still has feelings for me. yikes. i left him in late july, and we recently started talking again through im. i guess he was really passionately in love with me....i feel bad. hes a nice guy. i just want to be friends....we live 2 states apart anyhow. i just hope re-establishing contact hasn't prolonged his hurt. he kept asking questions about how i felt about him during the relationship, our sex life, the breakup. i was totally honest about everything. maybe i shouldn't have been. idk...is this a mistake?
if you dont want to be with him, then for the love of god let him know straight up If he still likes you and thinks theres a chance you two might get back together then he'll drive himself insane and it's better to let him know now
I feel for him-and you. I have been on both sides of the coin, and both sides are tough to handle. It will get easier in time, but for awhile, things will probably be sticky. I'm with the last two posts though, and I'm glad you were up front with him. Stringing someone along only complicates matters more.
awwwwkward. ive only ever had one ex hit on me, and thankfully im in a committed monogamous relationship. hes one of the few exes im still bitter about, and the only one ive ever faked orgasming with (first and last time we fucked)... he wanted to get together again even if it was only on the physical end, because his current gf wasnt ready to get physical (hes poly, and she was ok with it apparently) just be honest, say you hvae no interest in a romantic relationship again, etc
Is that true? Or do you just not think of being in a relationship with him again? I mean, how can you have no feelings in your heart for somebody you were once in love with? I don't know, it's strange... I still remember all the feelings I shared with the women I have been "in love" with.
Well if you tell him straight forward that there is no chance of anything but friendship and he still wants more fuck it, let the little shit suffer, what a dumb ass!
yes, its true. my lack of feelings is why i broke it off in the first place. i was once madly in love with him, for quite awhile, then over the course of a few days my feelings for him died completely. i guess i saw a side to him i didn't like. i couldnt handle his...clinginess i guess you could say. i had no room to breathe. in my heart there was no grey area though, which was strange. i went very quickly from passionate love to extreme disdain. i suppose that says more about me than about him.
You sound like you could be Spanish/Italian. All that passion can very quickly turn to disdain and even anger. You gotta love latin lovers.
Better to let him down now, then to let him think it might go somewhere when it isn't. My ex girlfriend set my her portfolio with naked pictures of her and no message. And she's seeing someone now, she lives in Austin, and I don't know how to respond.
Not to be a pain in the ass, but I think you're on to something here. Jumping from one extreme to the next could not have been his work unless...he did something extreme to you. And if it says something about you, I'd look into if I wanted to keep it from happening again.
I hope everything works out for the best. Would you think there would be any chance of remaining friends or would it be too tough?
doesn't sound like a good idea to me. if he still really likes her, then maintaining friendship with him is about the equivalent of kicking him in the balls three times a day for as long as he still has these feelings
I know, that's what I was thinking too. I figure she knows better than us what would work best, but I don't think it would fare well.
you would think, but if women really know what would work and what wouldn't, then those sadistic bitches have been maliciously trying to hurt me for years
