New kid in my classes

It's the new semester at my high school and there was a new kid in my homeroom and 3 other classes that i have. So it was gym and he was sitting all by himself in the bleachers and i was with 2 of my other friends that were girls. Me and my friends were thinking about going over and seeing if he wanted to sit with us. So i went over and asked. He was like no, its ok, im fine. And i just felt so rejected, i dont even know why. Like why wouldnt he want to sit with my and my friends we are all descent looking and one of them is super hot. Did he think we felt bad for him? or something. we just wanted to talk. i dont know its been bothering me. And its awkward in all the classes with him because he just stares at me. I dont know maybe im just weird and this bugs me.

 

Its very possible that the idea of sitting with three good looking chicks could make him uncomfortable.

 

As a former high school loner I can tell you that the charity of others always pissed me off.

 

Try to talk to him again, he was probably just not expecting such a pretty girl to speak to him.
Give him another chance, regardless what happens, it will make you feel better about yourself.

 

I'm sorry it's bothering you, but my heart warms when women feel rejected. I feel a kinship with the opposite sex in those moments.


My guess is, he likes you but he resents the courting ritual. That would be me.

The best thing is to ask. Good luck.

 

My heart used to warm when women felt injected...
I felt a real kinship with the opposite sex in those moments.

 

lol. Injected with wha?

Heroin or DNA???

 

Maybe he just didn't wanna sit and chat with you guys. That's cool, isn't it?

 

He's probably just shy. I would have reacted the same way in high school. At the same time, I didn't really care much for the people I went to school with so I preferred to keep to myself most of the time.

 

Injected with what ??




What else ???

 

Maybe he just thought you were doing it out of politeness, and not out of true, honest friendship? Or maybe he was just shy.

 

QFT

 

wanting to hang out with someone has more to do with personality than looks... all you said was that your friends and you were good looking/hot. *shrugs* either hes shy, felt like being alone then, or didnt like the personality/demeanour of you adn your friends at the time

 

as a kid who moved A LOT from school to school to school, sometimes you just need to take some time alone, trying to get your bearings. you're wrung out just getting through each day for a while. you don't have anything left to jump right into friendships and socializing. it's exhausting. you did your part, don't worry about the rest. rejection is a myth.

 

I feel inclined to say that rejection seems pretty real to me.

 

nah. people put entirely too much emphasis on the whole rejection thing. it's not as important as we make it. we make up all kinds of reasons why we were rejected, when the simple fact is, someone just said 'no.' that's alright. they're not going to think about you anymore. thinking about them incessantly and what you could have done different is useless. it's not nearly as important or real as our heads make it.

 

oh. I think i know what you're saying. I was talking about the actual dismissal, rather than the subsequent agonizing.

 

yeah, everyone gets dismissed sometime. the pain we make it into, it's all fake. it's in our own heads! i used to stress and agonize. but not anymore. because 99% of the time (unless they're just dicks who like to give pain) they mean no harm, they mean no hurt, they just have their own thing and you won't make a comfortable addition. but we turn it into this big ugly pain, a devastation, a conviction that either we're not worthy or they're big ugly assholes. yeah, sometimes they are. but aren't you glad you got away from big ugly assholes anyway?

 

dont read too much into it, the guy just likes to be by himself, some may call thet wierd but it has nothing to do with you, perhaps he is just very shy. at least you broke the ice, he will know that when he is ready you are an approachable person

 

Jesus, mamacita. You're tough. Where are your insecurities?