i have a major problem. The girl i loved for the last 3 years of my life has been seeing someone. I guess i hesitated and never asked her out because i was afraid of rejection. i know she really likes me as a friend. What can i do. Theres not a day thats gone by when i havent thought about her. She is one of the most beautiful women you'll ever see. Theres always older guys hitting on her which makes me feel like i have no chance. I tried to start a relationship with other girl friends but it never seems to work becuase im always thinking of the one girl. Please give me some advice. Ive been extremely depressed the last 3 years of my life becuase of this.
If you love her, tell her. You need to sit down and tell her how you feel about her. You never know she might feel the same way about you. And if she doesnt then it is her loss. You never know when something is going to happen so tell her you love her. Tell her in person to.
xGreenBabyx, That is generally a good rule of thumb, but in this case things are not that simple. She's involved more or less seriously with someone else. Does this mean that he shouldn't tell her? Not really. But I do suggest that he examine first his motive for telling her. Does he want to tell her in the hope that she'll realize that she feels the same way for him? Does he simply want to tell her because it's the truth, but he doesn't really expect/demand for her to reciprocate that feeling? How does he feel about the other guy? Does he respect him? DOes he respect her choice to be with him? EMAT101, I've been there before. I don't have the time to give you detailed advice right now. It's even possible that I will not have the answers you're looking for. Feel free however to pm me if you want to hear my experience. Who knows, maybe you'll be able to pick something up from it. Peace, Musikero
Read the lyrics to this Blues Travelers song, its about a guy who is analying weather or not to aproach a girl. You shold take it serousely !! Most Precarious Don't you give up don't allow disaster Don't you give up don't you let her win We're talking about a "forever after" Don't you give up don't you dare give in Don't you give up don't you dare give in Doesn't it seem most precarious Doesn't it seem such a chance to take Doesn't it seem most precarious Why does it feel like a big mistake Please understand and hear what I'm saying The time is now and you don't have long She could be oceans away tomorrow So soon your chance will have come and gone So soon your chance will have come and gone Doesn't it seem most precarious Doesn't it seem such a chance to take Doesn't it seem most precarious Why does it feel like a big mistake The tight-wires strung and you're out in the middle All eyes upon you no net below Inches to go and you're almost home free Feel the wires swaying at to and fro Feel the wires swaying at to and fro Doesn't it seem most precarious Doesn't it seem such a chance to take Doesn't it seem most precarious Why does it feel like it would be a damn shame Would be forever if it meant a day How stoically I exclaim As she turns from me and walks away The light in her eyes explanation escapes you Longing to please and not feel alone And she doesn't know it but really she loves you Some day so soon you're gonna make it home Some day so soon you're gonna make it home Doesn't it seem most precarious Doesn't it seem such a chance to take Doesn't it seem most precarious Why does it feel like a big mistake Doesn't it seem most precarious Doesn't it seem such a chance to take Doesn't it seem most precarious Why does it feel like a big mistake
I would tell her to be on the same page with her...w/o expectations since she is in a relationship. Hopefully, with the closure of telling her your feelings, and having learned your lesson, you'll be able to have fulfilling relationships in the future. Sorry to hear it man, but you never know. Just keep an open mind.
3 years of depression because of this? Be decisive and do something about it. If you get rejected, such is life. If you don't get rejected, such is life. Just don't do anything with the intent of harming anyone else.
