that may or may not mean growing apart- new surroundings etc. Be very slow to sacrifice your dreams , I dont think Id ever sacrifice mine. If someones right for you , theyll probably have the same passion for your dreams as you.Have a balance between being happy today and with any gf's and working towards any big dreams you have.What you do now , creates the rest of your life Good luck!
I couldn't agree with Ress more; NEVER sell yourself out, point blank. You have those dreams for a reason-because you want them, because to you, they will make life worth living and perfect. As cliche as it sounds, the world is something to the extent of 8 billion plus people strong and growing; you will find someone into the same things as you. Also, I'm totally not advocating dropping your GF and never looking back; just make it known that you MUST always be true to yourself and if that isn't acceptable, perhaps you may make better friends in the long run. Good luck man, I hope either way that you find happiness and meaning in your life.
Thanks guys, that really helped. I talked to her about it last night, and she supports my dreams. I think its just best if we take things daily, enjoy the relationship now, whether it lasts or not.
Your young and you need to make TONS of sacrifices in life. Take it one day at a time because life will do a 180 on you and than you'll be thinin' Man, what the heck did i do ?? Its nice to say , and do but when everything is boiled down to it ... really is it really worth it. At 17 i was engaged 3 times and i am not married to any of those guys. I had to make sacrifices to the understanding that life is not worth it sometimes. day by day man.
Yeah you have to follow your dreams. If you dont youll end up regretting your life, and thats one thing you dont wanna do. I am joining the military and even tho my GF and parents and basically all my friends are against it, its what i want to do and thats who i want to be. Im sacrificing a great deal to acomplish a goal that no one thinks i will be able to do, or wants me to do.
