my best friend

okay,
so I have several contacts i.e. dealers, y'know? as many of yous will.
And my most-trusted is an actual friend of the family
and they don't know what's going on between us.

now, my best-friend (and former girlfriend) met him.

the only thing i ever buy from him is weed and LSD.
i have bought cocaine once or twice, but am not into getting heavily addicted to anything like that.
with LSD, i have been doing it since the first time, when I wanted to experience it; i wanted to know the unknown and all that.
and, weed, quite frankly, is less damaging than tobacco and relaxing, so its for recreation.

but thats my prologue over.

the point of this post is that my Ex has been going to his house every night for the past few days
and is doing lines and lines of cocaine from his table
taking weed from a pipe
drinking alcohol
smoking tobacco
and i know that this guy has ecstasy and heroin from time to time
and she's there,
with two 25 yr old men and she's only 15
and she's like "am not addicted, i just like it" (meaning coke)
and am worried about her

ah mean
i've done all that wrecklessness in my life
it's all experiences to me
but i have read a lot about these things
know the score, y'know?
i respect this stuff
i know my limits

yesterday
she ended up twenty miles from home
standing outside a starbucks and checking her mascara in the window reflection
and she phoned me to tell me her symptoms

i think she's gettin on the early days of what could become frequent and then eventual dependancy.

when i used cocaine back in the day (am only 16, i sound so old!)
i stopped it by just saying no to myself.
replacing it with weed.
i stopped using LSD cos i didnt want a bad trip, and went into meditation
BUT
how do you help someone from going down that road if you can't be there all the time, watching there every action.

i actually nearly cried during friday night
i didnt know where she was for five hours and i thot she was dead:
she can be quite over-zealous with her intakes when she gets going.

 

perhaps you can't preclude her from going down that road. The mind of an addict or potential addict is impervious to most restrictions, including the law and well-meaning concerned friends and family. Make yourself constantly available to her. When she calls you for help or whatever, make her an ultimate priority. But for the most part you just gotta let people make their own mistakes. Strong drugs tend to be alluring and exciting until you get full access to it, then you either become a junkie or realize that getting what you wanted is something you actually didn't want.

Coke was pretty cool to me at one point, and I made plans to do it indefinitely. It was more available than other stuff, so I kept getting it, and eventually got sick of it and I haven't had a desire for anymore since.

 

i was like not that long ago and I forced myself to take other, less potent drugs instead when I was at parties or whatever.
i never buy for myself now,
but she hasn't got much will power, and i know this.
and i just got worried last night.

:S

 

So uh . . . there are two 25 year old guys getting your 15 year old ex high on coke and tag teaming her. Did you really need us to tell you that? Sorry . . .

 

i know that!
am not stupid.
one of them's gay anyway.
the fact that she's with these men isn't my problem though
it's her sudden interest in being high all the time

if i wanted advice on how to not let my ex get fucked tag team by the dealer and his gay lodger
then i woulda posted this in a more suitable forum

 

Straight Up forget about her and let her go you will save yourself alot less pain and grief. You are young man don't get all worked up over her, There will be alot more chicks in and out of your life in the coming years. The bottom line is the odds are she will proably get all fucked up and strung out and become a bad drug addict, but on the turn side there is nothing you can do. Just like burnabowl says above in his post a addict could give to shits who they hurt of fuckover as long as they get there shit and get high.And who cares if she does get strung out anyways, worry about yourself she knows dam well what she is doing is wrong. And if she cared about you at all she would not go and fuck around and do hard core drugs. And I hate to say this and be so frank but in all likely hood one if not bolth of the guys are messing around with her and most likely fucking her.But you arleady knew this man. This is a good thing if you ask me do you really want a girl who will fuck someone every time she parties with them. Or a chick sho will spread like peanut butter just for a few lines of coke ? maybe this is good and shows her true colors !!! All this shit will catch up to her sooner or later,And I know dam well those 2 guys will get tired of her after while hanging out and she will try to come crawling back to you mark my words.your best bet is not to take her back eather when she does.she will continue to do the same exact thing. She might be faithful for a few weeks or even longer but sooner or later the same shit will happenwhen drugs come into play and she gets all fucked up.So many people are like that when they are partying. They get drunk and get a few lines of coke in them and they give to shits about the person who really loves them and will fuck around behind your back without even thinking twice about it. Shit I was like that for years with my girl friend,When I was strung out and using real bad I did the same thing to my girl all the time I would go and get all fucked up and end up cheating on her with some nasty raver bitch or coke trap.Thank God in the end she stuck buy my ass with all the fucking hell and hurt I put her threw. I feel horrible about it now though as I look back at what I did to someone who loves me. I have tons of guilt. But when you are using real hard and a addict you just don't give a shit about loved ones or people who care about you at all. You will say one thing to there face and then do the complete opposite when you leave to go out for the night.All addicts when they are using are very self sentered people and very selfish and only care about themslefs. I am telling you man it might be hard as hell but right her off and let het go on her own way in life it for the best man it will save you tons of shit you will have to put up with time and time agan. she will learn in the end she made a huge mistake.Man I know its hard but In the long run its for the best for you and your sanity.Worrying about a Chick can drive you nuts ! Go out and find another girl. You are young man go out and find a girl to mess around with to feel better !!!


PS-Hears a tip, over the years I hate to say this but hears something I learned 99% of girls who like to party hard and do hard drugs like coke,Meth,Herion,or likes to drink real Heavy will cheat on you ass behind your back !sooner or later she will and she will keeep doing it may I add. I have seen it time and time again over the years.Anyones best bet is to Find a chick who does not party hard core with hard drugs aka a normal girl friend !!!!! Trying to make a relationship work when a chick who is doing hard drugs and going out all the time and partying will never ever work I don't care how hard you might try to make it work it will Not and you will just keep getting hurt, Neing in a relatioship with a chick wo you are worrying about will give you a fucking ulser and stress you out like no tommrow. Yeah mess around with chicks who like to party tand even sleep with them,and you better strap if you do-LOL-But please for your own sake keep it at that do not let feelings get involved or start a relatioship you will just fuck yourself over and get hurt !!!!!!!!!!!

 

That's so damn funny. Way to take it in stride man. ROFL!

 

That really was some funny shit it had me laughing pretty good when I read it.

 

i would've put it a bit more eloquently, but shoc is right. completly right


ps- no hard feelings shoc. i enjoy you're posts

 

Some Call Me Jim-
Try and talk to her. Let her do what she wants to do, but let her know that you are concerned about her safety.
Honestly, there's not a lot else that you can do. Ratting her out to her parents, 'for her own good' aint too cool. And there's not really any other options. If she starts shooting up, then you'll have to do something.

 

15 and into all this shit? That's.....terrible. She stands of a chance of being pretty messed up if she makes it into her 20's, if she continues this way.

You should educate her on what could happen. Sad part is it's probably already too late for talk. Actions speak louder then words. You wouldn't believe how the need to get high could destroy someone's better judgment (and I don't mean addiction).

Not really advice. But take action. That's all I can say. I still feel for one of my ex's, but if he started doing this I wouldn't care much because I have someone much better now. Don't dwell on the past.

 

there has been some good advice so far. If it were me then I'd flat out tell her exactly what I thought. Then say that I don't like who she is when she uses and blah blah blah, then tell her you're moving on with your life. If she listens, great. If not, well some people just have to learn the hard way.

 

it was a couple of weeks ago tht i made this thread i think
but thanks for all the advice
ShocBomb especially

but, like, now she's on all sorts of benzodiazepines and cannabis
she's basically goin through phases and tryin them all

ah well
al just pray she doesn't OD and keep my distance

 

and by OD
i mean go thru another phase and into heroin or shootin up somethin

 

and others call me jimmy

 

lol

 

Stop her, there is no other choice.
My friend steals his grandmothers jewellery so he can get his fix

 

How long have you been apart? She might be doing it to fill the void. If there is any chance of you guys getting back together that might help. I'm not pushing you to get back with her if you don't want to, but if that is something that you might want to do/she wants to do that might be what it takes. If not just talk to her, be straight but not a jerk. Be there for her if she needs you.
But really, it's best to let some people make their own decisions.

I got into crack when my girlfriend dumped me...did it a lot until we got back together.

 

WELL, folks,
(or at least those who check up their posts for the replies)
she has continued to be who she is,
but she has tried to coax me into that life,
and when i declined to be the shoulders that she hangs on while i drag her home and up to her bedroom and distract mother,
she stopped talking to me.

and every now and then she has something to say and then i don't hear from her for weeks,

like today,
she phoned me up and screamed and swore down the phone at me
asking we wtf i thot i was doing talkin to this guy she knows
now, i've known him since nursery/kindergarten/whatever
and his girlfriend and him were having problems so i offered him advice,
but She, my ex, didn't like that.

i don't know why.
she just screamed and swore down the phone and told me i was betraying her trust

its all rather fucked up.

 

some call him jim... other call him a............idiot...and hang up the phone....