I need some advice, any would be helpful..... I am best best friends with one of my exs. We went out for around a aweek when I was 13, and he used the excuse 'I'm gay' to get out of it, even though he is straight. At the time I was really angry and upset but then I decided I couldn't really blame him-he was a teenage guy, and at that point I was taught not to have much faith in them. One day, about a year later, I saw him at a party. I ended up getting drunk and making out with him. It's happened since on many sober occasions. Currently he is wanting to move below the waist, and I know I would never let him go as far as sex, yet there are various other activities that are tempting. But I've just stuck with above the waist so far in life. I really trust him, because he's my friend, but he's been a bit of a pig earlier in life. I'm also very sefl-concious about my body, or in case I do something wrong, as I have no idea what to do and it might destroy our friendship. Thata nd I'm not even in a real relationship with him, even though we are best friends. I have tried telling him to back off, but he doesn't listen, even if he is very subtle in disobeying me. He's not really pressuring me into it, but I know I have two choices: Go back to being simply friends with no romantics leanings, or continue forwards and face my ever-mounting fears and let him go there. I am really unsure which option to choose, as both could turn out awkward and destroy our friendship. Any advice at all is really welcome. Thanks is advance for any and everything.
Really I would just go out with him, I'm guessing your 14, and you said you have made out with him a numerous occasions, and honestly most 14 years go out to get this simple prevlige which you both already share. Unless that is you want to go further, you see the whole "Im ready" thing is up to the female partner cuz males are "ready" when they first get the sprouts of ball hair loool.
Go out with him and have fun .Dont get pressured into stuff. Always make it clear want u want and dont want. Friendships go wrong when 1 person has the expectation of something and feels misled by the other. Good communication is the key
