grr my brother got a tattoo......

and its really bothering me........ it looks like its in the same area he tried to kill himself with, and its of a tornado (and its soon to be shaded in) wtf is up with that?? I never thought any of my brothers would get a tattoo....... let alone my brother who tried to kill himself....... and a tornado of all things..... this is really bothering me........ tell me that IM being stupid, please....

 

he is mutilating himself in an area which was traumatic for all of us...... I dont get it.... I think he is lookin for pain in that area again..... I know its more productive than cutting himself, but still, this is REALLY bothering me. I need someone to talk to about this.

 

A picture of a Tornado, cool I hope he goes for it






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I definitely don't like tattoos (or body piercings for that matter), but to each their own. They're the ones who have to live with them until they're old and grey -- not me.

 

Maybe he just wants to cover up the scar.

 

maybe, but still.......... its just bothering me....... its bringing up things that happened when he tried to cut himself with a box cutter. same spot and everything..... he is my closest brother and things he does like that (mutilating himself) just bothers the fuck out of me.

 

Did you try talking to him about it? Maybe ask him his reasoning behind it?

 

well I just found out about it now...........

and Im sure he is asleep by now.......

maybe I will ask him tomorrow

 

Well, I can certainly understand your concern, but I wouldn't worry too much about it until you talk to him and find out what it's all about. It could be nothing. If anything, looking at the scar could bring back painful memories and he wants to cover the scar up with a tattoo.

 

Also, has your brother been in good spirits lately? Has he done anything that suggests he might be depressed or considering suicide again?

 

but he is bringing pain into an area which was a pain for him......... like HUGE pain

 

Perhaps he's trying to turn a negative into a positive :H



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yes he has........ he had another bad relationship...... or one that went foul.....

I saw what he had on his myspace page........ about how he feels he is destined to be alone for the rest of his life (sounds like me) and now he has a tattoo over the same area as which he tried to kill himself.

 

as rat said mc,, perhaps he is just trying to fix what he fucked up in a sense...So that he doesnt need to see the scar directly anymore... maybe in his mind by covering it up will sorta cover the scars n the memories of what he did to himself... I at one time was gonna have a tattoo over one of my most obvious scars on my body. I quite frankly got sick of all the questions surrounding it and sick of making something wonderful n fulfilling to the listener n thought covering it was the way to go...in the end i didnt but it was a serious thought for a good long time... personally if it helps him to cover or mask his past that he is embarassed or ashamed of others seeing on a daily basis i dont know as if its an all bad thing .. it aint like a tat changes our personality or who we are... I also have a tattoo that i shaded in n people think it is sort of odd that i did,,, its not pretty really nor attractive n it still raises questions,,,, but like his, mine is a big black storm cloud,,, to me it just sorta represents something that was a tumultuous time in my life ... i really dont see much of a big deal in it.. but if you are that concerned ask him about it....

 

He may just be trying to cover it, and at the same time placing a reminder there. Tattoos can be very symbolic for people.

They aren't that bad, I have one and my daisies are very "me".

 

Dude, tattoo is a huge form of art, emotional, symbolic art for alot of people. I imagine your brother has alot of feelings about what happened that dont register with you, and this could be healing for him. So its okay you know.

 

pain for him or pain for others ??? its his pain mc he needs to deal with it in the way he feels best...

i can relate,,, i was a cutter a mutilator,,,, cause pain to release my pain,,, its a bit crazy but is what it was... for me the tat i have of the dark cloud was a release of the pain of what it covered up... the dark was just made dark because it was a dark period of my life underneath it,,,,

i dunno if its explaining it all that well ,,, would be much easier to speak that try n figure out the words for it...

 

like a tornado, blowing it all away into oblivion. dave's mother had skin cancer a few years ago, and she got some very large tattoos to cover up the excision marks. and then she went right back out to get a tan.

 

Tattoos are a good form of release for some people. Makes them feel more at ease in their skin. I wouldn't be too worried about it. Try and talk to him. Tattoos aren't mutilation.

 

Jesus!! that's scary !