I am newish to being online and using the web. Lame huh? But I have "met" and chatted with some cool people. Have many of you met people you met online in real life? Was it a disappointment? How about romance? I am married and I probably shouldn't go there but I am curious. To what degree do you all think it is cheating? Being online clearly aleters the way we interact with one another. One the one hand, this is very impersonal, you really dont know me. But on the other, I have told you things in these forums I would never tell anyone else. Strange twist for the human race.
Zero. If you're married and you have a romantic relationship with someone else, it's still cheating even if it's "just online". If it's just flirting - I don't know. You and your husband will have to decide on that. That is, is it okay to just flirt a little but not take it anywhere serious? Or is it not okay? It's up to you two. It's easy to tell people things about yourself when they don't know who you are or what you look like. And if they happen to be judgmental of you, it's easy to ignore them because you don't live with them.
ive met all but two of my ex bfs online and alos met the current one who i plan on marrying via the internet on free dating sites and the like. i epersonally found it was a really good method for me - talking online is sort of like a pre-screening before you even bother going for coffee with someone to see what theyre like ive met a few guys who were hilarious and charming online, but unbearably boring to hang out with face to face. generally its been a very good experience for me, but i know it isnt for everyone
I would definatly say the romance aspect is cheating if ur married and ur spouse doesnt know about it.
ive met up with someone through an online game i play CounterStrike: Source. he lives in the same city as me. it was cool, we met simply as friends and are only friends. havent seen him since though =p but we have talked over the internet. online relationships can be fun and exciting.. you really dont know what it will be like if you meet. i give it a go anyday, i would probably travel anywhere [within aust i think] to meet them.
lve met this one guy online and we still havent met. he lives in another country. ever since the beginning we really clicked, through his emails l recognized myself in lots of things, he was smart, funny, sensitive.... l really fell for that guy, l liked him alot and never understood why he wont meet me in person. lm not being naive or anything, but it was obvious he also liked me, but he refused to meet me twice. l said to myself ok, its his choice. by chatting it all become a bit more personal and as much as l wanted it to become something more than emailing, l got freaked out and by not thinking, l said something l shouldnt have. days later he keeped on trying, l couldnt get rid of my fears, and then he gave up. and just then l changed the record, l wanted to become personal with him, tell him stuff about me l never did before, blablabla.. later watching his pics very closely, l realised he has a scarface! at first l was a bit shocked, but honestly didnt matter cause l reeeeally liked him! and it all become perfectly clear to me! once again, no matter if its internet, someone rejected him. probably had/has issues in an everyday life cause of his looks, and now once again, someone rejected him. l felt soooo sorry about what l did to him by not knowing, tried to tell him that million times, but....still today he's someone l cant get over, as strange as that can sound. l miss him. we havent lost a contact but its pretty rare. l dont know how it could be if we meet. lm hoping it could be all good. maybe someday, who knows? all in all, l believe in online relationships. despite this story of mine. l miss him so much.
-->Have many of you met people you met online in real life? Was it a disappointment? I've probably met in real life over 70 people from another online forum, and hung out with about 30 of them 1 on 1 or in really small groups. Absolutely beautiful and amazing people!! Some have been a little drugged out, but I've mostly met some very intelligent and kind people. I've made a few really good friends from this bunch. We travel across the country to see them. -->How about romance? I am married and I probably shouldn't go there but I am curious. To what degree do you all think it is cheating? I also met my boyfriend online. He was a member of the same forum and we very informally met at a gathering. We talked some more online and then one night I drove 3.5 hours to see him and another forum member at a concert. I packed up my belongings 9 months later and moved across the state. We've now been together for over 2 years. As for cheating, if you have to ask the question.......these are things you should've probably discussed Before you got married.
Oh and never send an online "boyfriend" money; they're all scam artists or really messed up and looking for drug money. Unfortunately my old friend Brad had that happen to him prolly 7 years ago. It was really sad to see him apparently in love until he found out what was really going on...
